I recently set up an outcall session with a provider when I was traveling on vacation. She didn't text, so all communication was through P411 or email. I sent her my hotel info in the morning, and asked her to email when she got close so I could give her my room number. She arrived exactly at our agreed time and emailed. Unfortunately, I was in the bathroom and missed her initial email. Either that, or the server didn't push it through immediately. In any event, I got another email from her at 10 minutes after our agreed meeting time saying she was leaving and to never contact her again.

If I have to wait five minutes I'm gone in four.  

...when she left me sitting in a parking lot for 20 minutes...I texted her when I arrived, called at 10 minutes, and texted the "goodbye" at 20 minutes...she contacted me shortly thereafter claiming her phone was messed up and she didn't see the texts or missed call...true? I don't know...

She arrived on time, and you were late (in the bathroom)? You don't know how many times, over the years, the lady needed an extra five or ten minutes to get ready. Your on time friend sounds great! I want to meet her.  

i made a date in advance to see someone in a city I was visiting a few weeks later.  I booked a room for the days needed for business and one extra day.  On the assigned day in the am, she e mailed me and asked Where are you? I answered that I was "right here and can't wait. to see you." She answered that since I hadn't kept in touch, she thought I had forgotten about it and made other arrangements and it was my fault for "being a jerk".
So even though I contacted her the am for a pre booked late am meeting, I had made her wait too long....past D day minus some number of days or hours.
This was just after a lady I was going to see and did meet wrote and said because I kept contacting her it made her worried I was having second thoughts.  
Oh well win some lose some.

and that's not even getting her side of it.

she wasn't worth your time.

WOULD have taken me to read your post.

As a provider (I am obviously not, but just thinking in dollar terms) I would wait a good fraction of the scheduled time (as I unlikely couldn't arrange a replacement date that fast anyhow) hoping to connect and collect some dough.

... after 10 minutes waiting for an escort with no word from her. Why the fuck were you in the bathroom at the appointed time. Sheesh. Loser.

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and also prop open the door shortly before the appointment time.  

Also if she refused to have your phone # or share her phone # that's also on her. I can totally relate to the punctuality aspect. I myself take pride in being punctual and expect punctuality from the other party. Dust off and move on but please use what you learned in this case so it doesn't happen to you again.

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But the exception in my case was I had his phone# and he had mine.
I sent an confirmation email and he did confirm the appt let me know he arrived at the hotel and the room number.
I knocked a few times no response I went down to the hotel lobby/casino got a cocktail at the bar tried to call him received a message the phone would not accept calls.I tried to text his phone had a text block on it.I also emailed no response.
I must have waited probably close to 30min.I gave up and left.

What she did was politely tell you not to contact her again after you wasted her time. 10 mins in the bathroom and you know she's on her way? Lol. Sounds fishy.  

Sounds a bit sexist... That girl-logic crap

....since I have yet to visit a provider at her place and have her be ready on time. As long as the communication continues I'm ok with sitting in the lobby. On the rare times that I have her come to me I typically have been kept waiting for upwards of 30 minutes. Sometimes more. As long as I'm not close to check out time I don't mind all that much. Again - as long as she communicates with me on her status it's all good

I will usually wait 10 to 15 minutes and enjoy a drink at the bar. Anything after that I think I may leave. Now if I arrived and he was running late and said to wait longer I totally would. We all run into occurrences time to time. The way she handled it was a bit odd to me. She may have not even gotten there and made it all up just to get out of it. Who knows.

I understand telling her which hotel you'll be staying in when you make reservations, and emailing the room number after you check in, but if you arrive and spend your first night, then in the morning email her your hotel info, why wouldn't you just include the room number?

This about fun...structure and polite, yes, but fun!  I would have gone back if all commuication had been reasonalbe to begin with.  I do second chances...I mean things do happen.  Internet can get slow...etc.  So I would have probably gone back to my car or someplace discreet, tried to re-establish communication which in this case would have been almost immediately.  

I recently waited 45 minutes past the anointed hour...the assistant conveying room logistical issues. And this was in a small lobby of a boutique hotel. But the lady was gorgeous, renown and a sweetie. One of my best times ever and a new fav. Glad I waited.

hhhhmmmm,
well, I like the email process for contacting, except for when it gets down to the final steps of meeting.
To prevent incidents like this , a phone number, given the morning-of, could have saved the date.

different wait times.

the thing is Love,

there is always a place to grab a drink, a up of coffee, or simply do some work. It doesn't mean I don't get irked or start to worry the rendezvous is going south... I just turn on some patience and see how it plays out. I never book so tightly on either side of a date that an hour "delay" somewhere in the process is going to ruin my day. Suffice it to say, while I have had a date or two fall though, I've always had a positive outcome in the end.... either we meet and laugh aside life's little interferences on the way to a good time, or we don't meet but eventually come to terms and meet at a later date... usually on favorable terms for me

who relies only on email any more? ok, maybe a few gals.  
but to be "unavailable" at the appointed time is a rookie move.

When it comes to the finally steps, there is NO reason you both didn't contact via phone. She should have had your room number. Why wouldn't she anyways? You don't wait til last minute to do whatever you were doing when you know she is on her way.  

early and you might not be ready? lol
he could have locked the bathroom door if he wanted to  
surprise her with a new outfit?  

Damn NOB,

Actually, I think there is blame to go around, but most of it's on the OP.

I was wondering if he forgot to douche?

maybe his tardiness was caused by an unexpected accident
    cleaning out the colo

Except for washing my ass, which I am not going to do five minutes before she is scheduled to be there, I don't need to be "ready" I am always ready.

Instead of setting up a specific appointment time, ask ahead if she’ll be flexible within a 15-20 minute time slot in case something comes up, particularly with email communication that can and does include lag time certain parts of the day. Or give a specific time, but also ask if she’s flexible several minutes beyond appointment time to allow for a mishap. It doesn’t hurt to ask.

They are suing you for defamation.
mrfisher hastens to add he is "still not a lawyer."

after I moved from my condo with a front desk,  
I was often in the shower when she arrives. But
 I've left the door to the building ajar and my apt
door unlocked. BUT I ALWAYS HAVE MY PHONE  
AN ARMS LENGTH AWAY FROM THE SHOWER.  

totally wrong imho. you ask a provider to be willing to wait 20 minutes in case you're late for no good reason. I'm not taking that date with that dude if I'm a gal and we don't have history.  

and I tell her to just walk in when she gets here.  

she'd have a key to my place lol
and if she found me occupied, she could always join in.

I am suggesting his tardiness  
   may have been caused by his wanting so badly to present his ass with the utmost of sparkling cleanliness
       so that entry into the cavity would be easier and smoother for his date to stretch the asspussy to maximum
       and also for consideration of his date's sense of smell.

You never know when even a SB/SD relationship is going to end badly.

And the name of the planet you live on is......?

Reality is sexist then.

Obviously a lot of different perspectives regarding wait times.  

I still think you bear the "bulk" of the blame, but certainly not all of it.

As far as myself, I usually set up times to meet others within a 15-minute time-frame, but I understand professionals give a specific time if that helps in agreement with what you’re implying? Sometimes when I arrive on-time, I wind up waiting at a doctor’s office 15-20 minutes. (Do I get compensated for lost time?)

My best overall experiences by far have been with women who have been totally professional about being on time or communicating a delay. Just like with any business, I find that people who take pride in their business and their name are the best. I know delays can happen and am more than understanding, but please just tell me what's going on as the hobby can often be a place where people default to assuming the worst - not the best.  

I had a pre-paid cell that would get flaky and delay delivery of email, texts, and even lose some texts. Had a date with provider who texted me from the lobby to let me know she was there and it showed up 10 min later. Fortunately, I had already given her my room # and she was able to hitch a ride on the elevator with another guess. Elevator was card controlled. She knocked on the door and as she was walking in, my phone delivered her text. She was mad until I showed her the delayed message. I got a different phone after I found out I was also not getting messages from a couple of POT SBs.

give my phone number to my dates prior to appt time.After screening is done and before the appt he has my unpublished work number.So not sure if being email only is an excuse for not getting the room info in advance.

I fully agree the communication delay was my fault. In fact, I told the provider it was my fault and apologized for the delayed response when I emailed her. But there was no way for me to make amends when she broke off communications. I made a mistake. The only thing I can do now is learn from it and do better next time.

Google voice, Textnow, Talkatone........     all kinds of free texting/calling apps these days that give you a free number. Why the fuck would a provider not use one?

An image of Angus Young from AC/DC just popped into my head, along with their song Dirty Deeds Done Dirty Cheap.

numbers once screening is completed. Without a cell number, there will not be a date. In this day, cell phones are essential in case of travel emergencies.

I'm like that.  Usually on time, I hate when people leave you sitting there.  Others ave more patience

She is the one getting paid, she should have waited. Period. (Too many girl flakes in this hobby)

My point was preaching the date with the fact you might be late.  

Provider posted a nearly identical story, says it was an over night booking, that she gave up after waiting a long time, and suggests her client was threatening in his attempts to get his deposit back, and asks the community for advice on the deposit. I think she also mentioned regretting not getting a promised steak dinner.

Jake is their official spokesperson, and like all special interest groups they hire their own.

No matter what the reason for the communication is.

She is fantastic, but she will not tell me what planet she is from

And, I see your point towards those that are irresponsible when it comes to punctuality because they are time wasters.

Without any communication, I am willing to wait 10 minutes for an unfamiliar provider, and 20 minutes for my ATF. With communication regarding delays, I am willing to wait longer in either case, but not if I get the sense that somebody just got moved ahead of me in line. In my early days in this hobby, I often faced a delay of one or two hours past the original time, because the provider booked somebody else ahead of me after we had already scheduled an appointment. Even my ATF back then pulled this stunt from time to time. After several negative experiences, I took a firm policy of cancelling if my appointment got delayed for more than 30 minutes.

So when it comes to outcall I won't wait that long. There are guys who call you to their apartment complex or hotel and don't have the money or whatever and just get off on seeing you come in and wait and stand around while they watch you from across the lobby or from their apartment window. So now i head out if i don't hear from you in ten minutes, especially when i just heard from you a few minutes before arriving.