I have them and I am sure other providers do as well.  What makes them my atf?  Chemistry and that insaiable appetite to go that extra mile sensually!  Mine are not clock watcher!!

What are some other providers ingredients on their ATF's consist of?

-They are sincere in their praise and compliments and sparing in their endearments.
-They realize that a limit is MINE and therefore mine to remove if I see fit.
-They DON'T ask me about my "work" day!
-They realize I am not as crazy as I seem.  And value the crazy that I am!

Rebecca

So how do you discern "sincere compliments" from "buttering up". and, btw, why would anyone ever need to "try to get their way" with an escort? Are there things to be had besides the obvious, which while you retain the right to decline, is almost an absolute certainty?

And...how exactly would you like me to phrase my flatter going forward so that it falls under the "sincere" umbrella, versus in the butter vat? Because I mean, honest...you and that dress might be worth the price of admission (oh wait...I bet you think that is a bit heavy handed, don't you? Into the butter vat with that one....lol)

Sincerity is communicated more by the right moment than by the words. I think very beautiful women may have more difficulty accepting a compliment, because they hear them all the time from all sorts of people who are trying to sleep with them.

Guys don't always process "the sure thing" in the depths of their minds. An insincere guy is receiving instructions from his penis to issue compliments at random, in a desperate effort to get laid. It's a habit for the habitrail set; chasing after the cheese.

while a simple emphasis of the obvious can be construed as buttering up.

I have recently complimented a lady that she has a beautiful smile like Julia Roberts.  She was skeptical until I explained and reenacted the lip movements in her smile.

Are my all time favorites because they are as turned on by my intellect as they are my senuality.  While some may say I am to chatty they instead find me witty and charming in my choices of subject matter.  Because I get as much if not more out of the encounter as they do sexually, socially and emotionally.  Because they are in their early 50's and for some reason I just click with that age and mentality in a way I cannot with a 30 year old.  And last but not least because they are chivalrous and I find that to be the sexiest thing in a man and so very rare these days.  Yum.  Now where ore those gents when I need them?  ( Home with their wives )  LOL!

I suppose it might conceivably feed into fantasies based on the film "Pretty Woman."  Whether that would be a good thing or not, I leave to those who have seen that film to determine.  I have seen several of her other films, however, and have a very low opinion of her abilities as an actress.  Since acting is such a large part of escorting, I would think that the comparison would be unflattering.

the emphasis in the posts on whether a compliment is sincere, or on the difference between a "compliment" and an "endearment," struck me as strange. if i were a lady, i would probably include in *my* client atf criteria things like:
- is a regular weekly customer
- doesn't see other providers or "hobby around"
- talks to me like a person instead of an object
- shows me nonsexual affection
... whatever.

i think what we clients don't fully appreciate is that everything we say or do is seen by the lady against a background of 10 to 50 other guys a week who pretty much say or do the same thing; it's all noise to the person who hears it over and over. (i wonder if even riker's "timing" overcomes that problem.)

but i don't get the emphasis on words, instead of facts that could help the lady maintain a regular income, health and safety, peace of mind, and a sense of personal worth. even if you have a nice ass, and i'm sincere in praising your nice ass, is that and flowers -- and my never saying the words "i love you" -- all you're looking for?

do acknowledge as others have that Julia Roberts has a very sunny and cheerful smile (not the laugh as displayed in her Oscar winning night, just the smile) that lights up and warms one's heart.  I actually prefer Laura Linney’s look and performance in “You can count on me” as I have noticed that Julia Roberts uses the same look of indignation to gain sympathy and pass along as serious acting in most of her films.

This has nothing to do with "Pretty Woman" nor was I trying to project myself as a debonair or big shot which I am definitely not.  It is just that the lady I saw has a similar smile.  I am sure that she has been complimented before of her beautiful and cheering smile.  It is just that it is the first time anyone has mentioned that to her and it lent credence to the sincerity of my compliment.

But mostly it boils down to reality.

First off just because a man comes to visit me weekly... well I have qualified as HIS regular but... If he does so and it is because I cater to his kink or whatever... or he does so and is attempting to "Butter me up" or is constantly pouring on the "You're wonderful" cow eyes etc... That gets irratating. VERY irratating.  This, as each of your possible reasons points out, is a business.  To have someone trying to get you to "love them just a little..." is crossing a line most of us at base need and many of WANT to keep in place to be able to do this.

As for not hobbying around...  This is only MHO on the subject, but... how many of you gents have wifes at home.  What kind of fool would I be to think that you COULD stick to one woman, let alone WOULD do so... At best you might for a few months.  And that is OK!  I at least expect that... if I wanted a boyfriend... Well I certainly wouldn't look within my work.

Sincere words... be they compliments or endearments are "in the moment" things.  My ATF is just that because he isn't trying to cross a boundry necessary for both of us to continue.  

There was one thing I left off my list  
-They don't assume that just because I work in this industry I always want to discuss SEX.  They realize that like the masses... I may want some time away from work now and again.

Rebecca

You seem to be suuuuuuch a cynic!

Relax!

Personally I will say that in terms of "not hobbying around," I could care less. I am not the jealous type to begin with and I also well understand the fact that many many gents in this hobby enjoy the variety of women offered to them. It doesn't mean they enjoy ME less.

I also don't know how I would feel about an ongoing thing every week... that gets to be too much like a relationship in my mind... at least I've had a bunch of guys I saw *too much* fall for me, which opens up tons of complications and is just an unpleasant situation all around for everyone.

My ATF's are those who always arrive squeaky clean, on time (at least most of the time), who are kind and considerate and courteous, and who are in general a pleasure for me to spend time with. That's it *shrugs* I'm easy!

But you KNEW that, didn't you???

Hugs*
Nicole

really, i'm not a cynic ... i just start there and see if i can bid higher.

nicole, you actually demonstrate my point -- you want 'em clean, prompt, courteous and amusing. you don't say they have to talk a certain way (unless that's what "general pleasure" means).

you know us guys, most of us can't express our feelings at all, and the rest of us are pretty poor at it. it's so relaxing when you cut us some slack on that issue.

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