So this is a two part post. First off my experience in DC so far has been on the frustrating side. I have attempted to contact several providers, 5 in all to be exact, and have only had 1 contact me back. I have never had this happen in any other city. I have always been very polite in both email and telephone communication ( I am no newbie). So I am curious what your experiences are. If you want to meet a specific provider while on a trip, how many times will you attempt to contact to set an appointment? For me, I have called or emailed, not both, every couple of days in hopes of getting a call back. So now I am down to my 4th choice out of 5. Oh well.

The second part of this post is kinda of funny and a bummer at the same time. Prior to a trip I do a lot of research on providers in the area I am going to. I have some pretty high standards and speficis I am looking for in a provider. In the last 2 years I swear to you that I have had 4 providers get out of the biz right before I arrived in town. Some luck eh? In Vegas casinos I think I would be called a cooler. Simply calling a provider has found several out of biz. No wonder 4 of the 5 DC providers have not called me back! They are affraid to get out of the biz!!!

I can never get a provider to open the door.

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Reading your post, i can see few possibilities on "why" they didn't get back to you:

You mentioned having "high standards" - sometimes a lady gets a cold feet when she is contacted by a gentleman that could be very critical or hard to please.

If the ladies in question knows your TER handle and see the list of the girls you saw, with such legends like Nikki and so on, that can also be intimidating. Personally, I do avoid meeting guys with a list of 10 providers because I am not a 10. I think others think the way I do too.

Reading your reviews, I see a variety of things you are into...including tantra and TS. Well, some ladies do not see guys who also see TS, they think is unsafe. I don't have this kind of prejudice, because many guys do see TV/TS and never post a review, but having them on your profile cuts down the number of girls willing to see you.

Just my 2 cents - I might be wrong and you really are in a bad luck phase.

BDG

Consider making and announcemnt of your travels to various areas. (Sample Link) Realize this is not the style for everyone, but has worked for me over the years.

With my post below I recieved 4 PM's of ladies that did not post on the thread, but were willing to meet me. Course DC, for me, is kind of a stomping ground also and I participate on their board for that reason (something else to consider)

Since I am now booked for my trip again to DC, I know it does work. With a little humor and advance notice, it's all good.

Now, since that is not maybe the style of most, I would agree whole-heartedly with BDG comments, as reasons why maybe some of the ladies you have in mind are not responding.

BTW, if I new who BDG really was she would be on my list, even if she were not a 10 (her's words). lmao

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BackDoorGirl, not GND (girl next door), hell what do I know maybe BDG is GND.

WHERE'S THE EDIT BUTTON? lol

While looking at the post you want to edit hit "view all". It will let you edit the post from there.

i have only tried to email 3 ladies in Nashville so these numbers are hardly statistically significant, but only one has answered at all so i am beginning to think that it might just be part of some healthy caution for providers to be picky about when they respond.  i obviously have no idea, but i was kinda hoping that's what it was.  Otherwise, i may be learning that ALL women are avoiding me and not just the unlucky ones that i approach in a bar.  i admit i am a newb so i hope i'm not doing something stupid, but, if anything, i err on the side of saying too little rather than too much in an initial email.

The real reason, i'm sure, is just that people are busy and don't always get time to quickly answer emails.

Thanks in large part to Samantha and the all time great provider ms.Tigress!  she is sooooo cool!  Ms tigress is totally fun, intelligent and just a nice person.... try her.  She - or Samantha will curl your toes!

of seeing T-girls, some gals are not comfortable with that.

I remember the first time that a provider asked me for a previous provider reference. (Up to then all my provider's had completed screening from the employment angle).  I figured that my best reply would be to use a reference of one the most beautiful ladies that I had the pleasure of seeing.  My thinking was that if the new provider saw that I had visited with a lady with very high appearance/performance reviews then my chances of seeing her would improve.  This line of thinking, while it seems quite flawed now, made sense to me at the time.   Well in any case she did agree to meet with me after verifying with the other provider but she confided to me via email that she did not know if she should feel flattered that I choose her after seeing the other lady or worried that I might be disappointed if she didn't measure up (her choice of words not mine).  I was quite surprised at that sentiment and I find it interesting that you too are shining light on that perspective.

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You are being hard on yourself. I think it just might have to do with it being summer and more ladies probably travel now than in the winter months. Or it could be that more providers are becoming pickier too??

I too have had this happen to me lately. Replied to a few, got some returned messages that they were either traveling on the dates I had asked about or on vacation or it was their personal day. Then there are the others with no response.

It seems that if you really need it, you should have a list of at least 10 to contact and maybe you will set a date with one. Use agencies too if you don’t mind using them. They will set you up quicker than some independents out there. If you prefer independents and you can wait months on end maybe set up an appointment well in advance.

To answer your question I usually only try once. I know when I am traveling how many days I have open, if the lady can't meet me or suggests another time (which usually is a day I am no longer in town) I go to my other plan. Hit the clubs and bars. It’s all good because that plan saves me money, LOL.

Good luck in the future

I know a few guys who do the t-girl thing in Chicago and they are almost barred from seeing providers who do their research. So it kinda depends. I'd give myself more leaway with timing and such. You may also have a reputation among providers that says you can be difficult.

t-girl.... I looked at that.... and thought?  traveling gals... maybe it was a grade... like T- was so much worse than "A"!  then I thought... T - like as in temporary experience?  who knows....   or T- meaning something that they wore.... (getin closer I was...) and then I looked at his reviews.... OH!!!! that T!!! I get it now! lol!!!  hee hee!

but why is that!?

BSD-

Are you dense?  

Are you schedulin' with nothing but Haitian Hemopheliacs?(SP?)

Hobbyists who cavort with the T-Things (THEY ARE NOT GIRLS-Dammit!), no matter how safe they try to be,DO represent a potential transmission point for the AIDS virus into the more general population.  Or at least people can be forgiven if they think so...

BTW-  I have nothing agin the T's, except that I personally find the thought of going to one for a session repulsive.  For those who dig it, go to town!  Just be supercareful - and forgo unprotected sex...  My main issue is that I think being openly gay is better than pretending to be a wierd caricature of a woman...