I'm not sure how picky providers are about their clients. But I am sure the clients are not all treated equally.  Some interactions are more friendly, and others are more distant. How do I know if a provider actually enjoys my company versus just doing it for the money?  Do I score more points if I'm good looking, fit, and younger? Do providers let their guards down more if I am more polite, cleaner, and better dressed?  I need some advise please.  I want my providers to enjoy their experience with me because they don't deserve to be with dirty perverts all the time.

Providers are not an alian life form. They appreciate chivalres, polite, honest men with a good sense of humor just like anyone else does. Being good looking and fit always makes a good impression but it is not a prerequisite for winning a providers favor.
  Just scrub yourself squeeky clean and wear your best demeanor and the providers will always look forward to your call.

I am more polite, cleaner,
this is what makes the difference, polite " treat other as you want to be treated" rule of life....

as for cleaner ........yes this does make a huge difference. I always bathe before a date, even if I did nothing most of the day I take another shower because I think you can never be too clean. This goes for both men & women..........

I have all my partners shower and explain that they only need to wash ( with soap) the areas that they want kisses & licked.

Good luck to you............
kisses & licks...
mara of san diego

The most impolite action you can take is not to pay her.  All other faux paus will be overlooked if you brought enough dead presidents along.

This is not a date.  While she may be happier if you do this or that, when you are paying $4 a minute for her time, she must be willing to cheerfully overlook your innumerable flaws.

Some people click and some don't. Check the boards and do your home work. Guys will tell you if they think she was just there for the money or there for the company. have fun. Be-Good-I-try-to   sassy

In my opinion, It's important to establish prior to your encounter what you would like to achieve for yourself, for your provider and the time you are both together. Communicate your expectations! not all providers have espn.....myself included!
Seriously, be yourself, be clean is always good too and communicate. Once you have found a provider that you feel comfortable with I'm sure you will enjoy yourself immensely. Peace.

What, are you engaging in some profound foreign policy goal here? This is a business transaction and not a date, although the better providers will make it seem as such. You aren't looking for a girlfriend here, now are you? Be polite, clean and fun and I am certain that the vast majority of the women here will be quite content spending their time with you and they will have fun also. Oh yeah, don't forget to bring your wallet.

Remember the Iran/Contra cash for guns deal? Well here it is a cash for kitty arrangement.

Hummmm, dirty, perverts. Never thought of myself quite that way but .......................

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I understand if someone is new to the board or has not had answers to his questions. Again, as long as you are clean as a whistle, polite and don't make us feel like hookers, then we like you. Anyone with common sense knows that good-looking men are a turn-on to some.  However, in our business, we like anyone who treats us right and is clean.

Now, on to your real question, which I appreciate:

Do we like romance?  Of course. It's always helpful to feel like you're on a date instead of an appointment. Some providers, especially some of the young ladies, have mentioned that they like a quicker encounter so they can return to their college homework, etc. Can you blame them?  However, I cannot speak for all younger providers.  All of us like to be treated nicely. Who wouldn't? I know I enjoy having a glass of red wine and chatting a bit beforehand. It takes the stress off both of us (especially when you are a new client) and helps engagement in intimacy.  There are times when we get attacked the minute we walk in the door. That's a little scarey if a client is new. We want to see you get comfortable first so we feel comfortable about who you are. Wink!  

I hope this helps you dear friend.

Hugs,
Ciara

I'm not sure how picky providers are about their clients.
--not very-consider it potluck

But I am sure the clients are not all treated equally.  
--pot luck


Some interactions are more friendly, and others are more distant.
--YMMV

How do I know if a provider actually enjoys my company versus just doing it for the money?  
--You don't!

Do I score more points if I'm good looking, fit, and younger? Do providers let their guards down more if I am more polite, cleaner, and better dressed?  
--what do you think...these are obvious questions.  But good providers are professionals.

I need some advise please.  I want my providers to enjoy their experience with me because they don't deserve to be with dirty perverts all the time.
--if you are not a pervert (well not a disgusting one), if you are clean, nice, polite, then it will be passable to outstanding.  In this regard, TER reviews are essential for guidance!

Hope this helps!~

In addition to the wise counsel above, try these two suggestions:

1) Always choose a provider who is ranked in the top 10-20% for performance (she will be predisposed to enjoying your company.)

2) Let her know how much you are enjoying yourself (even the best of the best need positive feedback from time to time.)

jackvance and G2 said it best in unrelated threads. All the above answers are very good also.

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http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=1&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&SearchType=1&Author=G2&DayFrom=3000&DayTo=0&FindPage=16&Submit=Submit&MessageID=15596

True!  I get nervous too and worry about YOU having a good time.  Feedback helps me relax.

NO, and the fact that you think so says to me "Wow giant ego, little head" or "I'm a pretty boy, you should be paying me". Personally I prefer  old, fat, bald and a great personality with a sense of humor. For me that goes much further than a pretty boy with a giant EGO. Clean is always good too. And a bikini wax, yes for you.

(as if you'll be able to do this after all this advice)...

Relax.  Be yourself.  Have fun.  Don't try to "impress" -- it'll show.

Remember that she is a free entity and respect this.  Yes, all clients are not treated equally.  Don't be obsessed with or resent it.  You have favorites, too.  The way she arrived at her favorites is probably as strange and eccentric as the way you arrived at yours.  

How do you know if she actually enjoys your company versus doing it for the money?  One sure way is if she offers you a discount. However, this is actually two separate questions.  She may, of course, both enjoy your company and do it for the money.  You can't know for sure, but, then again, you can't actually know 100 percent for sure with a wife, either.  These really aren't the important questions.  The important one is, do you enjoy her company?  If so, then enjoy your time with her, and don't expect to get something more for the money. Better to be pleasantly surprised and thankful if you do.  

Otherwise, try  not to let the exchange of money mislead you.  Aside from one or two details, providers are not extremely different emotionally from other people.  Just treat them well, and do courteous and thoughtful things.  

Except at the SW level, providers don't see dirty perverts all the time. Please don't characterize all your fellow hobbyists this way.    

/Zin

as someone said earlier, when you just attack us when you walk through the door, that has a tendency to make it feel more like work.
My favorite clients are the ones that treat me like a human being, and share a little of themselves as a human being. They definitely get more mileage.
A crystal clean, hydrated mouth is a great step in the right direction, as well as a clean body. Extra care please with the places the sun doesn't shine.
I usually ask my clients if they'd like to shower when they arrive, they mostly decline saying they just did...often, I think when I get up close that they were fibbing.
Here's a little tip that may seem obvious to some. If you shower before you come over that's great, but for best results please don't take a crap after the shower. Before the shower works best. And please, please, please soap up that crack!
xxx Octavia.

"and please don't take a crap after the shower. Before the shower works best. And please, please, please soap up that crack! "

Intelligent conversation both after the shower and after the crap(utterly disgusting as no one should shit in front of aprovider)? Let's hope he's not a bullshitter!


Tally-Ho!

Perhaps i should rephrase that, huh?????

...please don't make me feel like a tv writer. I'm a wordsmith. Here you go again. What is this about not feeling like a hooker? Is a hooker a bad witch and an escort a good witch? Is this like trying to explain the differences between a pimp and an agent?

I don't get it. I mean, if it quacks like a duck... call it waterfowl, serve it on a clean plate, and charge 12 bucks more.

Obviously, treat everyone nicely and remember words can't hurt you - unless you let them.

Kirk out.

That's right! Do not charcterize us as dirty perverts! Humph! Most of us are clean!

I have the right, as you do, to voice my opinion. And obviously, you don't like it. But then, I don't think you respect what we do as a living. Please, if you really feel this way, then just pick out women that are into it. Don't chastise me for my beliefs and how I want to be treated. Believe me, better men have no problem treating me nicely. And I certainly don't have any insecurity issues. I'm probably one of the strongest women that you'll never have the opportunity to meet. I also pick my men very carefully by how they treat women and what they say.

Hugs,
Ciara