A couple of months ago I have met with a new client that was also new to the hobby and me, as the nice woman I am, I have schooled him a bit about the hobby's do's and dont's. For example his continuous texts and random phone calls.... I understood the guy was very lonely and liked me a lot. In fact the first time he saw me 3 nights in a row 2hrs each time! Was pretty good for me and for him too since he never felt what I gave him but gosh the man fell in love! He came back to see me the week after and the following one.... he started with saying he was in love with me and he would have even married me !!!! He started saying he didn't want me to see other clients.... I had to stop him there and say that this was my job and I can't stop seeing anyone because he is jealous! After all he is not my man nor I want him as a man...duh! Long story short the guy probably thought that I liked him more than just a client and this guy was supposed to see me for an overnight and when he show up he sat down and i offer him some wine, he took it and said that he forgot his money at home! I am like WTH!!!! He asked me if he could stay over anyway.... Hell NO! You are not my man. So I have been telling him that in order to see me again he has to make up for the waste of time he gave me. I am really pissed because I think I have been too good to him and he thought he could be my bf. The man ultimately want a wife, I know that. So I haven't seen him since then and he has been promising to bring me the money but never happened. Told him Im done with him.  

If you're smart you will take your losses and cut off all contact with him.  I hope you did not see him at your home.

We're here to fill a void.  We have needs, whether it's money or companionship or a million things in between.  Men fall in what pases in their minds for love, because going through life alone, with no one who cares about you deeply, is not for everyone.  And for those, a woman who give you what you've traditionally believed came with the 'love package' seems only logical and the transactional nature of the relationship is lost.

Negotiate an exclusive engagement.  Many providers would love to have just one rich client and not have to fuck 20 guys a week.  You should have told him you would be happy to have only him as a client, but the exclusive engagement will run him $XXXX per week.  Then you haven't turned him down or hurt his feelings, you have put the decision back on him.  Either he pays or he doesn't.

I've tried my best see this for what it is, A fantasy nothing more.  I know in the past I've been guilty of over doing it with emails and pm's and I apologize to any ladies I might've annoyed.

He's a lost puppy who needs to be brought in to the local pound. The best thing you can do is cease all contact with him and never see him again. His elusion of you being his GF can only end badly for you since you were up front with him and he can't respect your feelings. Do you live in the same town as him? Did you give out any personal info, I hope not for your sake.

that most providers cut off communication with a client as soon as they get a whiff of a growing attachment.

...It would have been easier for him accept. The longer you let it go on the more attached he became. Let's face it, most guys don't have much emotional intelligence and it was clear from what you described that he didn't understand the boundaries of this playground.

I think you are going to be surprised just how often this happens.

I just stop seeing them because once they get to that point, IMO, they won't ever go back. They will keep thinking they can change your mind if they keep seeing you. At least none of mine were dirty enough to pull what that guy did to you!

This type of situation is more common than we imagine. Make sure to stablished boundaries, always see him on an incall and never never at your home.  
He can be a good client ($$$) and you will have an steady income. You have to be clear with him that he doesn't have the right to ask you to stop working. Maybe the two of you can work an arrangement that works for both of you were he has his needs taken care of and yours as well.

The way to be sure that your communications are actually welcomed rather than endured is to be sure you alternate initiating contact, and send no more than two unanswered messages.  

Earth angel, earth angel
Will you be mine
My darling dear
Love me all the time

Now, I'm super leery of them. I was involved with a provider and it started out like this.  Once through that churn was enough to dissuade me from allowing it again. They want to contact me letting me know they're available is one thing, but that's all I'm willing to entertain. Lesson learned.

as it's a rare day that I am not in communication with at least one of my hooker buddies.

To say that she didn't turn out to be shady as fuck would be an understatement. I wasted the one thing that I will never get back - my time.

OP knew this guy was a newbie
OP knew this guy was NOT understanding the "protocol"
OP "played" this guy by letting him believe his "dream"
OP got what she diserved by getting "stiffed"

That is exactly what I was thinking too.

There's a line in this business, but it's easy enough to get it blurred, and if you're not careful, erased. I haven't had a similar situation with a provider, but I have become friendly and even lent money to providers at times. Nothing good comes from mixing the two together. If you want to spend time together, lend money, or whatever, it needs to be separate from the hobby, because it builds resentment eventually almost 100% of the time. And that's the least of it...if things get really carried away, there's nothing stopping someone from causing you real problems. I would definitely drop this guy as a client and chalk it up to a lesson learned. Even if he said he had the money and wanted to meet up, I'd just forget it. People can have personal relationships with people they meet in the hobby, but it's many times more difficult than ordinary relationships, and those are complicated enough already. Be safe, and be smart with whatever you decide.

which I feel is the case.

Salmon and a 200 pound tuna jumped into your boat, you would throw it back because you were really only interested in salmon?  

Best to cease all contact and write off the money he owes you.  Consider it paying him to go away.  You don't know what other issues this guy might have and what might set him off even more.  

clueless regarding the candy store effect that he fell hook, line, and sinker over you. Hobbyists need to realize that P4P is not RL. Providers and hobbyists alike are responsible for drawing the line and staying on their side of the line.

One evening I got an email from an atf. Mind you the sex was fantastic, and the connection strong. I'd seen her a few times, and obviously I was going to see her many more times. In the email she told me how she'd planned out our lives together. Yes, it can happen both ways. In a very polite way I asked how it was that she knew me well enough to make such a statement. I never made another appointment.

Do you still have “Hope”

I will agree that it's impossible (or at least should be) for someone to trust you when you can't even trust yourself, but that certainly doesn't apply to everyone.  

When you have feelings for someone you want to take BETTER care of them.  Give them MORE.

level. Depending how crazy he is, he may take it up to the next level.

she can quote a price she's sure he'd never pay.

I did tell him that and he is been saying that in the case why not be in a relationship. I honestly don't believe that I can afford me. He is supposed to make up to me and it has been 4 weeks that he has been saying lies. First he has the money, then he doesn't have it. Then he said he was hesitant because he thought I didn't need it. A bunch of lies... I told him that regardless if I need the money or not if he wants to see me again he needs to make up for the times he has cancelled and showed up at my place empty handed. He just has a bunch of excuses. I think its best to just block him. I told him he is to cut for this but he needs to find himself a woman the traditional way.

He was already asking me how much I make a month, how much my expenses are.... he even said why I don't get another job since I have 2 degrees. Im like "yo" I don't need a dad!

in accordance with how disagreeable she finds him, but I don't think that's the case because of how many sessions she has allowed already.