I maintain a strict policy of "blow me off, done;" that is, if a provider blows me off without explanation after an appointment is confirmed I'm done forever.  Case in point, I made an appointment with a Chicago provider and even followed up a few days before to change it from one hour to two when some extra time freed up in my schedule, and she confirmed she could do the two hours.  Day before, e-mailed to confirm - nothing.  Again day of - nothing.  In fact never heard a peep out of her.  This is similar to a recent thread but different in that I really want to hear specifically from those who gave a provider a second chance after something like this and how did it go?  Though I'd love to (she's very hot with great reviews) I'm pretty sure I'm not going to try again to see this girl because I don't think I'd be in a good frame of mind to enjoy the appointment after being blown off like that...and really why the fuck should I with so many other wonderful providers to see...but I am curious what others have experienced in this regard.

Yes, we are the customer.

After seeing a provider through her agency 3 times she gave me her cell number and email so I could book with her directly. A win, win in theory, not so much in real life.  

The three times the agency set her the appointment and the sessions went off with her only being 10 min. late at most. Our sessions always went over time as she would spend most of the time drinking wine and playing videos and never charged me for the extra time. Cool she seemed thankful for the company and it sounded like funl. She would even text her booker telling him I left after 1 hour and 15 min! while I was there for 3 hours.

I accepted her offer to go off the books because she made me feel special. In hindsight it was a terrible idea to go around her agency. On her own I found her to be frustrating to deal with. She would respond to my texts, but would have to give her agency an excuse (usually doctor appointment) and then spend most of the session bitching about the shit her boss gave her about going to the doctor during business hours. I do not think that I was her only client she took private.  

I felt guilty about going around her boss who has always treated me fairly.  

She was LATE to every appointment. Sometimes by around 45min! I would have to sit in her parking lot waiting for her to be ready. This girl LOVES wine and any savings I might have realized was spent because she always asked me to go to the store across the parking lot to pick up Pinot Grigio and juice. I am not cheap, but come on, it wasn't like she wasn't drunk enough already when I got there.  

She was always more than just buzzed  talked and played videos for like the first 45min. Only it was the same video, over and over 18 times,  no kidding, I counted. We only got down to business after I picked her up and took her into her bedroom. Completely different than  when I saw her through the agency. Don't get me wrong she is a great fuck, with a hot body, and very creative with spitting wine on my Pee pee and licking it off. or covering my asshole in whipped cream and going to town.

She likes to do the camel slide, which I know is dangerous but enjoy. I only freaked because the last time we got together she slipped it in bare back. when i withdrew, she said it was in already in so we might as well continue. no thank you. Great choice on my part as when we were finished she complained of a persistent Urinary tract infection. I did go for 2 different STd tests. I am clean. Only later did I read her description on her agency's web site which is accurate calling her an Ultimate Girlfriend Experience. So I think BB is not unusual.  

So good for you. If she is late, it's poor behavior. No pussy is that magic.

 
I got to hear TMI about her life. Her boyfriend and the problems they were having, her complaints about living in this country, our shitty legal system and how shitty and hard it was to go downstairs to do her laundry. AAARRGH.

After all those annoyances, I would describe her as more of a Ultimate Wife Experience vs Ultimate girlfriend experience.  

So yeah, no more. Call I will call the agency, make an appointment to see another girl and let the booker deal with all the problems

Just be happy you have Thumbs

while I feel your angst...might I remind you that '16' is illegal in any business lol. Perhaps ChuckECheese would be a more apropo place for you two to meet next time. But who would supply the tokens, you I take it.......

And perhaps you should look up the word 'professional' in the dictionary.  

I am sorry, I simply couldn't resist on this beautiful Sat morning...did anyone see the sunrise?

As a general rule, I agree with you.  But every situation is different, so I'm willing to bend my rules depending on who the lady is, what my relationship with her is like and, of course, how hot she is. Major hotties will get slack from me if they have rocked my world lately.  My only rule is, hot pussy trumps any other rule I can think of.

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A few weeks ago I experienced a NCNS. I had the cross streets but she was supposed to email the address in the morning for a 1 pm appt. My time came and went without hearing from her. Luckily I was at work instead of standing on the street. Later in the day she emailed with an apology and an excuse although there is no excuse for not at least emailing me and saying she can't make it. I saw her later that day after work and every thing went well. I am a repeat customer. Shit happens.

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Maybe give her a couple of days to reach out to you, though. Perhaps she had an emergency.

I do the same. Plenty of fish in the sea.

Last thing you want to deal with is hooker with an attitude.

Yes, a "rule of thumb" by definition means one that's flexible.  But in his case, the way he went on to describe it made it seem iron-clad.  Hence my response.

and it will get you every where and keep you out of trouble.  

If you are willing bend rules depending then, you have no rules. It is myth in your mind.

You wouldn’t know anything about that

just like flexible rules and willingness to bend rules depending.

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shit happens for sure but this was over 2 weeks ago, and unlike what cspatz experienced no apology offered.  Frankly I'd forgotten about it, ran across her name last night and that's what prompted the post, I really wasn't even considering contacting her but I thought it might make interesting discussion fodder.

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OK, you're right, subject and text don't really agree!  Damn, one must tread carefully out here!  I was going to post in a broader sense about being blown off but decided to narrow it to only after an appointment is set and confirmed.  I'm pretty easy going and flexible to that point but once we're set up there should be communication if there is a need to cancel, or at least an apology afterward.  I don't think it's unreasonable to be "iron clad" about that.

can be slightly amended based on the "hotness" and "reviews" of the provider.  However, when it comes to a NCNS, especially with a first session, I'm not into giving second chances.  

My thread is on FL board, Nov 26, 'bad day today'.  Actually got canceled twice by her.  First time, she texted me when I was over half way there saying she started her period.  OK, reasonable enough, so I asked to reschedule for the following week.  This time I got all the way to where she told me to go.  Called and texted her for address, which was spsd to be near where I was, and got no response.  Waited about half an hour, tried again, same result, so I went home.

Needless to say, I will never see her, and neither will numerous others who PM'd me for her name.  Her loss.  All I lost was some time and gas money.  She's losing a bunch of potential income.  Strange thing is, she got a decent review some time earlier this month.

Swim

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And the above posts make it clear that I'm not the only one who finds your "writings" violate common sense and the English language.  Please go away and take the ESL course.

Not really trying to play "gotcha" here.  Mainly, it's about rules that can sometimes be inflexible.  In your case, I agree it's best to not try to see her again.

Fuck that. Plenty of time to offer an explanation. So unless you said something in your correspondence that would have made her uncomfortable (which is unlikely, from what I gather), then it's on her.  

AF's problem lies behind language... This fucker could have Winston Churchill's grasp of English and his posts would still be gibberish: boiling insanity cannot be expressed in words.

I hear from her with an apology and a very good reason. Yes, sometimes shit happens.

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I've never cancelled an appointment, (or been late, but that's just my work ethic), but I wouldn't dream of just bailing on a guy who has plenty of other options and has decided to spend time with me. It's bad business and bad manners. I don't give second chances to clients who NCNS so I would expect the same treatment, regardless of what happened, unless, you know, someone died or something.

...I had a girl blow me off.  But, she did eventually reach out and apologized/explained.  I gave her another appointment (dude...she's freaking hot...I couldn't resist).  

She really made it up to me during that next session.  Probably the best sex of my life to this point.  She eventually went all BSC on me.  But, at the time...she seemed sincere so I gave her the second chance and I don't regret it.  I kept it all in perspective even though that make-up session was way over the top relative to our previous sessions.  

So...don't blame you for having that rule of thumb.  I never would have initiated that make-up session which is probably in line with your ROT.  But, since she did....I had no issue with it.  Now...if she started doing that habitually...I'd probably stop responding to her as I'm not very patient with the runaround.  I'm not that desperate for anyone

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They fucking bitch, all the time, about "their time" being precious to them. Well guess what? So the fuck is ours. I like to plan meetings properly also.

Every single person's time is valuable,  no matter how you cut it.   You can always make up for lost money, but you sure cannot make up for lost time.  

My preference is to stick with a provider if we hit it off.  It makes things so much better in my opinion.  
I had one that after 5-6 sessions she did a last minute cancel, which was ok because "life happens".  When it came to the next session, which would have been the make-up one, she was NCNS, no response to calls or texts.   Which sucked, because I liked her, and 6' tall, hot, mature, GFE's that can do LMT massages are a little hard to find in Phoenix.  
Three weeks later I got the "hey, it's been a while, want to come and see me?" (aka I need your money today).   The response/reason I received to "nope, moved on after your NCNS" was "my phone broke."
Full time provider with a broken phone for three weeks.  Sure.

Life is too fucking short to go through the brain damage of dealing with flaky, disrespectful people in any business.  And at the end of the day all of this is still a service business transaction where everybody's professional reputation counts.

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Taylor,  
Yes it was a softball; no apologies necessary. I do however take umbrage at your covert reference to an underage child. I am sure that was not your intention, and I get your comparison.  
There isn't going to be a next time. I refuse to be put through the brain damage. Unfortunately her behavior was less of a teenager and more of a person with decompensating mental abilities, more than likely do to prolonged alcohol/drug use. She had a spontaneous nose bleed during our last session. Keeps getting better, no?  

My largest regret is not thinking about my relationship with her agency which I have used for many years, and still do. But this was poor behavior on my part. When I was offered to go direct, she assured me she has taken about 10 clients "private" and it sounded like fun. Not.  

I absolutely agree with you on professionalism. And while it is expensive, it is well worth it to get me through these long, cold, midwestern nights and I don't need to hear all her problems.  

The crazy part in this is her very, very high (pun intended) reviews. Her agency offers a discount to writing members of TER. A little digging shows that her reviewers have only 1, her, reviews. I now only pay attention to a woman's reviews that are authored by seasoned mongers.  

Please all, I am not interested in getting into a safety of BB debate. People can do as they please, it isn't for me. I will admit to having a difficult time resisting a bit of the Camel Slide despite it's obvious risks.  

I think I covered (yes pun intended) my unfortunate experience and have taken responsibility for my part in it.

In my years of hobbying, only once have I had to cancel at the last minute do to a literal emergency my partner on call couldn't handle. I did offer to pay for my missed appointment the next time I booked with the agency and they politely declined.  

Have a safe New Years Holiday to all.  
not a player  

She didn't send me the location.  I tried contacting her, no answer.  Since the appointment was to be 1:00...  I had to wait on her message which never came.  So wasted a prime opportunity on her.  She never contacted me.  She continues to get good reviews in a nearby city.  I would not see her even if it was free.  I would not risk an opportunity on her.  

I am offended by her attitude.  A simple "Plans changed."  would have sufficed.  I would have had the option of calling someone else had she done so.  At least I could have tried.