How many providers out there had a client fall in love with you? not talking about in the first session, talking about after seeing you for a year or so and he gets you a ring. What did you do with the ring? what did you say?  

And this is a blessing and the curse. And no matter what most of posters write on this board ( calling us hookers, they are just ATM's, blah-blah and they don't it seems to me have a card) it is riduculous, I know, but this is just a fact

she truly makes me feel like she's in love with me when we're together. Of course she isn't, nor do I want her to be. The way it is, is perfect: we meet, we have mind-blowing sex that shakes the walls, and then we go our separate ways. If it ever moved beyond where it is I'd have to start finding out and caring about the real her; maybe she picks her teeth with currency, or hates dogs, or her favorite thing to do is go to monster truck rallies. Whatever, the point is I don't have to know any of that shit now, so there's nothing to get in the way of just having amazing sex. Why on earth would I ever want to dick around with that?

Having that "I love you" hang out there is a pretty big matsa ball if you don't get that reciprocated, HT

Just a thought.

...because I ain't lookin' for love, just some good lovin'. I guess I've reached the age where I am perfectly happy doing my own thing on my own terms. Call it middle age crazy if you want, but after years of providing for my family, I've finally reached the stage where the kids are off the payroll and I have the time and resources to explore what I want when I want. No need for any added complications.  

Based on your TER profile, you are new to this line of work.

when the connection between a provider and hobbyist is genuinely mutual.........a certain chemistry.......mutual appreciation/understanding is what is truly happening?  After all, the provider.........especially in her initial appointment with a hobbyist........is taking a variety of risks.........and the hobbyist is showing a rather vulnerable side of himself.  Isn't it possible they meet in the middle and establish a very special kind of "rapport."

Johns that are in love with their hooker and say so, are never lying. If anything, at that point, they are already shopping for rings.

but it's no big deal, because I'm polyamorous anyway, and therefore won't go stalking one particular woman.  That being said, I've never actually blurted "I love you"...yet.

we are not trying to imply that we want to become married to you and be responsible for you for all time.

I love their money... so saying I love you too, within the bounds of this arrangement covers that and they know it does not extend past the time we are together.

I suppose that those fat slobs like older women.  Nice pics BTW.  But the hands and neck shots tend to give away age.

You really wait for those monthly government handouts.  

this setting.   There is also the little issue that one may love many different people in many different settings for many different reasons.

My clients like me a lot and I have a SD for 3+ years. Yup all the gifts, traveling and stuff but we have an agreement and I am always very careful too about "falling" because falling in love is a choice, so I have chosen not to and he is mature enough for the same. That is why we are a great match and can commit to a long term agreement.  

That is the only answer you need.
 

I tell my ATF that I love her for the 3 hours we spend together every 3 weeks or so.  After that time is done I think of her often and fondly until the next visit.  An very occasional email between visits is all the other contact we have.

Why should the fact that two people meet in this realm matter?   If I were single and I met a provider who did it for me on all levels and if I had an honest opinion that she may feel the same way, I would not just simply say "well, too bad, she is a provider and I am a john."

but I don't think you can speak for the majority since the majority wouldn't even say that...I'm pretty sure most ladies have a story or FIVE of people taking their feelings too far. It's not overthought when you are actually dealing with it.

We were fucking heavily when she started to yell, "Marry me!  Marry me!"
I have that kind of effect on women.  It's really quite a burden.

Do not get involved with each other. We do not need to go into the myriad of pitfalls that such a relationship would entail. One only need look at the decision a jury reached yesterday in the trial of such an attempted relationship. Sure, it does occasionally work, but the vast majority of time the two of us have too much going against each other, trust being number one on the list.  

Why do some guys want to fuck up a perfect arrangement?

... she said it to me first. And I knew what she meant by it, i.e. not romantic love, so I had no problem responding in kind, as I do love her as a person and friend.  But there are no cars or rings in the picture... with any provider I've met or will meet.

as in "Damn you're good at this" - not as in "I want to have a relationship with you...."  It really just slipped out "in the moment" and I immediately attempted to clarify - possibly too profusely....

You inadvertently hit the nail on the head. There is a huge difference between loving your ATF and being in love with your ATF. I love everything about my favorite hooker. Hence the term favorite. Do I believe she wants more from me. No.

I fall in love for the 1-4 hours I'm with a provider and then when it's time to leave, I'm no longer in love

Bella ... May I assume you would differentiate between a role play "I Love You" and a real one? I prefer my dates to be an escape from reality and sometimes ask my provider to say "I love you".. "I miss you" ... etc. Do you say it if the man asks? I, for one, know it ain't true, but like to pretend it is true for an hour.  
 

Posted By: Missbella91

My clients like me a lot and I have a SD for 3+ years. Yup all the gifts, traveling and stuff but we have an agreement and I am always very careful too about "falling" because falling in love is a choice, so I have chosen not to and he is mature enough for the same. That is why we are a great match and can commit to a long term agreement.  
   
 But before that, I had someone who fell in love with me and my mistake, I did too..short story,  we just learn from our mistakes and move on... You'll get those "I love you" and "Marry me", but  let's be realistic and just think the way you met your client, just enjoy    
 

What would be your answer?

I don't allow lavish gifts unless I feel very connected to the man.  Gifts come with strings.  I don't want to be the woman that separates a man from his wfie.  That isn't appealing to me.  Love?  I can accept love from almost anywhere.  Life is too hard to turn down love, but I would never foster it in this situation.  There are always exceptions.  On some level, I love all my regulars.  Of course, those are two men.  I just don't see that many, but if I met a man proclaiming love after one or two sessions which does happen, I would assume they love a persona.  Still I would give it a chance, but my personal life allows for only so much.  This is a big responsibility.  Sometimes, I just want to be loved.

Do not get involved with each other. Just saw the ad of a lady who retired from this hobby a few years ago to develop a relationship with, you guessed it, one of us lonely gentlemen. This one ties into the rich man thread above. Of course he lavished her with cars, jewelry, trips, a new home, blah blah blah. But now she's back in the biz. Wonder what happened? Not sure if they even got married. I would never be so presumptuous as to ask, but I'm thinking about requesting a session in hopes she'll let something slip like before. She was definitely one of the ladies who could bring it, so maybe, even though he has tons of money, he couldn't, and she needs more. There could be a million reasons. It should prove interesting. The timing with the two threads, and her new ad is hilarious.