When I rate looks I always rate based on the group they most compare with..In other words if I am in a  mood for a MILF in her 40s I rate her looks on what I have seen in public, magazines, TV, etc,  ..If she is a 9 comapred to others in her group then I rate her a 9... Same goes for providers who are not athletic..If I choose to see a lady who has more of as average body, I rate her looks compared to other ladies I have seen that have average bodies..I rate the same age group with the same age group, The Asians with other Asians etc etc..
From some comments I have seen over the years I don't think my ratings are  consistent with everyone.
Am I right or wrong in the way I rate my providers on looks??
 

Sounds like you're (positively) handicapping the obese, and the elderly by comparing them to other fat girls, or other old providers. Ratings like you do  them fucks up this system for all of us. Do you say to yourself, "she doesn't look that BAD for a fat chick"? That's not what the review system is supposed to be about.

As I've been out with a couple of ladies who no kidding - I have NO clue as to their age....

One, the first time I saw her, right before I met her, called me and said "I guess you know I am older?"  I asked, "older that what?" no kidding - and I still do not know her age... but she could pass for 29....

another - well, lets just say we went out to dinner, and every one in the place was looking at her... she is truly beautiful...

Age?  nothing to do with it...

If I had a chance to have sex with Kim K. or Paris Hilton - I would jump at it... just as I would if I had a chance to have sex with Sophia Loren or Bo Derek....  

How would I rate these ladies looks?  not so bad... in fact, GREAT.

-- Modified on 9/8/2008 11:30:22 AM

all depends on what you personally see as good looking.
Its all on an individual basis. If you are more attracted to a woman in her 40s or so you will tend to find her attractive, and not attractive for her age. I happen to find men in their 50s very attractive, its their looks their charecter lines, or wrinkles as you may call them. I like a mans smile lines and his self expression. I like a bit of gray or silver as I prefer to call it.  I find myself more and more attracted to how a man in his 50s carrys himself, and that all is a part of looks. It says a great deal about them to me.  
Just my 2cent

Nicole

I try to rate each provider on an individual basis, rather than comparing her with other ladies I've seen/met. A lady can have few extra pounds, but have the most beautiful face I've ever seen. I sure wouldn't want her rating me based on other clients she's seen; if that were the case, I'd be dead in the water!

Every single lady that I've seen has been someone who would turn my head if I saw her in public. Every single lady that I've seen has had that one special something about her that sets her apart. All of them have been women who probably wouldn't give me a second look out of the hobby.

Maybe I've just been lucky, but on looks alone, all of the ladies I've seen are absolutely beatiful to me. When I rate on looks, I remember the eyes, or the lips, or the soft cheeks. They are all different to me. No Comparison.

-- Modified on 9/8/2008 1:19:36 PM

The only way I know how to rate on appearance is basically the measure of, "If I saw this woman as a stranger in public, what would my impression of her be?"

As the saying goes, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."  It certainly seems that some reviewers here, as Hungry said above, can find the unique, special beauty in each woman.  While I can respect and even admire such sentiments, these kind of reviewers are nearly useless for me to try to gauge an unknown provider.

The best way for me to do my research is the following:
1. Find a woman that seems attractive based on reviews, web/ad photos, or TER posts.
2. Find her TER profile and scan the review history and photos.
3. Read the highest and lowest one or two reviews.
4. Cross-check the review history of the high and low reviewers to see how they historically score.  Also, check to see if they appear to give high scores to women that might appeal to me.
5. If I am still interested, I check to see if any of the reviewers have reviewed providers I have seen and see how they rated them compared to me.
6. Make a phone call and get nervous/excited.

Honestly, I find I get the best information from reviewers that have a range of scores in their history.  I discount the opinion of a guy that is never satisfied as much as I dismiss a guy that would score Marge Simpson as a 10.

When I write a review, I try to overcome the bias developed as a result of how well the appointment went thereby trying to maintain that subjective outward appearance criteria.  The performance score seems to be a combination of skill and inner beauty/passion to me.  After a particularly good session, I try to wait a few days to write the review so that my head can come back down out of the clouds.

-- Modified on 9/8/2008 2:36:52 PM

This is an interesting question to ask.  Do you rate a woman based on her age?  How accurately she presents herself?  Her body type?  Your personal interests?  Whether she fits in well with a stripper/porn stereotype ideal?  

This is exactly why I don't really like numerical decisions on....anything.  I think an accurate description of how someone does (or does not) fit in with your personal desires is a much better clue for others than a "7".  

I rate them on how big they can make me get (size) and how young they make me feel (age).

I wish, lol.  

Seriously though, I try to use the "out in public" standard as well.

as long as a lot of you guys. I'm sure I'll have a few that I regret before I'm done. But so far, you're right. I have been a lucky bastard. Only a couple of times that I should have stayed home.

Being a mature lady i'm always happy for any reviews

I get. But always pleased how most gentlemen view me.

I always say sorry no 10 but an attractive sexy mature lady very comfortable in my skin and hope you will be too.

Let's see what you think

yeeach, what a skank.

But just to show I am even more clueless then you, who the heck is Kim K.? I sure hope its not Kim Kirchen.

But I would still give her a 6 on looks and a 7 if I was drunk..
Which brings me to another question ..If I do a overnighter and I get there drunk and she is a ten, but when I wake up in the morning she is a 4 ..When I do my review should I average and call her a 7?

I have always been under the impression that providers can see our reviews.  If you want to see them again is it OK to give mediocre scores for looks?  I Grade on a curve too.  I have seen 2 women in their  mid 40s and thought they look better than my wife's girlfriends.  I see a knockout and give a 9 or 10.  Late 30s and Cristy Brinkley beautiful when she was that age is a 10 to me but is quite a different scale than a knockout 19 year old.  I also have an Asian preference on occasion and find most of them really beautiful and all the ones I have seen are in the early 20s, I think.  How do you lump them all together and have one scale?  Men who see mostly young Asian providers and then encounter a mid 30s Cristy Brinkley would give her a low score where I might give her a 9 or 10 and be truly honest in my assessment.

otoh, if she lets you stay when you show up drunk, there are other issues at stake.

-- Modified on 9/8/2008 8:12:44 PM

Based on farm animals I am similiar both mentally and physically to a old  goat except I shower at least once daily. If you do not discriminate on age I would hope for a 7.. but a 6 would also be very much appreciated.

-- Modified on 9/8/2008 8:51:33 PM

This is exactly why I don't really like numerical decisions on....anything. http://missnaiya.com


I would have a lot more reviews if TER didn't require a number on appearance.. I can't find the strength to give some lady who showed me a great time a 4 or a 5 just because that is my opinion on her looks.. Teeth are a major point for  high ratings for me..Recently I saw a very sweet provider who showed me a great time but I wouldn't have looked twice if she was a civvy and at best I would give her a 5 .. All the other hobbyists had her at least a 7 and a couple nines..I figure best not to write the review than insult her just because my eyes see something others didn't see..

stripper / porn and acting abilities go in my performance scores

"just as I would if I had a chance to have sex
with Sophia Loren"



Sophia Lauren ..Date of Birth:20 September 1934,

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewAll.asp?BoardID=12&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&SearchType=1&Author=wymenlover&DayFrom=599&DayTo=0&Messageid=218983

I have trouble separating looks from personality.  After I have spent time with someone --particularly having sex and snuggles-- it is hard to remember how she looked at first glance. Someone with a great smile and personality becomes better looking.  In the end (no pun), I try to rate looks on the basis of how attractive I have found a person rather than trying to rate according to "peer group."  [At a later date, I will do a posting explaining the most precise system every --the famous milihelen system-- developed during the late fifties at MIT.]

The big thing about appearance ratings is, as the old saw goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". What might be an 8, 9 or 10 to me may be a 6 or a 7 to the next guy and vice versa. I think what is most important is "Are the pictures accurate?" If the pictures are accurate and confirmed by the details provided in the review then I have what I need to make an informed personal decision. Trying to put a numerical value on the appearance is just too subjective and open to interpretation, as we have seen by the posts so far.

C_K

Let me expand on my comment, since I think you misunderstood part of it, and...well...I've thought about it more.

Here's an example.  Say you got together with a lady because she had a wonderful personality and very good reviews.  You had a great time.  Say she had a perfect fashion model figure.  Any other guy might give her a ten...but you are more partial to a stripper look.  She worked for you well enough, but maybe only at a 6 on your personal scale.  Are other men going to find your 6 very helpful?  Do you still rank on your personal scale, or do you rank based on a general ideal of beauty?  Do you consider whether you would hurt the lady's feelings and she wouldn't want to see you again?  Is it even fair to the lady to give her a bad score because of a personal bias?

So much of our perception of beauty is subjective and personal taste.  In choosing a numerical ranking for a lady, you have to use some standard to judge by.  That standard might simply be how much she turns you on.  However, that might not be the most helpful information to other gentlemen.  They want to know whether the lady in question will turn *them* on.  

Our society has such varied standards of beauty, many of them very unrealistic to find in actuality.  A great deal of men seem to adore the typical porn star look, but others think the bleached blond hair, fake tans, and fake breasts are awful.  Fashion models are considered to be another physical ideal, yet I think many men find them to be way too thin and boyish in figure.  Others might be more partial to a Marilyn Monroe type.

It gets even more complex when your personal ideal is not a typical ideal of beauty.  It gets more complex, of course, when the women is older, or rubenesque, or otherwise doesn't conform to a common standard.  I do think, looking at the review history of women in those categories, that men here do seem to "grade on a curve".  

Again I'll say that I'm not a big fan of numerical ratings, and if I were a guy I doubt I would find them very helpful.

~ Naiya