Not that it is a divorce case, but today there is an article about the owner of the New Orleans Saints disowning his children and grandchildren (Who managed the Saints!) on account of them not getting along with his new wife.

Love goes out the door when money comes innuendo.

At least from what I have seen in my professional and now personal life.   The biggest cause of divorce from what I can tell is people growing apart.  There are many reasons for this, and money disagreements and cheating seem to be more toward the middle or the end (if the cheating spouse gets caught) of the five stages of death that too many marriages go through.   At least from what I've seen. And for those who want to read more random musings of one who wishes 'he knew back then what he knows now' about marriage, here goes:  
   
 Marriages require work.  They really really do.  This cannot be emphasized enough.  It should be part of the vows.  Spouses should be required to write it on a blackboard 100 times before they get the license.  And then once a year, or once a week, or once a day depending on the combined stresses of each individual marital life.  
   
  And the work itself has to come every day.  It's not so much a strategy meeting over dinner each night as being thoughtful.  Knowing what the other is feeling, going though, and either sensing it or listening - and guys, many of you know where I'm coming from on this but the art of listening includes just that - LISTENING without,as much as we love to do this, feeling like we have to offer solutions.   It's being there for each other during those inevitable times where no one else could possibly understand or care so much about what is wrong in the other's world.  It's standing up for each other in public and being totally honest (sometimes brutally so) in private.  Once people drift from this formula things start to crumble.  And once again I don't speak for everyone as you all may have different situations; but my world has provided me with a not so small sample to draw on for this.  
   
 And once things start to crumble things start to spin into a different orbit where spouses stop being there for the other that things start to drift.  It can be like continental drift or it can be swift and harsh depending on how badly a spouse wants/needs to hold on.  There are always disagreements in marriages and it can be about kids and the 1 million decisions that have to be made each week about their present and futures; it can be money, it can be work, moving, whose parents are we going to see this Thanksgiving, and on... and on.    
   
 And a lot of it is how you answer a person when you're frustrated with them; pre or post drift.  Are you harsh and abrupt, or are you careful to be concerned about how they will feel?  THIS believe it or not seems to be the BIGGEST catalyst for people drifting and fighting and cheating.  Words do matter in a marriage.  Trust me on that.  They matter everywhere but in a marriage there are so many opportunities to say the wrong thing, or say what you think is the right thing but in a wrong way, and spouses inevitably will, but it's how wrong and how wrongly it's said, how willing we are to forgive, and how many times it's said that way which seems to be a huge trigger.  Like I am fond of saying the most important three words in a marriage, or any relationship are not 'I love you' but rather (take your choice) 'I was wrong' and 'I am sorry'  As hard as I love you can be to say, these others get harder and harder once the battle lines start to be drawn.  
   
 Sorry, this sounds like a sermon and it's not meant to be.   And rather than go on and on - which I won't -at least in my experience it's people thinking they don't have to work at a marriage that leads to drifting; it's drifting that leads to intolerance of what's bothering their partner; intolerance leads to getting satisfaction in some way that does not include your spouse - it can be golf every chance you get, it can be shopping (men and women), it can be cheating, it can be lots of things; it's this crumbling of caring and more selfish behavior that leads to harsh words often off the cuff statements during disagreements; harsh words DO lead to harsh feelings; that leads to hurtful disagreements; that generally leads to two unhappy people staying in a marriage... or ending it.  Yes, there's obviously more to it, but I'll spare you the rest.  
   
 

it of course became a huge issue in my divorce however. lol

Fortunately in my case there were no children involved and I was still young (in my thirties) so buying my freedom by giving her virtually everything "we" owned seemed like a reasonable price. I have since made all that money back several times over, and I have plenty of peace of mine that comes from not even having a clue to where that woman even lives, much less having to deal with a ex wife like some many of my friends have to do.

 I've got a divorce case now that I'm assisting the business owner with some divorce planning.  This has been going on for over a few years now...and the soon to be ex-wife can hire all the experts she wants...but will never find the assets.  
   
 My recommendation to my client now is to give her the house, a QDRO and some cash.  He is fine with all that since the material asset(s) will be his going forward.  
   
 Hey...it's a living  LOL