What mental games do they play when seeing a hot woman at the office, grocery store, mall or beach? I've only been married once and after a year and a half I couldn't take it anymore and saw a provider.  

...between men who "never cheat" and men who have "no desire to cheat."  

I’ve been Questioning for at least 40 years. Has perplexed me my entire life when meeting a “happy” couple. All agreeing and all huggy-feely lol. The longer I’ve lived the more I have subscribed to that one of those bitches is gonna beat the shit out of the other for being honest.  Unfortunately I believe that people believe they can’t do better and commit to the horrid decision to maintain a life that creates stress and an early death

One famous person once said, "I've looked on a lot of women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times."
And he seemed like a moral conscious kinda guy...I dunno

The wife gave great BJs, I nevermore wanted to date.  I did go to stripclubs to watch but never touched.  

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Isn't this the wrong population sample to ask this question?  Except for the stray casual observer, I believe 99% of everyone here cheats or is single.

Lots of providers give great BJ's but most only see them once or twice..

Some people who don't understand that don't realize that they may have an abnormally high sex drive.  It's like dedicated carnivores who can't understand how someone can be happily vegetarian.

You managed to rack up a good number of reviews in last 17 yrs... LOL

😁 If every man cheated, why would monogamous women bother married? They would just stay single or only marry other women.  

Don't be jaded by news about politicians and celebrities, or the fact that you spend too much time on this site. Most guys get married,  have kids, go to their 9 to 5 plus hour commute and come home. Saturdays doing yard work and Sunday church then off to the in-laws for the afternoon. And that makes them happy and fulfilled.  

You can find statistcal numbers that are all over the place, but this chart puts it at about 1 in 4 men and 1 in 7 women.  Note that older people are more likely to cheat.

In my view eliminating certain foods is a lot easier than eliminating lust. Biologically we've evolved to change our diets based on what is plentiful and healthy.

Seems like a biased study given the institute's name!

...when they said they never cheated.

The question asked was a simple "Are you married" if  I recall correctly. It was aboyt 50/50. And to correct  Papasan. Only 50% lied on the survey.

Just some thoughts but if you look at some primates like the mountain gorillas, you'll see a dominate male with "several" woman that he can mate with in his troop.  He protects them and his offspring.  In those groupings, I think the dominant males are programmed to procreate with as many females as possible.  Nature also has the females mating only with the dominant male. Is it natural selection or is it the fact that he'll be the hell out of another male that attempts to mate with the women in his troop, I don't know.    

I would phrase it differently..  

One factor not addressed is the dry marriage.  

Perhaps having a "beautiful wife with a lust for fucking" is the key to not cheating? But how many married men have that combination? Even so, isn't it in our DNA to seek out others, i.e:

Good luck putting that in your dating profile, i.e "I want the freedom to fuck different women".  I think any man who is honest with his partner will quickly find himself without a partner

Yeah, but who the fuck is putting together a dating profile?

That's a good analogy. People have varying appetites for sex in terms of both frequency and the diversity of activity, such as kinks.

But if you choose to date a working girl, I can tell you from experience that many are open-minded about letting their boyfriends fuck other women as long as they are paying, just like we are okay with them fucking other guys who are paying them.  What I haven't worked out yet is how to take the money they are paid from other guys and use it to pay the other women that I want to fuck.  That seems to be where their "open-mindedness" ends.  LOL

It can be achieved by getting rid of the middleman.  Have some mongers pay your ho directly.  If she won't see the money she won't miss it.. It's like getting paycheck in a W2 job with all the taxes, insurance taken out. If they don't see it, they won't miss it.  If she asks too many questions, tell her it's going towards your therapy,  LMAO