You took what is probably a bad idea for him and concluded she's barebacking her boyfriend before sessions and leaving creampies he's eating. I'm laughing too hard and it hurts lol.
I started seeing this girl every few weeks. She doesn't really think of herself as an escort. She has a day job that she cares about and describes this as something temporary until her career moves forward. I met her through one of her friends and she has become a repeat overnight provider on trips.
I'm starting to develop feelings for her, and I know this is stupid. I think it's related to some substances we may have done. After having seen her, I text her and get like a response per day, which should probably tell me she's not interested in anything other than the professional client relationship.
On the other hand, she does see me at a lower rate than published, though maybe it's just because I see her on the regular. Our overnights have been a lot of the standard stuff but also a lot of talking, and so I wonder if there's anything beyond what we're doing. She's also mentioned I should go to some parties/events in the area that she goes to, though this hasn't happened yet.
I'm pretty sure I'm just being stupid and should move on. But I keep thinking about her. Perhaps someone can just tell it to me straight? Would love to hear opinions
Bro, I'm sure she seems nice and sweet and she says all the right things, but she doesn't have feelings for you, she NEVER will, if simply because of how you met. You need to move forward and expect nothing more from her than you would any other escorts. Simple as that! there will NEVER be a "thing" between you. Even if you progressed to an "Exclusive SB/SD" relationship, as soon as the cash stops flowing so does her pussy. Ride it out as long as you want, just know that it will never be anything more than a fun business relationship
Some providers, like myself do develop feelings for their clients. I am a rare breed indeed. I love my friends! I don't have any issues being honest. It's normal to love the people who care about you emotionally, physically & financially.
In your case she clearly just wants your money. No strings attached. Just the stability on your cash every month. I would love & appreciate anyone who cared about me enough to help supplement my income. All providers are not created equal.
But on the other hand, is life just about being safe?
Now and then it's worth taking a plunge. I did, and don't regret it. (But it's not all beer and skittles either.)
You have to assess your tolerance for risk, as investment types like to say.
If you do take the plunge, let us know how it works out.
As for how to go about it, just lay all your cards on the table, don't be namby-pamby. That is a turn off.
I suspect you will get deluged by players--myself included--who will tell you to back away, splash some cold water on your face, and move on. Nothing--I mean NOTHING--in your post even hints that she has any non-business interest in you. Suggesting you go to a party she may be at sounds akin to recommending a restaurant she frequents.
You're here asking this question because you already know the answer--this is a dry hole-- and you want us verbalize it for you in the hopes that will make you snap to attention. But only you can arrest this fall. Will you?
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He may have written this seeking a big “No!” from the forum, but so far he’s gotten mixed results. There have been plenty of discussions of off the clock time. I would suggest he search “OTC” in this forum, The Erotic Highway, and K-Girls if he really wanted to do a deep dive on the topic.
I see that some replies suggest a go-slow approach. I was responding based on the fact that he provided zero evidence she's actually interested in OTC time with him. If there are data to the contrary, hopefully he can be an adult and follow through accordingly.
Plenty of mongers have been able to parlay close relationships with providers into OTC time as evidenced by the many threads and posts here over the years! Many guys, particularly those with no experience in this realm have been burned! If the provider is unethical, she may take advantage of your feelings and willingness to help. Go into it with low expectations. I think the first step would be to broach the subject of OTC time, perhaps dinner. If she’s not game to see you off the clock, then just enjoy the good sessions you are having! If things progress, check the threads here for ideas how to set rules and boundaries. Personally, I’ve had a small handful of long-time providers who hinted at OTC time, but I always decline. Despite having had some interest a few times, it creates a level of complication I am not interested in.
We don’t truly know your situation. If you like her shoot your shot about dating. If she’s like hell no there’s your answer. I suppose you are risking the friendly rate she’s giving you. Life is short go for it.
You've gotten (and will continue to get) plenty of warnings here. My advice is: Nut up and ask her. But, go slow.
Make explicit plans with her to meet at one of these parties ("Hey, let me know when you're going to be at X party. I'll meet up with you there."). Or, ask her if she'd be interested in hanging out as friends ("Can I meet you for coffee some time, just to hang out?").
Just because you've been banging on the clock, don't assume that you're suddenly going to be FWB. Remember that you're starting a new relationship with a woman. Treat it as such.
Don't be that guy. But if you do you'll have lots of company.
I agree but nothing ventured nothing gained. Plus, it’s not my life 😂
But facts are facts. No one can deny your feelings. If you don’t take a chance and let her know, you will regret it for the rest of your life. But history tells us your odds are not great. But it also tells us it’s not impossible. Good luck.
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You're giving her money on a regular basis to spend time with you.
You're apparently in denial about her being an escort when you say she doesn't consider herself one because she also has a RL job, but you also mention she has an ad rate.
I've had enough regulars to understand most don't mind trading the occasional social text message, having some OTC time (meet for coffee, drinks, etc... it's just marketing. Same with the pillow talk on an overnight or any extended session.
Absolutely nothing you have mentioned about her actions suggest that she is interested in you as more than a client.
If you must get the answer yourself, stop paying her and see how long she remains interested in you.
Let me add that I don't think there is anything wrong with her treating you nicely. She's not trying to con you, she's just cultivating a good client. It's part of her job and apparently she does it well.
I've found that the lines become blurred
in the minds of Clients &/0r Providers
when the tryst(s) are so amazing they're blinded by the ecstasy......
For said Providers....blinded by the money!
"How many "Provider" / "Mongers" are
in the P4P World to fornicate, but also
to find your "Savior", your "Knight", or
be "Mr. Save-a-Hoe"?
(lol no disrespect to any of us!)
How many Clients here are actually
"lookin'-for-love-in-all-the-wrong-places"?
@secrtasianman128
Do you find yourself seeking a partner for
a permanent relationship, being drawn to
P4P Women or Strippers?
Is it just a dalliance to add excitement to
your otherwise dull sex-life?
Do you think the P4P lady will provide this same excitement, day-after-day if you're in
a committed relationship?
Could you trust each other implicitly?
The common saying rings very true;
"the way you meet them, is the way you
lose them!"
I encourage learning "mental
compartmentalization" whilst hiring
Providers, and vice-versa.
This technique greatly affords myself;
I compartmentalize my "work life", my
"personal life" and separate all other
facets of my being.
"Sex is just sex", it isn't love".
He's a "Client" and I'm the "Transaction"!
Regards,
Angelina Jones
Let's say she does like you, what do you envision happening?
Do you think she will give up her profession, find a new job, and date you exclusively?
Or would you be ok if she continues to work, but sees you on the side for free? Would you be ok with that?
Are you ready for a relationship?
How much do you actually know about her? Aside from great sex, what is it about her that makes you think you would make a good couple?
While it is somewhat normal to develop feelings for someone that you share intimacy with often, are you confusing lust with love?
you understand that giving her money is part of your relationship. I am talking about a monthly allowance. Start at four figures; AND
you understand that she will always have sex with other guys and perhaps other women; AND
you sincerely love her and treat her like you do. That means really caring about her and securing her future, not just showing her off.
less than her normal rate is because you must be a fairly easy appointment for her, relatively speaking, you are booking multiple-hour sessions, and you have been loyal, regular and a dependable income stream. When a customer is all of these things they will periodically get discounted rates or some OTC time piggy-backed onto the session. These are customer-appreciation marketing gestures to keep you're coming. If you try to read something else into it, you are most likely headed for a very awkward moment at some point where you pour out your feeling for her that might embarrass her enough to stop seeing you. The only thing else "going on" is that she really appreciates your business, but that's the key here, it's all about the business. That doesn't mean she wants to stop. On the contrary, I'm betting she would keep seeing you on the same terms for months or years, or until you do something to blow the good deal you have.
If you are catching feelings think of this, she probably has a real boyfriend that shes banging bareback and when you go down on her you are eating his creampie. Get out now before you blow too much money. She's using her best marketing tactics on you
You took what is probably a bad idea for him and concluded she's barebacking her boyfriend before sessions and leaving creampies he's eating. I'm laughing too hard and it hurts lol.
Yeah not sure where that cum from …
Bum tish zing 😂
Can’t you enjoy each other’s company and care for each other within the boundaries of your existing and clearly enjoyable set up, without assuming that that means that you need to escalate to a Real Relationship?
Drop the feelings and put your big boy pants on. This isnt a game for immature adults that dont have their emotions in control.