I have not not been mongering  for three years because of covid . So I lost all references. How do I offer comfort to providers without giving out my real name, social media account etc. I am prepared to pay for the full session upfront before  the appointment date. But this rise to another difficulty, how do I pay someone anonymously. I have no crypto account. Actually  I have once put cash in an envelope and leave it at the front desk of the hotel day before the appointment.

 Along the same line, if I am prepare to tell providers my real time, would they be giving me their real name. This should be a two way street, shouldn’t it.  In all these years of mongering, there are less than a handful of providers whom I can say I really know them.

Buy it with cash and send it by an encrypted email service. You have to get the ladies ok on what she does, and doesnt accept. Many only want the deposit by that method and want the balance in cash in person.
And no, it is certainly not customary for them to provide you with their real name. That may or may not happen if you really get to know them, over many dates, but certainly don't expect it as it may never happen. Personally, I never ever ask. If they want to tell me, and some have, thats fine, but I dont need it. Even then, I dont know for sure if they really are giving me their real name.
It may not be fair, but life isnt fair. If I were a SW, I would never give a client my real name. Way too much downside for them. But you can also find women who dont require that info from you, but it seems like more and more now demand that info for without it, they can place themselves in more jeopardy and in more ways than one.

I have given clients my real name. Wire transfer, and direct deposits to my bank require real life information. Find a provider who fits your needs. I’m here to make friends for life & memories to last a lifetime. We’re all not here for the same desires. Some people book vagina & others secure a date with no hiccups by providing a deposit to book a companion. Do you.

If I have not seen a friend in 3 years it is unethical to vouch for someone because people change. Suppling a gift card for a person vouch, and the provider giving a positive reference without ever meeting you recently is not right. Recent is within the last 3-6 months. This is why I have never required references. I would never trust anyone who I do not know personally. Real life information is required for our safety. I screen for chemistry + my safety.  

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I am an open provider, so I have no issues with giving out my real name, but many providers are not. Every provider is different.  At this time I am still accepting P411 in lieu of other screening info, but again, that is me, some gals will still require extra screening info. Some gals do not require any screening or a deposit. A word of caution: some that do not ask for any screening info or a deposit can be a red flag. These can be scammers OR could be a LE string. I would also be very cautious of advertising that you are willing to pay up front in cash. I can unfortunately see some gals taking advantage of this as just free money and not providing any service.  I have also had guys say they will pay me extra if I will forgo my screening. Short answer: no. This is of course my job and of course I want to get paid (I have bills like everyone else!!! lol) but I am not going to risk my safety or peace of mind for extra $$. Just not worth it in my book. You *may* find a reputable that will work with you with your concerns, but please proceed with caution and do your research on the provider before making a final decision. Best of luck!

Thanks everyone for the advice. My general thought if if I give someone my RL info, it is only  fair that he/she give me the same. It is fair to not to give reference for someone one has not seen for three years as people change. A provider can be private and discreet when I gave her the information, she may change too and use the information for other purpose.

Get screened by P411. Then search P411 for the escorts near you. Find one that accepts “Basic” membership. There are many. Cross reference providers on TER for reviews and then send a booking request through P411. Once you complete the session ask for an OK. Again through P411. Now your membership will be listed as “Basic + 1”. That fist ok will open up a lot of doors. Get a few more oks and even more doors will open for you.  

I’ve been out of the hobby for three years as well and just came back this year. This is how I did it.  

Lastly forget about getting a provider’s personal information. It’s not happening. Just because you think it’s a two-way street doesn’t make it so. Frankly it’s creepy.

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...up front.  In this case, the lady was in a hotel with a busy restaurant nearby.  She was aware of me via my reviews and activity on this platform.  I booked for 90 minutes and set it up like this;

I told her I'd be wearing specific clothing and sitting at a table but facing the bar.  She could join me at our table or walk away after seeing me.  The downside for me was I wouldn't know if she was a no-show or passed.  She arrived and chose to sit down.  I had previously asked for 2 menus and had the donation in a card under her menu, which she was aware of in advance.  Upon seating, she had view of my DL and I handed her my phone as though I was showing her a funny meme.  She briefly looked at it and slid it back to me and was satisfied with what she saw.  She told me her room # and played like she got a phone call and had to run and promptly left.  

When the server came, I informed her my guest had an emergency and had to go.  I left a nice tip and headed out.  I then had a great 60 minute session.  

This allowed her to pass immediately before I saw her if her instinct was telling her to pass.  After she met me and was ok with me as a client, she still could have sent me on a wild goose chase for an unoccupied room and simply kept the donation.   This was the extent of my risk, the donation.  She was able to get a satisfactory read on my within a few minutes.  If needed, she could have reviewed my social media if more info was required but it was not.  It may have been an inconvenience for her to leave the property for a few minutes, but she did stop at a convenience store on the way so she was able to run an errand that she likely would have anyhow.  She was compensated for this time as I only stayed for an hour.  Win/Win situation baby!!

A Leap of Faith.  Glad it all worked out, but I can't imagine myself ever doing this with a lady I had not seen before. Years ago, when I was new to P4P, I had given deposits for sessions of more than 4 hours (mostly overnights), never for anything less, and I never prepaid the entire session. Nobody can say you don't have a pair.  Lol

but I'd rather do that 10x in a row and lose every penny than give my PII to a provider and have to worry about her boyfriend/pimp/scheduler/roommate et al finding the info and using it against me for a couple years or the rest of my life....OR for a "reputable" provider to decide one day she's done doing tricks and has nothing to lose so she starts to cash in on dozens or hundreds of potential annuities.  

Losing $300-$500 on a bad bet is fucking NOTHING compared to the unlimited liability of having a pro (pimp, handler etal) decide it's time for a client to pay or else.

That's another good reason mongers should not give out their personal information. That includes using your real phone number for communication, which can easily be looked up in a Google search. Burner phones like Tracphone are cheap and well worth the hassle of setting up. Protect yourself my friends. Never lose your head over a piece of tail. Stay safe. Have fun. Use your head.