if provider chases you and hustles you for a booking?

an inquiry.  It's OK to also give alternate dates as well.

"Thank you so much for considering me. Sorry it didn't work out for us now. I would love to meet you in the future. Contact me anytime!"

is that it makes it easier to drop a booking/a client since i am not losing that much...to me his message gave me some info about his character...and i am not sure i want him as a client...  

Sometimes friends will hit me up with "Jack, here's the guys approach, think I should see him?" Now these tend to be girls I have known for eons and sessioned with many times.

...after making an earlier inquiry regarding a certain date which she was very receptive to...I booked a week in advance...2 days before the date she changed her mind and cancelled...

....and I think most of us feel that way. That guy sounded like he could be a clingy needy type that needs constant attention from providers, and you may have very well dodged an annoying bullet.

It sounds to me like he was waiting for you to let him know what dates you have available.

Perhaps he did not get your email stating that "he is all set" and he thought you never got back to him.

i have a life , i had to cancel, i apologized...hate on me all you want,call me a flake...whatever makes you feel better...

However, if I contact a lady well in advance and express my intention to meet her at some point,  but I'm not certain yet when exactly, it is a good incentive for me to see her sooner if she sends me a tease-agram every once in a while. On the other hand, if she is a despot and her response sounds like "whatever", then that projects as a prelude of her bed manners, a total turn off. This is a customer service industry, lip service counts on more than one level.  

if you emailed back to let him know he was verified, the next step was his.

gut instinct is a great indicator in this biz.

I agree he probably did not get your email. I had a similar experience but via text. The client contacted me via P411 at 10 am and asked  if I could see him at 9 pm.I told him yes I was able to meet and ask him to confirm asap (1 pm) I never heard back from him and I thought he was no longer interested. I got another appointment request for 8 pm and booked with the other client. After my appointment the 9pm client texted me the location where he wanted to meet. I did apologize and told him that I was no longer available and that I never received his confirmation but if he wanted to I could see him the next day. He texted me two days after and we were able to meet. It was a misunderstanding as for some reason I did not get his confirmation text and after all we had a great session and he said he will definitely see me again when in town ( very nice gentleman).. it was nice to clear things up..

Last message I sent out to her was "let me know what time you're available" 4 days has gone and passed yet no word from her. A touring provider was in town that I had wanted to book so I messaged the first provider if she's still down for the meeting because there's a touring gal I wanted to book. No response. My first assumption was that she didn't want to see me.

If I'm going to travel to see a lady, I'll reach out to her, have her screen me, tell her the dates that I can come visit and ask her if she's available on any of those dates and if so which work better for her. So here's why, if I'm traveling to see her and I say I can see her week of 18th or week of 25th on a specific day or two of those weeks then she can give me dates which work better for her schedule or even perhaps if Aunt Flo typically visits week of 25th.

I've seen her before. I always appreciate a hello, how's things been.  
I realize it's a business but I've never been hassled.  

If you were nervous about meeting me then why PM me that you wanted to meet? Why respond when I inquired about a possible appointment? Why accept the appointment? Why make up a bunch of excuses I never asked for? Why then, after I posted this, re-invite me to come see you? Why blow up my phone with texts? Why, when I refused, call me a bitter old man?

i'd eat pancakes and go antique shopping with you, alyson!

Good point. I'm here to make friends ... friends who like to pleasure me and I them. I try to be understanding. My NCNS last night, after I booked the hotel. I'm very, very unhappy and feel like I was played.  

liked for 'everyone lived happily ever after.'

I was contacted out of the blue by a provider that I have had my eye on her profile here on TER whom I know is legit but just have never gotten around to contacting myself.
She knows from my posts on the NY board that I am always interested in finding out about gals who will make the trek out to Long Island and was thinking of touring out here/there.  Before responding immediately, I did a double take.  Very infrequently do women EVER make the first move IMH experience.  Thinking about it, I decided, what the heck, and checked out her website (again).  She was cute, well reviewed and so I filled out her screening form.  I never specified a date or time to meet.  This verified to me that it WAS her and not some catfish.  We emailed a bit back and forth in a nice conversation and I made a non-commital "sometime in the next few months" general day and time.  She agreed and I left it at that.  Now I don't expect any contact from her.  The ball is in my court for setting it up (with a few days to a week's notice). She might or might not contact me, but I don't expect it.  I was already planning on seeing another lady and that fell through (her travel dates were all mixed up) and had already begun planning around another encounter a month out.  So this ine was a curveball out of the blue.  Being on a budget (and paying off Christmas) I haven't seen anybody since Nov, so I'm about to bust.  Maybe I'll see this one next month and my original choice this month, either way she will get a call and/or date from me because I NEVER leave anyone hanging or cancel something thats already set up

If they text or write I text and write back. I only write to a client when it's time to confirms that's it. A lot of these guys want to jerk off for free and not see you. Don't think so.

i told you initially that i was not comfortable if you have to travel such a long distance just to see me, it puts a lot of pressure on me...i felt the pressure because i am responsible person and care about people...yes, it is your choice to make the trip, but it does not take away the responsibility i feel..it is just the type of person i am..

Don't know about other dudes but it does give my ego a positive vibe to feel wanted (yeah I know it's marketing blah blah...).

A couple of months ago I contacted a provider via her site as well as text (she allowed).  She got back to me later that night via text and she answered all my questions, until she stopped texting.  When I woke up the next morning I checked my email and it was from her, she had apologized for falling asleep while texting me and asked if I would like to continue our conversation from the night before.  I let her know that an apology was not necessary, but the fact that she sent me that email let me know that I wasn't going to spend time with a robot.  Not saying that I expect that from everyone, but a little courtesy goes a long way.  To answer your question Octavia, no it is not your responsibility to hound someone who gives you a vague time frame as to when they would like to see you, frankly I think that that was quite childish of him.  However, it is nice when a provider lets you know that the feeling is mutual as pertaining to a potential session (within reason).  I like anticipation, a little flirting never hurts, and something more than the standard "I will contact you a day prior to to our appointment with the location" makes for more anticipation.  How much flirting, texts and emailing is in accordance to how comfortable you feel with going that extra mile.  It never hurts, and of course i am speaking from what I would like personally, but I am also not naive enough to think that some won't take that as more than it is and I know providers have to toe that line to prevent stalkers .

... the art of seduction.

so I figured I would reply, even if it is not novel.  When I get an e-mail from a lady telling me that she is in the same area where we last saw each other or I get a "hello, it would be nice to see you again" I like it and I do not feel it is an intrusion, I think it makes smart business.