I have a question to pose to my fellow hobbyist's regarding screening. What is your stance on giving out personal info specifically giving a provider or agency your real last name. I've been in the game now for over 3 years and with the exception of when I was a newb, I've had no issues getting screened via provider references or verification sites. In the last couple weeks my real last name was required by 2 providers/screeners which I refused. I told them I wasn't comfortable giving them that info and was turned down. I did give my real name once before with no problems but afterward I thought maybe I shouldn't do that again because its real easy to google search someone and find lots of info I wouldn't want someone I've never met to know.  

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And until some BSC hooker tries to extort from the dude...they feel safe

A provider has a right to ask for any information she wants.  But if she requires my last name or real address we will both move on.  I will happily provide my handle, white lists, P411 and Date-Check profiles.  If that's not enough for her, well, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Agreed. Majority of ladies know that certain screening is more than enough. P411/DC should be fine. If they don't like it, than references.  

For example, I was able to find someone's home address, public tax records, where he coaches, charities he belongs to, his linkedin, where he works, his wife and kids, his phone number, sites he's registered.. All from an email and a name. Please be more careful guys.

I may be a fool, but I think our conversation would be fun. No reviews, nothing else.  

Been around for a long time.  Of course, safety is paramount.  It is perfectly understandable why screening is done. However, safety and discretion are two way streets and should be respected by both. I don't mind telling my name at some point. However, never by e-mail or text or electronic device. Why not just tell what you are going to tell over the phone? Otherwise, it can be just too dangerous for both by leaving very sensitive information for someone too track. Particularly, the local Leos, (comprende?).
Not about to give my work #, home phone #, work phone #, where I work, my bank statements,
Federal income tax returns and God knows what else is being requested these days.  There are better ways which will not be commented on. The bad guys can always find a way around the screening process any way.
Still have difficulty after all these years.  But, everyone is free to ask for and release as much detail as they deem necessary.  The guys are also free to limit their private information.  If no contact then so be it.  
Anyway, that's my story, my 2 cents and I'm sticking to it.
Love you ladies.

in a lot of citys and I have seen a lot of chatter on girls upping there screening as even referances can be faked/flipped!

have my details, and I'm OK with that.  If you travel with someone, it's bound to happen.  In fact, all she has to do is pick up the hotel phone and the operator will address the caller as Mr._______ and the mystery is solved.  And unless you are the first one up on check out day, the hotel bill is often times slid under the door.

When I first started in this industry I required full name, city of residence and phone number. I would use that information to do a background check on net-detective to verify information. Back then I generally did not like provider references, because we are all different and what might be ok with one girl might not be ok with another. for example: light choking, marijuana usage, anal, etc..
Times have changed a lot since then and I have changed my screening methods.

Because, I refused to show my drivers license.

I do have issues about giving employer info. I only give my extension for the phone number bit if she was a psycho she could find out the general number and cause serious problem

One issue these days with D-C and P411 Alex.  Both have been penetrated recently by LE who set up accounts, got a few OKs by coercion and then started setting up appointments and busting girls.  It happened a month ago in Denver and the tactic has spread beyond that city.  Girls would be well advised to expand their screening beyond those two services and get additional references.  This does NOT mean asking for full names.

True and if you knew me, I have my other ways of seeing if someone is okay.

I don't get mad or try to make a case of why the guy should give me his info. I don't give a shit about his reasons, but simply don't contact me or any provider who flat out tells you that's what she requires, if you're not going to give it up. People make too much of a big deal over shit that can simply be avoided. Don't want to provide personal info? No problemo. Contact a hooker that does not ask for it. Do NOT contact a provider who CLEARLY writes flat out on every ad, website, and p411 profile that she will not see anyone without real info. then get all pissy when she refuses to make you the exception. People need to learn to read. No, you are NOT special enough for her to risk her life to make a few bucks.  

Maybe down the road after a few dates, but even that's rare

You think that's bad...had an idiot in Atlanta send out a mass mailer to about 20 providers (names were not hidden) with a family portrait attached. How fkin dumb can you be.

I've found that many girls' sites say they require your full name but when you send them the info you're willing to give, absent your last name, they are fine with it.
I've also had more than a few girls admit to me that they never even checked my P411 and D-C profiles.  Since P411 notifies you when someone checks your profile it's easy to know.

She has the much greater liability, and needs to be protected.  I feel more comfortable with a provider who carefully screens than with one who does not.   After all, LE is known for being very lax in screening, aren't they?

I've literally met 100s of providers over the many decades I have hobbied and never regretted giving out my name and personal information.

I am very selective in whom I see of course.

when I see "real name and employer required", I simply pass. When it is not clear on their website and they request it in our communications, I simply pass.  The good news, for guys, is that it is a buyer's market. At least in my city, new ladies are coming into the biz everyday, more ladies are touring through and the competition is ultimately creating an atmosphere of some flexibility around screening. Ultimately, this may not be a good thing but it does mean us gents do have choices.

In all honesty, guys NOT from New Orleans or Destin, I really don't need all that info. from, but I feel more secure having it at this juncture because of what I just had to endure. If you and most of the guys I know from TER wanted a date, I have no doubt it would not be for sinister reasons, and you have no plans of trying to harm me...the next guy, not so sure about that. That is really the only reason I got so strict all of a sudden. When you have a psycho provider trying to set you up with her white knights to reveal personal info about you, all of a sudden you don't much care how much money you lose whilst trying to protect yourself and your family.

Please stop publicly embarrassing yourself like this, russy.

there is no good reason not to thoroughly screen.  It's for everyone's safety.  I just draw the line at the most personal information.  And I don't really have much to lose.

Dobie Gillis is his name.  He's a bit more shy than me...but he's still a cool cat  LO

I require a last name in most instances. I do have other ways of screening, but typically I have no problems with gents providing me their real info. I have too many family members around this state. Lol!

My basic philosophy is this: We all have the right to do what makes us feel comfortable enough to meet, and to not do whatever makes us uncomfortable.  

I think Zelda might want "in" on that just to get closer to Dobie.  Are you OK with 2F 2M?  

while in office in California.  BBW for sure.  I think also an out-of-the-closet lesbian, if that matters

So if someone had 40 plus references and belonged to a screening site.... that wouldn't work for you?

She requires a deposit to see her...at least she claims to publicly.