Let's say he's makes it past your screening process, shows up at your door, enters, but looks suspicious.  You get a squeezy feeling in your stomach and immediately you..... do what? What do you do at this point?  

I've only had one incident in my 4 yrs of escorting but as of late i'm feeling much more paranoid than before. Without the ability to take deposits I don't have that extra sense of security I once had. More touring ladies are being targeted and there's really no where for us to run. Because of my fears this will be my last year as a touring escort.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Hugs!
Tygrlily

Last weekend I saw the film Dirty Pretty Things ( http://movie-reviews.colossus.net/movies/d/dirty_pretty.html ), which, incidentally, I highly recommend.

In one scene Sophie Okonedo (playing the hooker -- her term -- Juliette) goes to a upper class hotel with a client. When the client starts to slap her around, she punches him hard enough to knock him off balance then kicks him in the balls. When the night desk clerk comes rushing in she has the guy down and is spraying him in the face at point-blank range with what must be either tear gas or pepper spray judging by the way he is screaming.

First of all, I'm sorry for your misfortune Ms Lily, but even you point out it's only happened once in 4 years....

The thing is I have seen several high end escorts who have NO problems and don't see many clients and are quite happy and don't have freaks at all...

See, the problem is these movie also stereotype the men.

These high end ladies see nice generous good looking guys (ok not all of them might be goodlooking, but they're not bad!)

and yet in the movies you'd think the escorts all did drugs and the men all hit them.

These ladies I know do NOT do drugs, are smart and don't fit the stereotypes that I am sick of seeing in the film mentioned above.

ST

I've got some suggestions for personal safety but I don't want to tip my hand.

Elise [email protected]

Whether I'm touring or I'm in Atlanta, my home base, someone constantly knows where I am and who I'm going to see, or if it's an incall, who's coming to see me.  My security person gets a safety call when I arrive at the outcall location or when the client arrives at my incall location and during the call I state the person's name and if it's an outcall, I reiterate my location.  I also state how long of an appointments it's going to be.  They get another call when I leave or the client leaves. If I don't call withing 10 minutes of the time that the appointment is supposed to be over, they call me.  Their number has a special ringer on my cell phone, so I know it's them just by the ring.  If I don't answer, they call the police.

This may not seem like a really good plan when I'm touring and my security people (I have three that I call depending on what time of day it is) may be in another state, however it is a little intimidating to people when they know for a fact that someone else knows about them.  The information is discreetly discarded once they know that everthing went smoothly.  We've never had to call the cops since this plan was implemented and it's gotten me through a couple of sticky situations.  Having a had a few horrifying encounters as a Provider, it's a relief to have some kind of safety net.  

When all else fails and you're face to face with someone that you'd rather not see, it's always best to blame yourself.... tell them Aunt Flo came to visit... and hope they don't want to earn their redwings... LOL!

Jaclyn

Well, and your response is a thread all in its own!
I post the way I do because I can't stand the stereotypes!

Interesting, I've recently had two conversations with hobbying gents who both have told me that they've told someone that they 'hobby' (I really hate that term). I knew what was coming.
One shared it with a very long-time friend (female) and one shared it with male co-workers. The female friend thinks he's sick, has a problem and recommends he 'see somebody professionally'; the co-workers don't understand and kind of maybe look down on him. Why? Because they don't understand, and they've used their own perceptions (brewing in their minds) while listening.

In movies, in the news, in the newspapers (ie the DOM that was found dead in her bathtub), they are going to always portray it in the worst, seediest way. Of course! Anything to further public non-acceptance!

Anyway, this doesn't help Lily..

Lily, easier said than done, but you gotta go with the gut feeling. If it feels creepy, it just may be. Creepy can just be creepy, or it can translate into danger. After all, how do you screen psyche?
I was a nervous wreck over this one appointment. Got a major creepy feeling. Had to really muster up, PLUS look relaxed and 'hot' and get excited - when my stomach was in knots! Ended up being the easiest appt. ever - in and out of there in 12 minutes (and two pops!), and my body shook all the way to my car from pure relief! And he was a nice guy, just someone who unfortunately has a high creep factor probably unknowingly.

I think both parties have a 'changed mind' clause. If it doesn't feel right, they can both say, "I'm sorry, I don't think this is going to work out", and leave, politely.

I have actually had ONE occasion where I wanted with all my will to do that, and didn't. I didn't because I knew that he couldn't really afford to do this - pay for the room, and the service, and if I left, he'd have just paid for a room for nothing. I couldn't even come up with a plan fast enough to bow out gracefully yet not hurt or insult him. Awful situation to be in.

Wish I could be of help. These are things we ladies really do need to talk about more (and more privately) and I'd certainly like to hear the input.

You know how to reach me.

xo,
Sedona

If you do incall always use a nice hotel with a bar. Tell the person you will meet him in the bar. Ask what he is wearing. Do not tell him what you are wearing or lie to him. When he comes in then you can be the judge. If he give's you the creeps go back to your room and call his cell phone tell him what ever.
Ladies, it is your life, don't feel sorry for someone, because that could be your last conscience thought. Even if you use a "notell motel", you can always meet away from the location.

JAMMER

Sedona,
2 pops in 12 minutes.  Was he that young or do you have some magical talents?

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT when a provider handles my nut case!