I can't remember the last time I saw a lady who was not a P411 member. I usually send a polite PM there and ask if membership is sufficient, and if not, what they need and I'll get it sent in ASAP. I've never been asked for additional screening info beyond references and even that is pretty rare.

Yes, p411 is great .  
I like it and I can reach out to the ladies if needed.

It's the one aspect where I lagged. But for some reason, (only to me) I don't send. I know it's bad form and I've had a few ladies turn me down so I guess I'm my own worse enemy. I canceled my P411 acct so that didn't help. ...Whoa is me.
But my intro's are pretty cool and sometimes that gets me through the door....So you could say that I'm "Lucky".
So, tab me as "That Client".
Just remembered, there's this site. a sorta blacklist site where the ladies discuss clients, and under my name/number there's a "Does Not Screen".....you girls...lol

My TER handle, ages, maybe a reference or two...sure.

If she also wanted real name-type info I'd probably decline. If she had some exceptional quality that I just couldn't resist, I'd send more personal info if she first confirmed the date and time was available, ie booked the date pending verification.

 
The thing is, there are enough providers out there that I've met and had a good time with. Sometimes a new provider might pique my curiosity, but I don't feel the need to bend over backwards.

I send my TER handle, my Whitelists, a description of myself, and the date and time range I’d like to see her. In 90% of cases that’s been enough. Occasionally I’ll get asked a few questions, and I’m happy to respond.

...So I am careful not to include too many specific data points about me, or to mention anything explicit about a requested meeting.  If I se she's on a system I use (TER, P411, etc.) I will generally reference my user ID from that system.   If she has a formal screening form, I'll use that and fill in all the info I'm comfortable providing. After that form is submitted I will message and refer to the form that I sent.  

 
In addition, I use full sentences, good grammar and spelling, and stay polite. And I always reference preferred day & time, with a backup and my preferred return contact info.   If I get asked for additional info in her reply, I try to send a quick reply with the requested info.  Once she has accepted my request, we can share more specifics, including locations, arrival instructions, and I'll ask to verify if her rates (per a SPECIFIC ad) are current if she hasn't already provided a rate.  

 
I've had very good responses this way. And when I did not get a good (or any) response, 99% of the time I find out later that the provider was a bad actor in the system.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

If she isn't available when I am, then I wouldn't send that info in the first email, but if we were a good match day and time wise, I would immediately follow up with all the info she requests in the second email.

in a customer, i.e., I have a great sense of humor.  When I read you want my work email address, I laughed my ass off.  Good one, I'm sure I'm  not the only one that thought that was hilarious.  

With the sheer amount of "hey bby, u avail?" emails and texts providers have to wade through, crafting a short and sweet introduction with complete sentences can set you WILDLY above the very low-low bar some of your client counterparts have set and will a great first impression!  -- At this stage, a carefully crafted email gets us excited to start the dance with you. Your first contact sets the tone.  
 
Three emails back and forth from first contact to booking confirmation is the ideal scenario.

Any more than that, the provider may begin to get the impression that you aren't serious and she may disengage and move on. As long as you are being decisive in what you want and front-load your screening information in the first few emails, the process should be a breeze. Believe me -- we want to streamline booking just as much as you do! It shouldn't be a headache for either party lol.

In addition to a brief "bio" about myself I always make a point to mention how I came across her ad or website and to sincerely compliment her presentation. A well expressed intro combined with SPOTLESS grammar and punctuation--(NOTHING will turn off a prospective provider more than a sloppy first communication) and solid references will get things in motion 99% of the time. The timeless adage about first impressions is 100% true in this scenario!!

As soon as we log into TER we enter a fantasy world.  There are people who express their point to both extremes.  This is after all, an online medium and being detached from reality, makes it simple for some, providers AND hobbyists, to embellish.

 
More specifically am referring to screening extremes and cost of services.  While the most intense screening and the most expensive prices are probably reality for some, providers will not admit as much, as with any business providers want the biggest profit margins they can garner.  Some hobbyists who frequent TER discussion boards choose to bolster their online persona so they won't do anything to rock the boat--at least to any extremes, in either of these cases.

 
Any experienced, decent, and fair minded hobbyist, who has been doing this for a while and has done a ton of research, may not be inclined to honestly articulate it here, but will admit inwardly to themselves, that one need not spend $500, $400, or even $300 an hour to find (BEYOND)  amazing ladies in their locales.  They will also inwardly admit, that the extremes some providers advocate when it comes to screening is the true exception rather than the norm.

 
I get it and I judge no one, but as far as price and the extent a hobbyist is willing to reveal personal information about himself is concerned, many choose to embellish and go with the flow, to maintain their TER persona.  As stated in my subject line, this of course is all, IMHO.

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