I would like to know your take on how you handle this situation. He is white listed here so I'm sure he's a good client but he failed to show after confirming last night. Just curious as to how you ladies normally handle this situation thank you

You can PM him, text him, email him and ask what happened. There could be a good reason why he didn't show up. Shit happens from time to time (family emergency, transportation, job emergency, health emergency)

Its best to settle matter privately before coming out public with it.

I would never out him publicly

I don't know your methods but just because a hobbyist is white listed doesn't mean he's a "good client".  He may be a good client to those that had white listed him but not to you.  Did you ask for any other references?  If not I always suggest that a provider request references.  Even if he is 411 verified.  It's just a good way to dot your i's and cross your t's.  Also, follow throw with a couple emails to the ladies that have white listed him.  Maybe there is a reason she hasn't delisted him but could provide more info to you privately.  I know lots of good guys that life has interrupted a scheduled time due to ongoing issues at home or the office and sometimes they are too embarrassed to contact you so if you have interest in seeing him, contact him, if not, let it go.  However, because I KNEW about the issues I was able to relay that in a personal message to a reference request when she specifically asked if he was a time waster because of another's experience relayed to her.  With that certain guy I just said he has personal issues, I wouldn't bank on it but if your schedule allows why not keep that line of communication open?

Thank you this helps a lot.

I would contact him and ask what happened, but beyond alerting other ladies in that same area there is not much you can do. I don't blacklist for a NCNS, but I would make it known if it was a pattern. The only way to combat against guys doing this is to require a deposit, but it is part of the biz on both sides I am afraid.

If he is on date check, you can give him a "Do not recommend." If he is on p411, you can make Gina aware of the issue, and she will talk to him FOR you.

I don't book again with anyone who cancels on me for any reason..just not worth my time to go out on a limb for that person if they have no made concessions for their mishap. When I have had to cancel, a guy was always given the option of extra time or 100 off, and yes that includes any so called emergency.

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I set my whole life aside and take great care to prepare for every appointment...I only set a few appointments a week and if you schedule with me, I then tell other prospective clients that day is not available.  If you do not give a minimum of 24 hours notice so that I have a chance to rebook with someone considerate, with a very legitimate reason why you have to cancel, you do not deserve my time or respect because often times you are costing me money and at the very minimum, my wasted time (time is money).  No call, no show is extremely disrespectful and I will not even consider rebooking with you.
Exceptions are my very close and trusted companions who have extraordinary circumstances (doctors on call ect) but respectful clients usually let me know in advance that a cancellation is possible...or friends I know well who have emergency situations come up...but not letting me know you aren't coming is never acceptable.
There are plenty of prospective respectful men out there more deserving of your time and attention...don't be taken for granted and don't let people walk all over you, in this profession or in life in general.  Life is to short to not have integrity.

This business is no different than any other service providing business.  There are costs involved to provide the service and when expected revenues are not received a loss is incurred.  Emergencies and unexpected occurances arise but providers should expect to be compensated for any costs outlay that results from a missed appointement.  Furthermore it's not unreasonable for a provider ot expect an explanation.  As a hobbiest I would expect an explanation if a provider didn't show before I would be willing to reschedule.

It's not as cut and dry as any type of service providing business.  That's a pretty slippery slope.  However, I never would criticize another provider on how she runs a successful business.  The reason I suggest it being a slippery slope is because this industry strays from others because of what it entails on a personal/intimate  level.  I could easily serve someone a burger but have more concerns BCD.  I personally expect from time to time to incur and eat some costs.  It's just the price of business.  I've noticed that depending how I handle it, I've been rewarded well for being flexible.  Hell that's what I figure I'm here for.

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pleasure yourself. dont wait for him to enjoy yourself sweetie, I usually find things to do when guys cancel, theres always a vobrator or another man waitin to book, get online and advertise n book one inhis place,

It is not the intent that is the problem...it is what is done, or NOT done after the fact. If you know your job is unpredictable, here's a fkin clue...DON'T BOOK WITH A HOOKER! At the very least, let her know something might come up so she can have a plan B! Not all of us work every day, or even every week for that matter, so we don't have the time for bs.

Guys who book with extremely low volume providers should know upfront that we don't have a damn waiting list to "fit in" when you cancel. This is why I don't tour anymore...not worth it. Luckily, I get enough info before meeting someone so I don't have too much of this, but not every lady is such a stickler. Those of you who pull this crap should be thankful you have a hole to fill. Not all of us have to put up with that much bs to make money, and the more time a woman spends building a rep, getting great reviews, etc. the LESS bs she will actually encounter.

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I've had White Listed gents ncns me, P411/Date-Check approved and even gents who I see on a regular basis ncns me.  No, it hasn't happened often but it has happened and I've always been more concerned about him not showing up than about myself "losing out" an appointment.  I send a concerned email and I've always received a response within 24 hours.  

Emergencies really do happen, whether it's a personal issue, a family issue, physical or other.  A person who ncns may or may not tell the truth about what happened, which is what I always keep in mind.  Hell, what if said client simply had hemorrhoids and just didn't know what type of excuse to come up with right away?

I've had to cancel last minute...  sudden weather made the interstate impassable.  But I called.  We rescheduled & had a great time.  I not arrive in the general area early & find a coffee shop to kill time.  
I've had a well reviewed provider not pick up on a confirmed meeting...  I left a message for her but she didn't have the decency to reply.  A simple "It's not going to work" would have been fine.  Even after the fact, an appology was expected.  I didn't get it & I will never book with her now, not even if it was free!  Because more than the cash, this wasted my rare Day when I could be unaccounted for.  NO, I'll book with someone I can count on.  
I'd give 24-48 hours.  Sending a polite note is entirely appropriate.  He should appologize.  Whether you choose to book with him in the future is entirely up to you.