Read almost any post on this subject and you'll find that the biggest complaint is that sex does drop off(both quantity and quality) after marriage and child birth.
Love to hear answers on your last question. But I expect more often than not a big fat NO!
In my third marriage and my experience, along with others in my life, whom have revealed to me their sex lives, is that the quantity of sex decreases after having children, though how much can have to do with how many children, and the primary motive of the woman, in question. If her primary motive for having sex was for having children, then it's more likely that the sex will decrease more after having children, than with a woman who really enjoys sex for itself. The quality of the sex can be more variable. I don't think having children impacts that so profoundly, but often menopause does.
Yes it really does drop off after both marriage and again even more after kids. Its actually pretty crazy how it happens exactly like everyone says it will.
In my case, we dated for like 7 years and prior to marriage still had a sex life like we were still both 18 year olds.
-Within a year of being married she took that all away. No more BJ's, sex maybe once a month if I was lucky, and nothing at all kinky.
-After our first kid, she no longer allows DATY or anything except mish on the super rare occasion that she allows sex anymore.
So thank god for TER and all the lovely ladies i've found because of it 
What I want to know is WHY!!!! Why for 7 years she blew you and then took it off the table? I mean if she didn't really like it, 7 years is a long time to deal...unless it was to keep you until marriage. Still damn unfair if you ask me.
The no DATY after childbirth could be that she feels her private parts are no longer attractive after being stretched...although with exercise it should snap back (no experience on that one as I have no children and don't plan on having any)...just a wild guess based on the reading I have done.
3 months after we got married was my last BJ (on my birthday), so yes it was just one of the many things she did to keep me around until marriage 
Amazing though after one gets a real BJ, well I wasn't missing much/anything from the half assed one at home.
re no DATY, that one of the many bogus reasons she gives. I say bogus, because she thought they were unattractive long before childbirth and still love to receive plenty of DATY back then.
...."3 months after we got married was my last BJ (on my birthday), so yes it was just one of the many things she did to keep me around until marriage ..."
I am pissed on your behalf. Oral is fucking amazing...giving and receiving. I'd be asking her why...not that you'll ever get the truth.
I am so freaking sorry to hear that. Oh well there are plenty of willing and very capable women available to show you how it's done...have some fun...you deserve it!
Sorry darlin'...completely out of the question...
It dropped off for me. Before having kids, and even more so after having kids. No DATY after she gave birth, she says she's too self conscious. There's very little interest in most sexual activity.
Those who attempt a psychological viewpoint without clinical experience should stfu.
Within my marriage my wife was sure to create sexual satisfaction for me. After the first child came along the sex became less frequent and mechanical. Mechanical satisfies the immediate necessity but nothing to quell the boredom of 'routine' sex. She was very adamant about receiving as much daty as possible but almost refused bbbj for faith-based reasons. Try and explain that one. I would pay good money for that answer. LOL
Now on my second marriage, the physical nature of the union,while indeed none of your business(lol),has again been very frequent and developement oriented. I'll get back to you on this time around.
NYC providers complimented her looks, one wanted an off the clock relationship with her.
She's just as into sex as ever. OK not as much as when we were in our 20s, but still a lot.
One time we were NCNSed by a provider, so we had what I call honeymoon sex.
Kids just made the arrangements for complicated, but didn't change the desire or acts in any way.
PM me you have specific questions about it.
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I would say with marriage there was no decline in quantity or quality (first 5 years). Kids on the other hand have affected the quantity part although quality has been increasing all along (15+ yrs).
My preference for quantity would be like 4-5 times a week and it's more like 2 on average. Some weeks are dry and some are more than that so it varies. DATY is no problem nor has diminished.
For my wife and me, marriage was more of an arbitrary point in our relationship where we decided to slap a more binding legal label on things (God, that sounds so unromantic . Because we fucked like bunnies early on in our relationship, sex frequency had to fall off. Buying a house which required more of a commute reduced the frequency, but that was simply tiredness often entering the equation.
Having a child did reduce sex, dramatically. Unlike it seems with a lot of respondents here, it wasn't some sort of unilateral decision on her part. We both are just too damned tired a lot of the time - we both work full time, have a fairly demanding child, etc. etc. etc. Even when we try to make plans, things can derail them.
I reentered the "hobby" for a few reasons - the old "not being wired for monogamy" excuse, the seven year itch, not always feeling appreciated by my wife, what have you. One reason I did not get back into it was because my wife did not want to have sex with me as much as I wanted to have sex with her.
If she found out I were dabbling again, it would probably be a quick divorce.
You are definately an exception. It rarely works out that way, unfortunately. You don't wanna lose that marriage...so....if you're hobbying, I suggest you quit. You may never find that kind of relationship again.
When we were young the sex was good. as we grew older the sex diminished to non existence. We do not have kids. While it is a little harder for my self physically (mentally I am as horny as ever) with all the ailments of age and poisons our culture bring to our bodies, Women's sexual health is much more complicated. Kids and marriage has nothing to do with it. Most women are afraid to talk about it with their doctors and most doctors are not knowledgeable enough to treat it. But I have been told that 40% of women suffer from diminished sexual drive. A woman's body is one complex hormonal soup. Too much or too little of anything can put it out of balance!
All I can suggest is to have good enough communication to seek help when the time comes.
Our sex life was once to twice a week before marriage and has gone through ups and downs based on various issues. Still receive great BJ's and I know what I like, so getting them from a provider is exciting and fun to compare. DATY on occasion.
We now have sex about once a week on average, which is less than before we were married, but about at the same frequency even after 2 kids and 10 years.
Another addition has been to add toys to the sex life. SO was never vocal or demonstrative about what she enjoyed, but since adding a few toys her pleasure has gone way up, and therefore we're both happier. We work on the communication to try and keep things going well for both of us.
This hobby has allowed me to meet some needs that have not been met at home, and that keeps the stress waaaayyyy down for everyone, and the happiness way up for me and mr happy.
...I can say that yes, the sex (both quality and quantity) drops off. I still love my wife. I don't want to be married to anyone else. We're very happy together BUT...I want more intimacy than she does. She knows nothing about my hobbying activities and she never will. I've been hobbying for about 12 years and have met some splendid, beautiful women but when it comes to home and hearth, she's the one. We have kids and grandkids. Why would I want to jeopardize that? Answer: I don't. That's why I'm very careful.
and sex definitely dropped off after kids arrived.
Part of the reason for that was that grad school also entered the equation along with many more hours of work. We only have a finite amount of energy!
Sex increased after the kids moved out until menopause hit. She has very little interest now and sex with an uninterested partner isn't the most fun.
It's kind of strange. Sex with my wife is now focused almost entirely on my own satisfaction while the ladies I hobby with 'provide' much more give and take.
Sex falls off after marriage and it falls off dramatically after kids. I don't care who the woman is during the dating stage of your relationship, sex will fall off substantially at some point. It may even become non-existant (or so seldom that it may as well be). Anyone who tells you differently...is selling something.
