I filled out a providers booking form about a week ago, got an auto response, then a bit later a email from her saying she'd reach out to my references and to let them know and she'd get back to me. havent heard anything from her since. I've responded to let her know my references were expecting her message, then today to touch base. It's still about 2 weeks until the requested date, but Im surprised i haven't gotten a confirmation that we're set, or that things won't work for whatever reason. I'm not going to spam her inbox, but I'm not really sure how to proceed, as it's getting to where I need to know one way or another. She's been active on social media, so not sure what to think.  she has good reviews and no alarm bells are going off so do want to give her a chance. thinking waiting a few days more before messaging again. at that point im torn between calling it off or asking if everything is ok?

is still two weeks away, its a little early to assume something negative, especially since you don't know where the holdup is coming from.  She may have done her part, but your references are slow to respond because they are busy.  Nothing is more irritating than for you to push her when she may have done HER part, but the delay is caused by your references not doing THEIR part in a timely manner.  If you are really that antsy this far out, I would suggest first asking your refs is they have responded to her request.  Your next step is dictated by the answer you get.  IMO, you never want to look desperate to a provider you haven't seen yet.

Just a general comment: When providing references, it's a good idea to contact that person in advance to make sure that they are available to do so. Some Providers have a time window for providing a reference: only if they saw you within the previous 6 months or 12 months. Some Providers need to be reminded of who you are so they don't tell the new Provider, "Who? I have no idea who that is." If you email or text the Provider you have seen before, jog her memory and make sure she will be able to provide the reference you want, i.e., favorable.  
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If you did NOT alert your references that New Provider will be contacting them for a reference, now could be a good time to contact them and ask if so-and-so has contacted them yet. Apologize for not giving them a heads-up about the reference request and maybe ask that they contact New Provider directly, on your behalf.

Sit tight for now. Give her 3-4 days since you have so much time to go. Hit her up softly then and just say "Hey are we still on for such and such date at such and such time? Cant wait to meet!"

...You filled out her booking form and she responded with an email.  Then you sent her two emails and she didn't respond to either of them.  Maybe she thinks she has plenty of time to respond because the requested date isn't for another two weeks, but she should realize that it's important to you to lock down the date.

She’s busy, or doesn’t care. Nothing wrong letting know if she’s not interested then ok, you will make other plans.

...an email saying:  "Since I haven't heard from you, I've made other plans.  I'll try you again when you're not as busy." (no I won't - for me it's one strike and you're out).   It's not surprising that after they get my cancellation email, only THEN do they respond trying to make the original date.

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back in the day when you were still seeing providers.  Sour grapes usually got a response.  How it just gets a laugh from the provider.  

but pestering her would probably just annoy her and, well, it's simply a bad look for the guy.

He CLEARLY said he told her his references were "expecting" her inquiry. Please keep up IMP and please quit advising people to do things they quite clearly have stated they have already done.

I have always found people are much more open to accepting and following the advice when I suggest they do what they already did.

The details obviously depend on the particular requirements of both Plan A and B, but even the most scrupulous plans can fall through.

...You can't fake whitelists like you can writing reviews for K-girls.  Stick to those cheap, bottom-feeding hookers who are one step away from being trafficked whores.  The woman who whitelisted me charges twice what your low-rent K-girls charge and she's never desperate enough to do BBFS like those infected K-girls do.  Stay in your lane bro - that's all you can afford.

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You reviewed her four years ago, and now you ask her for a whitelist and she gives you one. I can think of a dozen indie providers that I saw OVER five years ago that would whitelist me NOW if I revealed that I was CDL and asked them to.   Your claim about a new whitelist proves nothing.  Now, if you can get Carla to post on this board that she just saw you this year, and what a stud you were, THAT might be more convincing.  If you pay her enough, she just might do it, even for YOU.  Bwahahahahahahaha     (Oh, and I've seen Carla, so I know how much she charges.  She just can't figure out which one of her customers I am.  Lol)

What part of "...cheap, bottom-feeding hookers who are one step away from being trafficked whores" don't you understand?

So I got your number on the White List claim, don't I?  You had a provider from years ago put up a Whitelist for you so you could come on here and claim you can still get a boner, you're not back to being too obese for sex, and you somehow miraculously cured your fish breath.  I'm betting if I PM Carla, who corresponds with CDL often, she will confirm that your "new" whitelist is for a meeting from years ago, not a new appointment.  You do realize by trying this stunt, you have just PUBLICLY  confirmed everything I have been saying about you is true, right?  You are such a moron.

And she doesn't have the heart to tell you.  😋

Someone will post "I sent her a polite email" and the first response will be from some moron like IMP who will suggest to him  "Why don't you send her a polite email?"

I get that. I often wonder at myself at times about little things I could just ignore that just end up bugging the crap out of me that I have to do something about.

to go through all this, just for an appointment with a provider?  Clearly screening is good, for the provider and hobbyist as well.

I'm waiting until there's less than a week left before moving on, though I wont just blow her off. I dont need any drama.
Yeah, this thread has kinda become a dumpster fire, but it's sort of funny lol

...of my post - that I refuted the contention in your post that I tried hard to get screened to see K-girls.  Talk about distraction and deflection!!!  you ran away from your contention that I tried to see K-girls like the little bitch that you are.  I'll give you another chance:

i.e., impotent, morbidly obese and with dead fish breath, that you would be up to fuck a corpse if you thought you could get away with it.  Beggars can't be choosers, you know.  Just think, you could tie a splint to your dick to keep it straight, and she won't complain, you could sweat all over her all you want without her complaining, and your dead fish breath is not going to offend a woman with "dead-person" breath.  Sounds like a winner all the way around for you.  Or have you given up necrophilia for Lent?

"You are shaping up to look just like Once, who name-calls every time he has no substantive argument to anyone else's debate points.  Its pathetic how little ability you have to go toe to toe with the guys here on a debate.  Instead, you tuck you (sic) tale (sic) between your legs and start calling them names.  You should think about laying low until you can represent yourself better, lest you dig yourself into a hole from which there is no escape."

YOU challenged me first with "How do you explain my new whitelist?"  (You were soooo proud of yourself and your little hustle.)   Well, I explained it, then you launch into your Kgirl rant.  Now if you want to debate me, then you have to stay on topic.  However, you never mentioned the whitelist again, because I was right.  It was a scam.

...it just means you're a loser with no life, sitting around and having a circle jerk with the handful of other losers who were still here.

...for 4 1/2 years.  Neither of you know a damn thing about Harpman (and Beemer310) on the K-Girl board.  I was posting on the K-girl board when it began 7 years ago.  I don't know a damn thing about Harpman after he stopped posting on the board in 2015, including his involvement in the "League."  If you and CDL don't want to look like you're talking out of your asses, which your posts certainly make you do, you should educate yourselves and go back and read the interactions between Harpman and me to see what kind of relationship we had.  Here's a clue - he once posted that he would have his chauffeur/bodyguard beat me to death.

I'm from Seattle and I have first hand knowledge directly from mods, bookers, and kgirls about the "League." They're all assholes, plain and simple. They would have weekly meet ups at a restaurant and start talking, publicly and with families around, about the different kgirls they fucked that week. So yeah, anyone who is associated with the "League" are dumbfucks and anything they said is bullshit. And Harpman was talking crap... so funny he threatened you that his bodyguard would attack you. First off all, this is Seattle, not NYC. No one has a bodyguard here aside from athletes. The reason he posted here is because he knows if he posted on TRB that he would be called out for this bullshit.  

going to look like a bigger moron than you already do.  First of all who cares about YOUR interaction with Harpman. You are not a Kgirl customer, only a Kgirl board troll.  I wouldn't waste my time.  The only thing you and I will agree on is that he was a scumbag, but so are you.  Big deal.  Don't get wrapped up in your own alleged  self-importance.  

protest too much, methinks."        --W.S.

This is an easy one move on to the next one. If you did a provider this way you would be considered a time waster. I see so many providers that fell like they are entitled, we provide them with the trips the cars rent and everything else they have if they don’t have a regular 9-5. I had a provider tell me this:

If you have not contacted her a second time for the update, then you should contact her for the update. If she does not respond, find somebody else and forget about it. What I do when somebody else doesn't reply to confirm is, "I assume you are no longer interested since you have not responded; therefore, I have not confirmed the date and wish you well in your search for a perfect companion."

after a session, but then I realized it came from the bad breath of the provider who was sucking on them.  

Without a confirmation, the only thing pending is his "appointment request."