Would you be too worried  that the other partner will be judgemental and insecure  ?

I personally have met one or two who I would over look the ‘you cannot turn a hoe into a housewife’ motto for. But that may be lust talking as you really don’t know a provider no matter how many times you’ve seen her as she’s showing you the side of her personality (which may be an act) that that will keep you coming back.

and it worked out fine.  

Nick of course, he's going to be my forever sugar daddy and take care of me like he promised

We’ve been together and building a fabulous relationship for 3 + years now.  She’s the most amazing woman I’ve ever met.  We love each other.

Fantastic perspective!!

Would the lady be judgmental or insecure??

I've met a few ladies I could easily settle down with.  

I'm not sure they'd settle for me, but I met several that seemed to be decent human beings.  
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Well, a long term association.  I think I am done with marriage (still in the latest one.)

You never know how and who you will meet in life that beyond physical becomes something undeniable on both ends. Highly unlikely but if so, the insecurities will fade away if it’s real

A few that I would date exclusively
Only 3 that I would marry.  They were all Korean.  

Most women across the board let themselves go once they get hitched. Married women make up the lowest group of active gym members. Unless it's part of their job i.e. they are a model, an actress, etc most Women only work out when they're single/dating and looking to get married, are going on vacation, or are recently separated or divorced...outside of that they see staying attractive as a chore.

So this begs the question… how many guys “let themselves go” and put on a 20 pound beer gut after they get married.
It works both ways…

Well yes, the sex worker issue on the womens part, and we men do engage  with many women,so it's  one of the same pretty much.
And yes again, there may be other factors, but I choose to focus on these two on this occasion.  
In my opinion ,these two factors  are  highly likely to be an issue for some people, so the intent of my question is based on who will be  willing to overlook and accept things for what they are .

Have you ever seen the results of a blind woman putting on her own makeup?   I would not want "deaf" either.  When I ask her to bring me a whisky and then rub my feet, I want her to be able to hear me.  Now "mute" and "hot" might just be the perfect woman to settle down with.  

MUTE + HOT = Dream Wife

Because it go both ways.

So true. Got  married ,got too relaxed, drops everything .Yes family life  can be demanding, for both especespecially with work and  kids in the frame.Not easy but  find  creative ways to keep a bit of adventure in your relationships.

Quite  often the case.

If only we could  find all we desire in one package.

He better keep that promise.

several times with providers.  Yes, there is real love, but with that comes real jealousies.  Only one of mine made it past the one-year mark.  We start out having an agreement that transactional sex is not cheating.   That way, she can continue to work and I can continue to pay for sex with other providers.  All of them ended because of jealousy . . . . . hers, not mine.  I would end up seeing a provider that they knew, and they would blow up.  Their solution was that they continue to work, and I would have sex only with them.  That's not a level playing field, so its a pass for me, unless they are ready to transition to a different kind of work, but all of them so far liked the money they make renting their pussy and didn't want to give up their work, so it was time for me to move on.  Monogamy with a provider sounds like monogamy with a civvie woman.  They both become monotony.    

I was married for 12 years. My marriage was fine, no major issues, divorce was a clean split (we also had no children). I have zero desire to ever get married again. I have been asked several times. I think there is a mentality that we (sex workers) all want to be "saved" from this profession, which is not the case. I live a very comfortable life. Maybe someday if I want to settle down with one person I might, but I just don't see it in the cards. My "civilian" relationships are always open, and often guys say they are OK with it but then a tinge of jealousy appears. I like variety in my sexual escapades, and I doubt that will ever end soon.

Your comment and experience  is an honest and natural one,and is the case in many civillian relationship. You are doing fine, independent and in control, and never have to settle  if you don't see it fit . This is awesome, and I am glad you get out of that marriage.  
Not all women in the industry are  in total  control and choose to be here by choice.
Am sure you're aware that there are people out there who are suffering, from various traumas that they cannot unload. This baggage have prevented them from moving forward, forming  relationships, trusting anymore, knowing when someone really cares , and expecting anything in return.  

Love her. Hasn't been an easy 4 years. Being married to a working sex worker is hard. So hard.

If I were a single I’d likely be a candidate to marry a service provider.  I often befriend my favorite providers and carry out long term friendships with them and long term services.  I’ve accidentally fallen in love 2x now which get a little dangerous but we remained friends and continue services through it all while still keeping my marriage intact 😓.  I’m not sure how I would make it through life without the wonderful services all the awesome ladies provide.  Any one of them would make an outstanding wife in my opinion! 💕

Yes, you did marry. But "settle down?" Hardly.

Women initiate 80% of divorces. They get bored of their spouses. This day and age of no fault divorce, courtroom rape of husbands, and social safety net (for women only) frees women to split whenever they're not haaaaappy.

In many cases the women do make out better than the men in divorce proceedings.

That's  probably  the way to go. Sometimes it can't all be  found in one package .

Making  it work and you're  compatible with other is all that matters.

I was just trying to put it in 3s to give it some poetic effect, but I see where you are coming from..

Nice statement!
Yes, each provider offers something special in their own way.  Variety is key to well rounded contentment.   Why doesn’t my wife understand this?  😫
LOL.   I’ll be visiting my masseuse I’ve been friends with for over 10 years now! She does a great deep tissue massage, with prostate massage, and of course the basic happy ending… 😁.  This has helped keep my body physically healthy over the years as my work is physically demanding and it’s been great having the same provider available to help me al9ng all these years who knows my body.   Each Xmas holiday she always buys me a big box of chocolate too 😁💕

If we got along well I would consider it.  Matching goals would be # 1 on the list.  Can the other party live a simple life of spending around 150,000 per year or normal  for the area together.  For a good plan no debt and no retirements  needs come out of the 150.  Can a high end provider turn to living a normal life like  boating and RVing  along with a cruise or  Caribbean trip once a year or so ? Does or can the provider turn off or have the desire to quit providing ?  I believe marrying  a  working provider is a bad move.        

No, to original question. I mainly play with my wife. We have had two regulars who settled down with a client lol. The one it was definitely for money. She divorced her old man that was kind of a loser according to her. The other was a sweet lady that she found that guy. We were so happy for her. Really nice girl he’s a lucky fucker because her blow jobs were legendary. Basically ruined me for other women.

It can be a bad move if that person is addicted to the fast and easier  money , in contrast  to working a 9-5.

Why is a provider “different” than any other woman a guy might meet and decide she’s the “one”?  Any woman could be capable of lying and hiding many things… just as any man could do the same.  
And why assume providers want to stay in the business?  Or keep playing around if they’re out of the business?  
I’ve been with a (former very popular) provider for 4+ years.  She’s the best friend and life partner I could imagine.  She knew it was time to get out of the business because she had grown to hate it and her life.   She just wanted to have a quiet, anonymous, “normal” (her words) monogamous life.  She did everything she could to disappear… and if someone does manage to find her and contact her, she replies with a very clear “don’t ever contact me again” message and blocks them.
I wouldn’t trade her for anybody.

So true,  many marriages got destroyed because  of hidden secrets.  
Good women are still out there unfounded because  of circumstance.

I think it is the unhidden ones.

What other partner?

on purpose, or is English your second language, in which case you get a pass?  Lol

not sure how the insecurities or jealously would work, never been there but yeah, i'm close to someone now trying to navigate

If the stars aligned why not? I’ve had a lady who married a client and another who dropped out for a regular. If they are happy good for them.

After my session with my provider as of 10 years yesterday, we chatted a little and I mentioned how my wife often is angry at me.  My provider/ friend tells me to tell my wife that if she don’t want me Provider will be my new wife no problem! 😳
She wants me to come see her more often.  She told me if money is an issue that I can come see her for no charge 🤑
I’m not one to take advantage and paying is not an issue for me.  It’s just the concept that has me in shock!  
We do have a long history and are both getting older.   You don’t see someone for this long without having a good bond.  I admit I love her but I am settled in my family life.  
She said that when she moves to China, me any my family are welcome to come stay with her in her home!  
How do I incorporate my family into such a relationship???

Until you meet the right  one, or the right  one meets you ?
Never say  'never`, even if you're  already itched.

Marriage or relationships are not easy either way.  It’s a daily work in progress with more struggles than happy memories in my experience.  
Learning to love and to forgive is key to contentment, if we can’t do this with our partner then we lose our bond…
Stay positive and life gets better!

This makes me feel grateful for the situation I  am currently in…  
Married to my civilian wifey yet at the same time having love relationships with a few providers over the long term. None of the providers know anything about me in regards of other providers… a non topic of discussion of course.  My longest provider relationship now is 10 years, the 2nd longest is about 4 years now, most recent is 6 months but this one is strong; chat just about every day strong!   It’s caused me to express some obvious emotional signs from my wife, who knows I do have some secret friends but she blows it off and says she will remain with me regardless. Now I just becomes a more talked about subject when she sees me checked out and not engaged with the Fam. 😫.   I really feel I have the best of both worlds now and am blessed to be in this situation which could collapse at any moment,  but for today I will be thankful for what it is!  

Ditto. I think you are my male counterpart…

Agree completely.  
As soon as I got into this business, I started creating an exit plan. I knew what my goals were, made enough to achieve them and then quit. It wasn’t a short journey but I stayed on course and true to my plan.  Haven’t missed the money really at all. Have been working a regular job for over 10 years now. I’ve pretty much got to the top of my career now and I love my job.  I’ve had less than a dozen appointments in that time - all with people I already know (usually Americans visiting the UK) who I’ve become good friends with and have enjoyed staying in touch with.

I have heard from a retiring provider.  Working towards independence seems to be the key.  Having to find a man to keep you going financially is probably the worst, but many I have talked to still think that is the best way out.  If I may ask, how many years did it take to reach your financial goal?

Well ,it's  obvious that she had gotten to know you well enough, and you have displayed  some qualities that make her willing to share you with the wife if she can't have you for herself.  
It's up to you to make the decision whether or not you want to  keep things the way they are , or risk a form of poly relationship and not knowing what the outcome  may be.

We were well into a vigorous session and I was pounding away in doggy when she started yelling, "Marry me, baby! Marry me!!"
It was actually hilarious. She never explained.

Sounds  like you were hitting the right spot 😁.

Which is interesting because over the decades I have had long term relationships with (mostly) Korean gals, two of whom told me that "now, you are my boyfriend", a distinction that came with many, many benefits, which I'll leave to your fertile (catch that double entendre) imagination.

When women age out of the child bearing age and are still single or divorced, their priority becomes to lock down a provider.

His writing leaned towards an implication that he is doing that ,but it was not explicit .

Ooh that’s a good question….
When I first got into the business, my plan was to supplement my really low income until I moved up a step or two so I thought it would be about 3 years.  
I later decided to go to grad school (and had a pretty nasty accident inbetween) so that stretched it out by another 3 years. I then spent my last 2 years winding down just trying to save enough to get a shipping container together and close things out in the US and have enough to keep me going for 12 months in the UK. So 8 years in total.  
Had I planned school from the start and had no accident it could have been done in 5. Less had I been higher volume….or stayed in the US

does make a difference.  This is an inspiring story for those ladies that feel trapped in this business.  I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question.  Continued good luck and prosperity to you.  

There is no apostrophe needed. If there was a guy named Kudo and you were referring to something he owned you'd need an apostrophe. For example, "The golf clubs were Kudo's."
Please don't do this again.

Almost as bad as saying “Yesterday every post on TER run backwards”.

DOES own some golf clubs, but that has nothing to do with my post.  

My run/ran error was a mere typo. Your adding of an apostrophe was an actual grammatical error.
Now get back inside your glass house before Conan takes an axe to it.
No Kudos for either of you.

She even provided for a while when we were married. There are issues that come up. To this day we have an semi open relationship. We are both allowed to hobby and work I. This game. Note my being allowed to work is in theory only. No one will pay for my services as I am far to ugly.

I can tell you that it can definitely be tough on the provider doing this kind of work and maintaining a healthy marriage. I'm lucky that I've been settled for two years now and we have kind of found a nice groove but it's challenging and I can't imagine how hard it would be if we had met as client/provider. I have had a few occasions where a client has hinted at marriage and I've often wondered if it was more about what my actual personality was or if they just liked me for how I am on good days. So while definitely possible, its a massive hurdle for SURE.

Your post, while not grammatically perfect, was a far better effort than some of your posts in the past. Please stick around.
Also, Conan will be visiting a mutual friend in the southwest in a few days so feel free to give us a call.

A chicken pecking at a keyboard could post posts more grammatically correct then some of my posts. But thanks for noticing. And I don't hobby that much anymore. My wife retired for the second time and she keeps me pretty content at home. I was thinking of you and other board members so I popped in.

you don’t read nor care much about what you post—even the subject lines.  😅

CDL mis-uses "Kudo's" all the time, going back as far as 2017. Can they ALL be typos? Conan thinks not. And while there may be others more worthy than I to wield Conan's axe, you clearly are not one of them.

revealed it was since 2016, not 2017.  I'm always embarrassed for you when you are calling out someone else, but you get the facts wrong.  Since I used it correctly 60 times and incorrectly only 13 times, I don't think you can discount that it still might be typos, so it's NOT "all the time", it's SOME of the time, about 17% to be exact, hardly worth mentioning, except for you or one of my stalkers.   Wishful thinking does not replace evidence.  Nice Try, though.  (I type very fast, but not as accurately as I used to.  My brain is still often ahead of my fingers.)  Anyone else you want to lecture on doing a "simple search?"  Lol  

Your own sad effort merely proved I was right. And do you really think 2016 vs. 2017 actually changes anything? But as for your claim to have "used it correctly 60 times," sorry but I'm skeptical. I'm not going to waste more time fact-checking you but given the number of times you've played fast and loose with the facts here, I'd say my skepticism is justified.
Oh, and Conan has many weapons. Please try again.
Then again, given your latest effort, don't.

Was with an escort for about a year or six months depending on who is counting.
Had a good relationship. It ended amicably.
I think a sex worker is probably the only woman I can date in the future. I find the women on dating apps don't measure up in many many ways.

your "claim" of 2017 versus my factual statement of 2016 does mean something . . . . What was a "simple search" for me was challenging for you and apparently, beyond your ability to get right.  Lol

Hand over the sword, a worthy candidate will be found to take it up.  Meanwhile, we can let it rest awhile.  

Upon seeing her this past time she had a box of chocolates which she bought for me on her epic vacation trip to Japan last December!!!!   I am so grateful …

that you simply made up that you'd used Kudos correctly 60 times.
I take that as an admission of guilt.

He never lets anything rest. And he keeps the sword.

that Conan is a man of integrity.

Search kudos and kudo's separately for coeur-de-lion, and not counting this explanatory post, you will get 60 and 13, same as me.  Facts are facts.  If you fail to make your case, I don't need to defend anything.  That's the legal system we have here.  

"Dont measure up in many ways".....you're not alone, thats why many of us are here,.

The fact that  you both made the conscious decision on entering the industry is probably a solid move , based on the already established relationship.