I make myself available for an optional consultation when I'm meeting clients who are seeking niche or kink services. Some of the clients who are specifically seeking me out because I'm a kinky GFE companion opt to take me up on my offer and schedule a call with me. I've found it can be a good way to build rapport before a date. Even a quick fifteen minute phone chat can help foster more of a sense of familiarity.

In the span of over 15+ years in this realm, only a small number of women, perhaps three or four, have requested/demanded a phone or video conversation prior to meeting in person. I’ve always been receptive to it, and in my experience, such interactions tend to heighten anticipation, deepen rapport, and ease initial awkwardness. If this approach gains traction, count me in as fully on board! lol.

I have seen providers, when it's the first time, that want to chat for about 30 minutes to get to know me first. More often than not, this comes out of my time and the session is now rushed. I know this is the reason why some require 90 minutes for first time clients. However, similar to what you're saying, but for any provider that wants to spend time getting to know a new client before diving in, a phone session for 30 minutes would be a great option.

Indeed  I  currently  offer  "Consultations".

I’ve been offering virtual sessions for years. I have many options. I always get paid in full for consultations. If you look at my website you can see. If someone wants to shoot the shit 💩 I have a $200 upfront fee, or we can do a virtual chemistry check. Vibes don’t lie.

And paying for these consultations is certainly not my thing either.

It was with a very kinky submissive girl who wanted to be sure there was chemistry because she wanted to enjoy the session, too. So we met for a drink and a chat in the hotel lounge so she could be sure we'd be a good fit. We got on well and it was off to the room. Her first move was to beg me to put a dog collar and leash on her, and it was off to the races.

I did one some years ago and it was very helpful.  But as a rule, I have never done long dates, so don't have a real need.  I have done a fair amount of kink, but that was a while ago, before video conferences were possible or common.  A consultation at the outset of the session was okay.  I think a video consultation for kink is a great idea.  So much depends on the chemistry and the interactions, a video conferece provides a long ramp for takeoff!

Especially on kink services.  I do like to be very clear when booking to make sure I'm not disappointed and the provider does not feel ripped off, ie I'm asking for more than she agreed.  Especially for a first time visit.  It has almost always led to an amazing experience.  The times it didn't, I was able to see where I was not clear with my expectations.

So, even though Korgs are inexpensive, it's also that they run their business very efficiently.
And the Kgirls know how to run the session for the client!
I know that's why you use them, as do I, with really good successful outcomes.

Imagine a guy walks into a kgirl session and when she comes in for a kiss, he stops her and says, “Can we talk and get to know each other first?” Now, I say this jokingly, but I am sure this has to have happened. I could see a nervous first timer being overwhelmed.

Consultations are very common, if not the norm, with Pro Doms/Dommes providing BDSM services. The good Pro Doms/Dommes usually take their craft very seriously and insist on an intake consultation for many reasons. The Doms/Dommes want to assess the clients experience level. They want to discuss the client's wants/desires and also any boundaries/limits. They also want to discuss any protocols, expectations and rules. They also want to manage customer expectations and determine if the client is a good match. The activities engaged in are  inherently more risky and dangerous than vanilla sex. Also, many clients have no idea what they are getting themselves into because they have fantasies but no experience. It make sense to have a discussion about potential risk before you tie someone up, shove a huge dildo up their ass and pour hot wax on their body while whipping them. I'm not surprised that Kinky GFE providers have started to do the same thing. They are engaging in a lot of the same risks that a pro Dom/Domme would while adding in regular sex.  
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While it makes sense for Kinky GFE providers, I don't think it makes sense for regular GFE or escorting. There is just a lot less to discuss and talk about. A discussion about boundaries, limits, desires and experience usually takes less than 5 minutes and can be easily handled at the start of the session. Also, there is the LE angle. If you book a pro Dom/Domme, you usually aren't doing any sex so the activity isn't illegal. You can talk to a potential client for a half hour and nothing incriminating is coming up. You can't do that with a vanilla escort without potentially incriminating yourself. If the client or provider turns out to be a cop, you've just spent a half hour giving them evidence. So the intake is kind of worthless because you can't discuss anything explicit without potentially incriminating yourself.  
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With a Kinky GFE provider it still makes sense. You need to discuss the risks and boundaries related to the kink aspect. You can have a whole conversation without needing to talk about vanilla sex. With a regular GFE provider there really isn't much to be gained from it. I have no problem talking on the phone or doing a quick face time for like 5-10 minutes. However I would not commit to a half hour intake for vanilla GFE/providers. There really isn't much to be gained, there is a lot of risk and there are other providers out there who don't need it. It would also add more friction to the booking process. I would view it as a red flag and book elsewhere.

that you see Kgirls running their sessions as a porno movie.
Now, there are some that are DTF and wild, but the KMongers should know who they are and book & act accordingly in that session.

You can’t compare vanilla GfE with fantasy & fetish fun. Consultations are necessary for real professionals. Sorry you fellas don’t read before jumping on here to reply. Her post was very specific kinky is a wide definition, so yes consulting is ideal.

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Each their own but your description of the K-girl session is way off what I've experienced in over 10 years seeing them.  Then again, whether I have some chat and personal level type interactions that are on a non physical level at the start, the end or throughout the session has always been more about my behavior with them than their routine.

I didn’t describe my experience with kgirls as bad. In fact, I said it’s sometimes just what I am looking to get. And don’t forget porn star (pse) is a fluid term that means different things to different people.  

Not going to lie, maybe it’s me. I’m not really looking to get to know them on a personal level. So when she gives me a quick kiss, leads me to the bathroom, we pop the blue toast, and get touchy feely in the shower, which all leads to lots of sex with occasional one liners, I’m not even trying to have it happen any differently.

I find it easier to just book a short session. If there is chemistry then have a discussion about kink. Her limits what she does etc. Seems to work well for me. I do like longer sessions but I’d rather have the conversation in person. I have ample time to do this though. Other guys maybe they are more time constrained. I think it’s good business.

about talking for 10 minuets!
Where do you get that shit?

Thank you. I appreciate your insights. It's good to know there are clients who would be open to participating in phone or video consultations so long as there isn't an extra fee.

Wow! Kudos to you Angelina for possessing the skills to do in real time screening while on initial calls with potential clients. Doing so requires well developed levels of discernment.  

Why are you mad lol? I didn’t deny that I said porn experience. I actually restated that I did say it. I was explaining that it doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone.

I think badger (like many other kgirl mongers) is a bit defensive about them so he interprets a lot of your post as putting down kgirls.

I was not putting kgirls down at all. I was describing it being a different experience for me, but not a bad one. It's like seeing a movie. If I want a good laugh, I don't go see a drama. That doesn't mean I don't like drama movies. I'm just in the mood for a comedy that day. Another day, I might prefer a drama. I see kgirls and indies this way. Depending on my mood I may prefer one over the other. And, I say this is for me. I'm not suggesting others should feel the same way. Nothing wrong with experiencing things differently.

If it is at no additional charge and to touch base and get to “feel each other’s vibe,” then it might be good and add a layer of comfort and also allow discussion of logistics and so forth.

Yes, I do offer consultations, but only for specific booking types; primarily my Untamed GFE experiences and Fly Me To You arrangements. That said, I don’t separate the consultation as a standalone freebie. It’s baked into the experience and rate itself. I’ve seen too many posts of “I’m happy to do a consultation... as long as I don’t have to pay for it 🙃,” so I avoid that dynamic altogether. Time is valuable, and clarity is worth compensating.

Maybe, but what gets me Rocket, and I've said this before, there are some posters, IMO racist/haters with their UTR/side digs and outright put downs against Kgirls because of their hatred for Kmongers.

And you are one touchy KBoy, and yup I said it.Did the agencies draw straws and you got elected??
And are you actually telling Rocket to pick a side..wow, so KBooker of you.
Ok, so here's the deal so you can get back on soap box. Its not the Girls, I think for the service they provide day in and out,,I gotta hand it to them.  
Now, Why l like to give alittle dig to the KBoys.  
Its because most, not all are spinless wimps. Check out their reviews and their post. Seems like the agencies have them twisted like a pretzel where they don't know if they coming or going.  Think of that Sienfeld episode, the Soup Nazi....KBoys are the customer, they just fall in line. "You see who we have and you'll like it"
Now, I said it...I hate to have this thread turn into some KGIRL cock fight.
So relax

happy, huh?
guess I hit the right nerve!

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and I’ve noticed some providers who do initial in-person or Zoom sessions in lieu of references. Ideally there would be no charge. I’ve met a few providers over the years who asked for a phone discussion before confirming an appointment, but none who required an in-person or Zoom discussion.  

Exactly! Thanks for acknowledging that my questions are about consultations for specific circumstances such as kinky sessions.

Thank you so much Paige for sharing these sage reflections about your consultation process. Allowing consultations after receiving screening information and a deposit is a sensible way to ensure your time is honored.

It is true there are very unique dynamics at play during a kinky GFE date. Engaging in acts like impact play or restraints comes with certain risks. For me, a kink consultation is not in lieu of talking in-person about limits and boundaries. But I have found that checking in before an encounter can help facilitate more easeful communication during the date.

This is actually a really good idea, especially for those who are very shy like me. My heart is usually beating through my chest on the walk to the room. It’s like “holy crap, I’ve never met this person and I’m about to sleep with them!” This would cure a lot of anxiety.

I don't. I fuck them.
This is a fuck board. You can say it.
Good luck!

One person's "cause" is another person's "cure."    For me, since I know a provider is a "sure thing", my heart rate rarely changes until we get to the intense physical part.   I grew up in the era of "pick-up bars", so I got over the anticipation excitement long ago.  In fact, it's always better if you can maintain your "cool" with someone new just like you would with someone you fuck regularly.  

Hindsight can definitely allow space to reflect on what could have gone differently if things transpired in a way where expectations weren't met.