This question is for both providers and hobbyist. Have you ever had a sugar daddy/baby arrangement? If so, is it an arrangement you would want to repeat?

three strikes and I'm out!   Would never do it again.  Always great sex and great value in the beginning, but once they think they have you hooked, then they get lazy and seem to have less "available" time.  I'm sure there are guys for whom it was a positive experience, but for me, it felt like a scam each time I tried it.  I do much better with professionals.

The mistake is not in seeing a Sugar Baby, the mistake is continuing to see her once the luster has worn off. No different than having a so called ATF.

my only commitment is the time I booked TODAY, and if its not good, I can walk away without leaving any money on the table.  For me, each session is a job interview for the next session, and even with pro's, if the service gets lazy, I won't go back.  Perhaps my mistake with the SB's was getting into a "monthly" arrangement, paying in advance, and then her not having time for me the second half of the month, which made it more expensive over the course of a month to see an amateur than a pro.  

So, I guess my situation is different than most.

Only one of them has been with me for the entire year and will continue for as long as we have fun. Generally have about 3 active sugar babies at any given time and most of them last 3 to 6 months. Some of them I continue to see on a one off basis, but not worth a monthly arrangement.

I think the lazy part works on both sides, some daddies get comfortable and want to see you more and more, the allowance payments start to come later and later, he wants you to be on call and have overnights and gets upset when you have something else to do. I had a sugar daddy get mad cause I wouldn't fly out to see him that night even though I was still in school and had a test the next day. You can't be offering $1200 a month and expect to see her 5-6 times a month whenever you want to. and you can't be a sugar baby getting $3-5K a month trying to only see him once or twice a week for an hour each. Expectations need to be clear and everything will be great. don't be a cheap overly demanding daddy and don't be an entitled, full of herself baby and it will be great.

But I don't pay for "first dates" or any dates before we have sex. I don't pay a month in advance, the most I will do is give her rent money or the equivalent that she can "work off" in a short period of time. I have rented cars for a couple of girls, but that is only a couple of hundred a week.

I had a relationship where the SD started getting emotionally needy and kept putting me through these games to get some affirmation that I cared about him aside from the money. That was more fatiguing than anything sexual. Sadly, I did care about him but things got disrespectful after awhile.

Was similar to mine. However, the way you chose to make your "exit" is not very appealing to me. Lol

In the case I'm aware of, they just don't want to view themselves that way.

must look to the rest of you, but trust me, I am NOT his "Honey."

For both of us. Lasted about a year and with the right person it can be cool. But my SO wasn't crazy about my lifestyle or that ideal so I had to put an end to it...but I enjoyed it. I wouldn't do it again though.I'm in a different mind set now and I'd make a horrible Sugar Daddy.

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Civys can cost you too.    Dating women I have fixed transmissions , repaired wells, paid rent, etc..     You don't get near as much sex as cheap and as good as a provider.  Never had an SB.

Do tell, where do you find them? And how much do you spend to maintain them? monthly ? weekly? or you can send me a PM

This has been my experience.  I remember one of my Babies ran out of excuses for not being available. I split when she told me she couldn't make it because of her son's birthday.

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But I don't have the patience of catering to someone else's every beckon call... I have a busy life civie & academic!!! But I would love one who could work with my schedule.. And my moodiness hahahahahaha.....  Oh well I guess I'll just stick to my random hourly sugar daddies aka clients!!!!  

fourth time her grandmother had a funeral.  Lol

One thing about SB/SD relationships is that they are (can be) legal.  I know already someone will scream at me that it is sex for money, but that's true of a lot of marriages.    Courts have found mistress relationships to be legal because it isn't strictly pay for play (as far as they can prove.)   You could give your girlfriend gifts, pay for her apartment etc.  Perfectly legal.  There's no way that LE could prove your SB/SD relationship is different than a GF/BF relationship.  So it is legal

In the beginning of P4P for me was a Sugar Baby role; however, it was all smoke and mirrors type guys. I had zero confidence, zero street smarts, zero negotiation skills, and zero dating experience, and I was broke-ass. I was used to LTR's and one night stands up to that point.  

I'm 57, and have a 29 yo SB, divorced, one child.  We first got together on SA in 2013.  We had 2 encounters in 2013.  Since then, we meet once or twice a month, sometimes less, never more.  $300 per session.  I get everything I would get from a provider, DFK, BBBJ, etc.  She's sexy as hell, and she can host.  Sometimes she comes to my place.  Very nice.  Can't complain.  Is she doing it with someone else?  I don't care, we don't talk about.  She knows I have a GF, and is ok with it.

Isn't that just being a "regular" or ATF?  

Yeah, for me I just found the SD/SB relationship to be a rip off. Someone has access to an unspecified amount of my time (meeting 1x a week, 1x a month, texts/calls every day?) and pays me remarkably little when compared to that kind of time providing. I'd day I make 5-10x more as a provider for the same amount of time and effort, and that estimate is modest.  

I never get too bogged down with semantics myself.  

Damn Monger, why are you on TER criticizing me for being a hooker when you could be on some SD site? That's like walking into a Chinese restaurant and complaining that you hate Chinese food.  

That's where it gets complicated, when emotions get the best of us.

Basic Needs
Basic Needs plus gifts
Generous
More than Generous
Lavish Lifestyle.

I only said that hookers make terrible sugar babies. They can be good hookers but terrible as sugar babies. I'm here because hookers are the quick fix. I could make jokes about all the exit strategies I've seen over the last 25 years but I'll refrain.

I have never had sugar baby before , all thou I thought about it  

yea, what's your point?