IMO you would have a lot more credibility in saying that if your fellow moderator wasn't one of the worst offenders. Maybe you should start there first.

It is my experience that the hateful group is a VERY loud minority.

Sadly they scare off the ones who are not so.

As the board becomes more hostile, and kind posters take flight, it acts  like a magnet to attract other hostile posters.

I echo your thoughts. The majority of the posters here, did seem to like this boards free flow and lack of censorship, when the topic came up last month, but yes sometimes things do get way out of hand. Some of the men here definitely seem like they hate women, and some of the women seem like they hate men, but then why would you go into this hobby, or this profession, if that is the case? For me, I love women. I love some more than others, and I willingly pay only certain types to have sex with them," but I love em all. (Well maybe not all, but most.) The bantor and trash talk here can be fun, but when things get out of hand, like the thread in question, it is just stupid. I was tempted so many times today, to post to that thread, and even had my fingers on the keyboard, but kept telling myself "stay away." I'm glad I did.
It must be interesting to see behind the curtain of aliases and see some people who are normally friends, get into some dumb heated argument.

Why are we here? Here is your quote from a month ago. Hopefully I have your permission to reprint it.  "Aren't we just here to have fun, chase skirts and talk shit?"

It's a common occurrence.  Maybe too much testosterone ?
I think the girls help tone it down with some lovin.

I thought there was a lot of hate here and had trouble separating the goofing around from the truly disturbed.  Stuck around because ???  But, yeah, the first impression this place gives has probably moved from "fun, sexy, erotic" to " angry, disturbed, fun, sexy"

Yeah dude, I also sense that vibe too. But, its like that everywhere you go. The GD isn't the only place where it takes place, I see it at my work place (because my work place is dominated by women, and they can be real bitches, I see why some men hate women), at the grocery store, other states, other countries (hell, its even worse in some countries), its everywhere dude. As you know, the world ain't perfect, it has never been perfect.

I see guys that personally have an agenda to hate girls in general, not exclusively to providers, but to the gender as a whole. The same scenario about girls too. I've studied some shit in college for girls that hate on guys, they were called extreme feminist. They'll do anything and everything to make it a difficult place for men.

When people hate, they have many deficiencies in their lives. This can either be personal, self esteem, feeling of belonging, financial, insecurity issues, their ego, and plenty of other reasons. This reminds me, about the theorist Maslow. It's called Maslow hierarchy of needs. There were 8 stages to it, and I'll use his theory to answer your question. It's basically looks like a food pyramid, at the bottom is what you need most, and at the top is what you need least.

So, to use his theory to hopefully answer your question. Why guys pay for sex even though they have such a high degree of hate towards women. Well, at the bottom of the pyramid, its the physical need. And, that need is what we need most. This can be water, food, and sex. So, guys need sex to survive. Move two stage up, its belonging and love needs. Some guys may lack these qualities when they were younger from their mom's, and they may not have a healthy relationship with them. So, some men grow up to hate women because of their unhealthy relationship with their mom's.

Fourth stage is self esteem. If your insecure about yourself, then you tend to hate others or in this case, a women because he may lack the proper tools to satisfy her. Other self esteem issues can be exemplified. There are four more stages, but I feel that this is turning into an essay. Hopefully, I used his theory to answer your questions as to being gender bias.

As for me, I like everyone, even people I dislike. I can tolerate them, but I don't hate them. When I see someone that hates me, I know that they are insecure about themselves and have deficiencies in their own lives, which cause them to hate. I already have everything I need in my life, personal, financial, friends, or whatever it may be. So, I show them compassion because they lack these qualities.

Let them be how they want to be, you can't censor everyone, its either give me liberty or give me death. Hopefully, they will see how shameful their behaviors are to make some adjustments BTW, I'm always here for entertainment purposes, that's what the GD board is here for

But that's just me talkin'. I'm a drunk and I don't know WTF.

First of all I think most of us are "good" people (relatively speaking) with "good" intentions towards one another.

I've never met a client who has come in calling me a bitter fat old bitch whore and I don't suspect that those who use that language to describe the "majority" of providers here use that language with women they spend time with.  I've never gone into attack bitchface mode with a client I've met or personally communicated just because it felt good to do so.  I love and respect my clients and clients in general, I think most clients really enjoy all of the possibilities with the ladies who make themselves readily available.

I think that we all speak in generalities on these boards and I think that the worst creeps in when we feel like people are disrespecting us for what we are, be it a client or a provider.

I appreciate this post and thread but you can't unring a bell.  The aliases and trash talking and anger explosions have been promoted in the name of free speech for so long...you can't expect the unreasonable to be reasonable because you've realized that respectful discourse isn't such a bad idea.

I have been around for going on 7 years.  A long time lurker.  I was tied up in strip clubs and amps not wanting to cross that line of actually seeing a hooker.  Ya I am a dumb ass.  I am also a person.  I have been ridiculed for spelling, grammer, my taste in women, my writing style,  my drunkeness(hell one night MP67 was on the boards and told me to call him so i did and laughed my ass off till I passed out drunk),  Had a talk with thewildthing one morning what a sport she is.  I have even had a moderator tell me I am a lying piece of shit that all my reviews are made up so I can get free Vip. Why am I here?  good question. I know I was fully involved in the train wreck yesterday but my point was simple, a good review with a lot of maya culpa?  from the op and a provider goes off.  You are right I do not know the whole story but from what I saw a blacklist was not needed.  I am here to watch and learn but not bow down.  I have not and will not use an alias.  I will jab every now and then in humor or to try to stop stupid, like a couple weeks ago when someone posted a rate of return type post of 300 or 1500 per hour what would you go with.  We could all use a dose of humility now and again.  Lp And GG have been helpful to me in the past and I have noyhing but respect for them.  People here are just like everywhere the will always be asses, bitches, dickheads, and them that think they are better than.  I see it from both the men and the women.  Ya sometimes it is not fun, others it is just down right fucked up but sometimes I still fall off the bar stool laughing about something.

Please release him and send him back safe and sound.  Why are you making him put up these transparently fake posts?  Please, just release him, no questions asked.
Oh, and on the off-chance I'm wrong, a note to LP: LOL, but I think you're suffering from burnout.  Not surprising, really.  I suggest we set up a collection to get you laid.  How does the Nogales Donkey Show sound?  The TER zeppelin is hovering for you as I write this.
Keep on truckin', dude.

I'm on the West coast. The reason I mention this is, in the ensuing time since this thread, there is just such a sad and hateful thread posted a few posts above now.

When I first started to seriously consider posting to this board, and began reading some of the stuff that guys post, I realized how easy it would be to get eaten alive. Now I see that if I am careful in how I communicate I can participate without too much drama sticking to my ass.

This board operates on so many different levels. It ebbs and flows from kind, supportive, informative, appreciative...to death by hyenas.

AS A NEWBIE poster, and this is important if you want to encourage new blood, this place can seem like a worthless waste of time, not to mention mean-spirited. So I applaud you opening up the floor for discussion on the topic, Phil. If it was me, I would consider banning all aliases, but I'm sure there are lots of reasons that won't work at this point.

Bottom line: Any forum on the internet has it's participants just waiting to prove that the world is a shitty place. I do not need to respond to them, that's the beauty of a forum.

The internet is a nice place to visit, but a weird place to live.

I took a couple of weeks off from making any comments because it really bothered me all the negativity that I saw from alot of the men. All the name calling that some of the men were doing really made me wonder why they paid for it in the first place?????

I don't hate any of the men I see. I am eager to meet someone new all the time. It is the human condition that is so exhilarating for me.

Respect seems to have been lost....it doesn't matter who you are in this world, or what you do as a living...we are all human beings...we all deserve respect...karma baby....

the difficulty is that some take having fun too far.

i disagree with the idea of banning aliases entirely, sometimes they can be funny. sometimes it is amusing to vent a bit with some alias whether or not you have an idea who it is.

i do think that when the post is nothing but mean and an attack that _occasionally_ flipping one of those might be a good idea. let it be at the mods's discretion.

in the real world if you mess with someone there might be consequences. i think that folks feel freer to vent their ill feelings here because there aren't any consequences.

When you have a bunch of kids having tantrums, you don't worry about their free speech rights.

You first get them under control.  Just ask a parent or a teacher.  

This problem is solvable, but you don't like the solution.  There's no Constitutional right to post here.  TER has clearly stated rules that a small, but vocal, minority routinely ignore.  If you're not willing to take on that group, then yes, the tone of the board becomes your fault.  Right now, that group has set the standard for the board, not the moderators.  

Some of the people that routinely violate the rules of the site need to lose the right to post until they learn how to behave like adults.  Their absence would not be a loss because they post nothing of value.  If they want to continue to participate, they'll have to learn to play nicely with others, or eventually be banned from posting.

I post on 3 or 4 other enthusiast sites of different subjects and this is the only site where anything close to this situation exists.  The moderators of these other sites simply wouldn't tolerate what goes on here.

We always have choices and those choices have repercussions.  Sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted to hear.