: TER General Board Discussion : Maybe it's not just you?

JoelGoodsen 1490 reads

posted 11 years ago

1 / 12

I live about two+ hours from the metro areas where I see providers. While I've been enjoying two 'regulars' for some time, I recently expanded my horizons and went north and then south to see two new women. Both sessions were great. Two hours each. When I told each provider I'd be back next month, interestingly each one said they'd like to come see me too.

No I have no illusions that I'm all that, but I was pleasantly surprised by the first one saying it, and then a little curious when the second one did. While I've been in the hobby for going on 10 years, I'm a little new at being new, and I am wondering if this is kind of a standard comment to any clean, decent, guy with an envelope.

Also, if I did take them up on it, I would still only want a two hour visit and would appreciate any thoughts as to what you think a provider would expect in terms of compensation for the visit if they drove two to three hours to see me (it's a drive, they wouldn't fly to where I am). Are they expecting travel time? I assume I would pay their gas and for the hotel. It was just odd that I got the suggestion two times in two different cities so I'm wondering if this is just SOP business retention strategy at the end of visits with a new john, and I just didn't get the memo. I'd like to make one an offer but am not sure what's expected in this sort of thing.

LoboGris 3 Reviews 468 reads

posted 11 years ago

2 / 12

seems to me

that you are leaving a lot of money on the table if you anticipate paying travel time, gas, and a motel room... I can see those being part of the transaction if you requested them to visit you, but they are volunteering.. maybe they have a hankering to see your rural area and seeing you guarantees their expenses are covered for a mini vacation ?

I'm not any more an expert in these things than you and, on top of that, I didn't stay at a Holiday Inn last nite, but them's my thoughts....

mrfisher 115 Reviews 396 reads

posted 11 years ago

3 / 12

Probably the best way to find out would be to ask them...

On occasion I've had some gals travel a great distance to see me, but then those are usually overnights.

JoelGoodsen 318 reads

posted 11 years ago

4 / 12

Re: seems to me

All good points and no, I would never pay travel time at their regular rate lol. But I don't know if they are expecting something and as noted below, surely the best thing to do is to ask. I was just wondering if this was something others have run into or women do regularly enough so I know what the lay of the land is. And yes, if they want to get away for a mini vacation where I am is a pretty good destination so maybe that's it.

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bluwoodsman 25 Reviews 319 reads

posted 11 years ago

5 / 12

Maybe it's not just you?

I think you are overthinking this.

Could well be they have intentions of seeing more than one person when they come to see "you". Reputations of good providers carries and they can do pretty well at times when traveling to smaller cities. Also, depending on what you are paying, I might assume a 2 hour visit makes a trip more worthwhile to them. One or more additional clients in the area could make a road trip well worth their while, and there other good reasons for moving around a bit on occasion.

MasterOfTheObvious 367 reads

posted 11 years ago

6 / 12

Don't get too nostalgic.They mean they can do an outcall to you. And you pay more most of the time.

Customer service: "I also offer outcalls to your location for your convenience.

Convenience is nice and sometimes worth the little extra.

JoelGoodsen 333 reads

posted 11 years ago

7 / 12

Re: Don't get too nostalgic.They mean they can do an outcall to you. And you pay more most of the t

That's pretty much what I figured. No nostalgia... just wanted to know and not guess.

anonymousfun 6 Reviews 233 reads

posted 11 years ago

8 / 12

Just finding regular business (e)

Posted By: JoelGoodsen

I live about two+ hours from the metro areas where I see providers. While I've been enjoying two 'regulars' for some time, I recently expanded my horizons and went north and then south to see two new women. Both sessions were great. Two hours each. When I told each provider I'd be back next month, interestingly each one said they'd like to come see me too.

No I have no illusions that I'm all that, but I was pleasantly surprised by the first one saying it, and then a little curious when the second one did. While I've been in the hobby for going on 10 years, I'm a little new at being new, and I am wondering if this is kind of a standard comment to any clean, decent, guy with an envelope.

Also, if I did take them up on it, I would still only want a two hour visit and would appreciate any thoughts as to what you think a provider would expect in terms of compensation for the visit if they drove two to three hours to see me (it's a drive, they wouldn't fly to where I am). Are they expecting travel time? I assume I would pay their gas and for the hotel. It was just odd that I got the suggestion two times in two different cities so I'm wondering if this is just SOP business retention strategy at the end of visits with a new john, and I just didn't get the memo. I'd like to make one an offer but am not sure what's expected in this sort of thing.

J0e_Fella 35 Reviews 229 reads

posted 11 years ago

9 / 12

To be certain...

give out the zip code when make an inquiry for your 2-hr session on an outcall. Her cost calculator will tell you exactly.

hotplants 246 reads

posted 11 years ago

10 / 12

Ask the individual lady what she expects for her travel time. The internet does not know.{e}

END OF MESSAGE

impposter 49 Reviews 262 reads

posted 11 years ago

11 / 12

Just my guess

I would play it differently:

Posted By: JoelGoodsen

When I told each provider I'd be back next month, interestingly each one said they'd like to come see me too.

Assuming you give her permission to contact you (hobby email, text message, voice message, PM), I'd have said, "That sounds great. Please let me know in advance when YOU are planning to visit MyTown. I'll try to arrange my schedule to see you."

You can add more chatter: "The hotels are much cheaper in MyTown that BigCity [hint, hint]." "Do you know other guys in MyTown? [none of your business, maybe make a joke of it] Maybe we can get you elected Mayor! ... What's that? The Mayor is already a good friend of yours and you promised him you wouldn't run?

ANaturalBeauty See my TER Reviews 273 reads

posted 11 years ago

12 / 12

I'm an optimist...

...and so I'd like to be able to believe that these providers were genuine in inviting you back. Generally, I enjoy the company of all the gentlemen I meet, and so if he says he would like to see me again, I am always so flattered and of course I feel the same! If I did not want to see a gentleman again, then I simply would not do it; I'm not much of an illusionist and can't contrive feelings I don't actually have.

In terms of compensation, I would expect travel for anything over an hour and a half away from me, since that's about how long I would expect any reasonable commute for work to take. I also think it's safe to assume you would pay for gas, and perhaps for the hotel, depending on your lady.

Overall, I think this is a subjective situation, varying from provider to provider. I'm sure you're lovely company though!