I  am a 39 yr old white guy with two children.  My wife passed away five years  ago in a tragic accident.  I am not asking for sympathy,  only advice. A few months ago I met an absolutely fabulous 29 year old woman.  She is incredible looking,  owns her own home, and attends graduate  school.  I can't explain how wonderful she makes me feel and how I feel alive again.
         Yesterday,  I received an email from unknown sender that said,  '' thought you should know'' and had a link to a website------------yes,  her provider website!!!! No mistake - - - it's her. Gentlemen, reply if you like,  but I am hoping to hear from the ladies. I LOVE this woman and I have thought about the life we could have together.  My kids are crazy about her and my mother loves her.  Help.
I think I  could accept this if she'd quit,   but - - -  In a flash I have gone from the happiest I've ever been to the dumps. I cancelled our date last night,  but can't ignore this.

My advice: talk to her. Don't confront her or accuse her.

Tell her that if she truly cares for you, she'll quit and be monogamus.  Otherwise, you'll be an unwitting sugar daddy.

Then you have to let the chips fall where they will.

Seems like there is a wrath of people coming forward lately to fk boards lamenting their SO partaking in the hobby in one way or another. Yep, if I found out a woman I love was an escort behind my back, I wouldnt go to a family member, a trusted friend or counselor of some kind...Within 24 hours, I would go right to the GD fk board at good ol' TER! And for some odd reason, he felt the need to tell us he is "white" too.

I wouldn't mind a personal relationship with a provider.  But she'd have to be monogamous as far as men went, I'd promise to be monogamous.  If she's bi, I would ask that she see one woman and make sure the other person realized our relationship came first.  No threesomes either.  I'd treat her with the utmost respect, but she would have to willingly accept her position.

Because statistically it IS a factor when it comes to many women.

Have you been a member here and client of providers?  Or did you join upon learning of this situation and now are asking for help from a bunch of whoremongers?  If she has a site, perhaps she's even a member here and will see your post.  Frankly, it's a bit of a stretch to think you're for real.
Now, let's assume I'm wrong and just terribly cynical.  You say you love her, so talk to her.  Personally, at this point I would only marry a provider.  And I would prefer she continue to provide and I continue to see other providers.  I don't imagine too many others would do it this way.

Or did you just find TER from her website?
Obviously, I agree with the others that you need to speak to her. But....
This is just an opinion based on limited facts. If you are a hobbyist, you may be able to work this out with her, since you both have been in this world. If you are not a hobbyist, unfortunately I think it's going to be pretty tough. If you are just learning about this world, what you find out may shock you and you may have a very hard time getting past what she's been involved in behind your back.
I wish you the best.

Have a wonderful time with her, of course, if you can after you know she is an escort. She will tell you yourself what she does for a living if your relation goes to very serious extend. If you can't accept the fact she provides, simply walk out with some excuse. Xo

No.  I've had a couple.  Both MFF.

Your points are well taken, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Naive????? lol

I guess you fall out of love even faster------LOL!

Or maybe he's legitimately seeking advice?

And I thought I was at the head of the cynic line.

what better place to go for advice about an escort than a fk board.  Counselor, maybe, but definately would not got to friends or family to say that the woman I love and the one that you have all met and liked is an escort.  That just stirs all kinds of unnecessary emotional shit!  He needs advice from unbiased party.  So, who ya gonna call?  lol

you have only two choices....1. Accept what she does and deal with it, or 2. Move on. Sorry, but not much else can be said here. I highly doubt she expected you to "fall in love" in such a short time, and it's highly unlikely that's what it is. More like infatuation with a woman who makes you "feel alive again," as you said...that's not love. If she intended on getting serious with you, odds are she planned on telling you about her escort job. If not, well...that's why she felt no need to disclose it, because if she does not feel the same about you, it's none of your business what she does.

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to Blacks, Hispanics, or Asians.. Only happens to white boys....

and you are right...this is an easy up/down choice to make.

It wasnt a week or a month people. He JUST got the news! ANY normal person would be crushed. And then he said to himself "Hmmm...I wonder what the TER community thinks about all this?" like he's taking a fking Gallup poll or something. This guy is either a b.s. artist or certifiably insane. And you dont see the connection between this post and what Cannon (not blaming her) posted earlier? WAKE UP PEOPLE!

Most emasculating advice I have ever seen anyone give to anyone...

Where do you come up with shit from?

Are you related to Serafima?

I agree. Don't say anything.
You have nothing to gain by confronting her.
Assuming this isn't bullshit....
What are you going to say anyway?
"One of my friends told me you are an escort?"
How well do you think that will go over?
Now she has to worry about you, and whoever told you knowing her ID.
It would be better if she told you.. She may never tell you though.
Question is..
Do you care enough about her to ignore what she does for a living?
Is it really that big of a deal to you?
If it is. Cut, and run. You are in over your head, and it will be very hard...
Wait.. No it won't be very hard. That's the problem.
If I were you. I would put it out of my mind.
Pretend you never got the email.
Then in a few years she may tell you.. (Probably when she is looking to retire)
Then you wow her with the "I know. I'm still in love with you babe! Nothing could change that."
Tell her you were quiet about it out of respect for her, and your relationship.
Then you got her on lockdown!
But it has to be true to work...

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After my wife died,  I started visiting providers,  but (no insult to others intended) I was a little ashamed. Managed a sugar baby affair for about a year. Actually had visited a provider only a week before I met this lady.  I don't claim to be better than her.  Wish I could wait for her to tell me,  but don't want to to share her. We are BB and it's the best Sex I've ever had. Really wanted to hear from some other '' ''hookers''

There are a few questions:
1) Are the feelings one sided on your part? If so she would not consider nor would you want her to give up what she is doing.  Only if she is as ready to get more serious as you are
2) If she is willing to stop providing would this still drive you crazy now or later.  Frankly it wouldn't bother me in the slightest so I would answer this question easily.
3) if she is not willing to give up providing for now but would later if things got marriage serious would that bother you.  Again it would not bother me, but it appears from your note that it would break your heart.

Your feeling may have gotten ahead of hers or they may not.  I wish you and your kids the best.  Please keep us informed.

and made me click on an empty post..

Was that a gotcha post?

Where are your reviews?

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On some tang if he blabs.
You really think she is going to say..
Oh your so sweet telling me that!
Or yea I fuck guys for money. But you and your kids are safe?
I can't put one scenario together where that works out for anyone.

..and what is your business about my reviews? Write them for a freebie?

Make up a screen name and concoct a phony story; see how many people see through the bullshit vs. how many just blindly fall in line and play the game.

The players think it proves that people are gullible, and desperate for a sob story. They also think it proves that we need to have our moderators back, because they would weed out this crap.

Personally, I think it just proves that people here want to believe these posts because they want to believe that this is a serious place, and that other people take it serious too. They don't want to play stupid games.

But only London, and a precious few will respond to a thread like this.
You expect them to say what?
Tell her/ don't tell her?
Can you really expect that from the ladies?
That is not fair.

BTW. Not everyone is looking to pick on you.
Just some.. Join the club, and tell them to fuck off..
Try to be funny about it so I can laugh again.
Fucking board is depressing latley.

Been there & done that, so honesty is the best policy for me & being truthful with your SO will only make your relationship stronger.  If you can support her financially more power to you let her know she does not need to post anymore because you will provide for all her needs.

You look funny with that hook in the corner of your mouth... like Ben Stiller in "Something About Mary"...

Ask him why he's been seeing escorts for four years and hasn't written any reviews.

Deep and multi-faceted too. Honestly, one of the best posts I have read in awhile. Made me look at it from several diifferent angles and really made me think. Thanks.

I am not mocking you or your situation, and if I were a guy I would not want the woman I LOVED fkin strange men for money, so I totally get that. I would never date a hobbyist either. I just think you need to tell her how you feel, that you found out, and let the chips fall where they may. Just hope she is not some idiot who is waiting for Captain save a ho, to bail her out so she can stop providing. If that is the case, you will be used until she has no more use for you. If she truly is in grad school and OWNS her home outright, I doubt she needs a man anyway. I certainly don't.

For now I've met a couple of jerks here and on NY discussion board. Nothing real.

She is coming over this evening.  We're gonna order pizza and hang out with the kids. I don't remember who gave the advice,  but I'm not going to say anything.  Hope I can handle the thoughts.  She wants me to come over Sat for dinner and meet her sister and mother. I hope I can manage this,  but deleted the email and intend to pretend it never existed.

You can't tell me what to write or what score to give you...

Deal?

Get in a line

to 'buy into" for a few minutes than ISO golfing hookers, and erotic reviews.  90% of what is on here is BS anyway!  Besides love will make you certifiably insane  and that is no BS!

I agree if she providing and she not forthcoming with it, then it's none of your business. You can either except it or move one.   Personally relationships are hard enough and the last thing I would want to worry about if she's with someone else when she's not with you.  If you can deal with then that's on you.

I am a member with some reviews under another name.  I was never comfortable with the  need for graphic descriptions and stopped writing them.  Looking back at the ones I did write makes me feel----I don't know,  I'm not comfortable with  some  things  I said. Sorry if I offended anyone by saying I was white.  I'm also sorry if I offended 40 yr olds by saying  I was 39. I'm tall ( hope that doesn't  offend short people) and bald (likewise  guys with hair) - - - -

You'll just end up with a codependent relationship and an drained bank account.

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love her exactly as she is. She understandably has kept this information from you for the judgment she feared would be (and clearly is) forthcoming.

You need to decide why you felt shame for seeing providers. Therein will be the crux of your issues with her work: and I guarantee that if you analyze it thoroughly enough, the problems you perceive will be problems that come from a close-minded or religious mindset.

If you confront her with the information that you know, you could open a very honest dialogue. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. In all honesty, it shouldn't be. If she loves what she does, and many of us do, it may well be a part of her make up. There is no reason she can't be a perfectly wonderful partner for you. Many of us have partners and can be monogamous (outside work), or have understandings that preclude the necessity of sexual monogamy while still retaining a deep understanding of and adherence to emotional monogamy. The issue will be if both of you could handle this.

It takes an extremely secure man to be able to handle his partner being with other men, but a mature and intelligent escort is one of the most amazing humans you will ever have the honor to be with. She sounds like such a lady- she's in grad school, and you clearly saw something in her that was so wonderful that you've entertained spending a lifetime with her. You can never take that away from her even if you require her to quit working. Which I don't think you should: you fell in love with her and that is part and parcel of what makes her wonderful, even if you didn't realize it until now.

If you require her to quit you don't belong with her. Let her go and enable her to find someone who can handle such an amazing woman. And likewise, free yourself up to find someone more conventional. But I doubt anyone will ever come close to what she can be for you.

Love is not about possessing or ownership; love is about finding someone who compliments your life. True, deep, unconditional love means that you allow that person to be who they are, even if it means that in the end, they won't be with you. That kind of legendary love means that you will be truly happy if she is truly happy. It doesn't sound like you are ready for that kind of love.

Sorry I'm late to the party, perhaps you too need a lesson on what love is. If how she makes you feel yesterday, and then today is what you are confusing for love, you don't get it. If you are going to look at her past, and judge her, end it NOW. If you are going to speculate on her future, and worry about how she will make you feel with her choices, end it NOW. You only love her if you can pour your life into her, making her more important than yourself, without expecting anything in return. That's all fairly easy to say, but living it is a BITCH. Here's some Shakespeare, my lover sent me yesterday:
Love is merely a madness, and, I tell you, deserves as well a dark house and a whip as madmen do, and the reason why they are not so punished and cured is that the lunacy is so ordinary that the whippers are in love too. S64

OK, so have you told her you've seen prostitutes?  That might be a good way to get the ball rolling.  If she actually likes what she does you might have something in common.

since you are having pizza, in honor of your GF's newly discovered job, I'd go with the "meat" lovers pizza from Pizza Slut. Its awesome bro!

Hasn't written any reviews on his current handle LOL

If I wasn't too preoccupied with getting some real work done today I would have considered creating a brown envelope hooker to reply to the troll.

I would have told him:

Come on sweetie..she loves you.  She has her own house that's underwater..has her sugar daddy or really LTR client paying for her to go to school...bartending school that is.  She is only making all this up to protect you from the ugly truth.  She's a hooker...you're a john.

Sounds like it's good for a few laughs.

Now...where are those former mods.  This is the kind of shit a few of them could come up with  

See...not that hard to have multiple handles on this joint  LOL

Thanks for the laughs...you got a few to bite.

What's tomorrows feature?  This is better than the Oprah and Lifetime crap that's been on the boards recently.

Good to see you back posting  

I've still got dibs on the Les Mis cast members.  

Still much more fun than the angry hookers posting.

Well...maybe not!

See my post to dannyboy below...that should clarify my thoughts on the OP  

It already seems to hurt you so I doubt that plan will work but I wish you luck with it.

Why you would post so much  information  on a public board is beyond me .

 For your sake I hope she doesn't read your post  or know any TER providers .
Maybe you changed the ages and other specifics ?
 
It would be better if she tells you what she does for a living before you ask the world
   what they would do if they were you  .
 It's a small world Charlie Brown .
 
 

Thank you,  SoftlySarah,  Some butthead  sent that email. How does  he know that I don't know. What if I had met her as a provider? I'm sorry he sent it and wish I hadn't clicked the link. She is such a wonderful woman.

Anytime a partner forces their  their mate to change,  whether willingly or from  coercion, their relationship  will rarely last .
 You can bank on that .

 

That hurts.  You're right.  I'm not going to tell her and not going to mention anything.

I didn't notice you were white the first time I read your post and I missed your last line . After reading more thoroughly  I hope she's a Latino , Asian  , or Ebony , your logic sounds like too much white inbreeding in your family .
Now  I'm  really hoping  she doesn't read your post  . You're a mean S.O.B.
               No wonder you're in the dumps .
 

Sorry I found out.  Sorry I wrote.  Sorry I know about this site and this world.  I'm in love with her and I'm going to tell her so tonight. Thanks to a few and Fuck You to the haters. I  really may marry this woman.  No,  I don't fall in and out of love: I've been in love only once before-----to my wife. Maybe listening to you all has helped: I'm in love!

It's not like he is the first or the hundredth to post yet another, "I fell for a hooker" thread on TER. I am sure she will never figure it out.

Very well said Sarah.....If this is a real post that is.....For any true relationship to move forward you have to be totally honest with each other about your feelings. If you can't handle what she does, then maybe she is not the woman for you. Personally i don't care what the woman i'm in love with does for her living, being a cashier at a gas station, CEO of a major corporation or even an escort. I'm in love with her heart and soul, and how being part of her life makes me a better person. So it sound like you really need to do some soul searching and find what really matters to you............

Pretty sure she doesn't look here.  Website is high $$$ agency-----out of my price range.  I guess I'm embarrassed that somebody I know knew about her and I didn't. I would  have no right to hold her past against her.  I guess I just won't propose till she quits. Oh, she's working  on a PhD in chemistry and that is true. In the meantime I'm the luckiest guy in the world.  I have a beautiful woman whom I love.  My children and my mother are crazy about her.  We have a great time together and we are both healthy. I will keep my mouth shut.

I think what many guys and gals on a fk board miss, is that everyday men and women don't feel the same way WE do about such things. If my brother found out his current GF was a whore, you can bet your ass he would drop her like a bad habit. It is what it is. Personally, I would think a guy was seriously damaged somehow if he thought what I did was ok...aside from you nuts, of course bwahahhaa. What people accept in P4P as "ok" does not always mean they want those same characteristics in a mate...sorry, but that's reality. I would never "fall" for a guy who I met whilst he was lying to someone else...to me, that's seriously naive.

You have to find people who accept you for what you are/do, but you also can't expect the entire world to feel the same. MANY hobbyists would still never marry a damn provider, and the reverse is also true about providers wanting to marry a hobbyist. It does not make you a bad person for having certain things you value in a person, and not wanting a current hooker to be his future wife, does not make him a bad person. I know many men that would feel the same, and I would never date a guy who thought this was somehow "cool." I might fk him, but never would he be my life partner.

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I have to agree with all of this, but bottom line is SHE LIED TO HIM! It's not like he knew she was an escort and still fell for her, but he fell for A LIE! When someone presents you with this image of who they are and you fall for it, it's not a great feeling to find out it was mostly bs! Um, so now I wonder if she really is in grad school and does in fact own a home lol. I mean, hookers never lie, right? If you can lie about one thing, you can lie about anything.

Who wants to put their faith and trust in a lie? I don't think it's just the escort thing that bothers him, but that fact that she did not disclose it. He is having unprotected sex with her, whilst she is out banging gosh knows how many other guys. Sorry, but no guy I have ever dated would feel too good about finding that out, which is why I don't have one.

Are you ready for commitment.  It seems that she is headed down that road with you.  She IS introducing you to her family  I think you are wise to see where this leads.
When the commitment time comes...  Are you prepared to support her and your family?  If not than are you prepared for her to continue in the business?   You can't demand the second it you can not do the first.  
MANY women work their way through school.  And then retire from the biz with no debts or loans!  A huge jump start in life.  I recently read of a lady who'd worked her way through law school & was outted when she was assaulted!  But there are many retired or former providers turned Moms.  

I wish you luck.
HV

You get to fuck her for free while other poor shmucks have to shell out big bucks!

What the hell. enjoy it while you can. When she is ready to tel lyou she will tell you....or not

Stick to that story...but it keeps changing...what a shock LOL

First she had her own site...now just a hooker on an agency site

Then she's working on a masters...now it's a PhD in chemistry.  BTW...I have a number of "docs" who got rides while working on their PhD's in chemistry.  Let me know if she will be working at Merck...I have some friends there...and I'd be happy to put in a good word for her...if she's really a hottie  

You're not supposed to change the facts when you post a thread like this.  Just stick to your original OP as it tends to lend more credibility.  You of all people should know that  LOL

You did change your IP addy before you concocted this brown envelope...right?  Wouldn't want TER to see that your other handle is using the same IP addy.  Let me know and I'll show you how to do this right if you didn't already know.  Hint...change up your IP addy before you log on as your other handle to congratulate yourself on a job well done.  Don't want to see this thread and your other handle disappear too soon.

Did I miss anything here?  Oh yea...the house.  Don't fall for the "she owns it shit".  She's upside down on it as well.  Don't agree to cosign the loan modification...you'll be sorry  LOL    And the hot car she's driving...it's literally a "hot car".  It'll be repo'd pretty soon...enjoy the fun with the top down while you can.  And don't....fucking don't lease her anything.  She's busy fucking ten guys a day to support her drug habit.  Just a word to the wise  LOL

See you on the other side  

Re: Stick to that story...but it keeps changing...what a shock LOL

Don't know if this is bs or not,  but why are you so angry?

Posted By: ChgoCPA

First she had her own site...now just a hooker on an agency site

Then she's working on a masters...now it's a PhD in chemistry.  BTW...I have a number of "docs" who got rides while working on their PhD's in chemistry.  Let me know if she will be working at Merck...I have some friends there...and I'd be happy to put in a good word for her...if she's really a hottie  

You're not supposed to change the facts when you post a thread like this.  Just stick to your original OP as it tends to lend more credibility.  You of all people should know that  LOL

You did change your IP addy before you concocted this brown envelope...right?  Wouldn't want TER to see that your other handle is using the same IP addy.  Let me know and I'll show you how to do this right if you didn't already know.  Hint...change up your IP addy before you log on as your other handle to congratulate yourself on a job well done.  Don't want to see this thread and your other handle disappear too soon.

Did I miss anything here?  Oh yea...the house.  Don't fall for the "she owns it shit".  She's upside down on it as well.  Don't agree to cosign the loan modification...you'll be sorry  LOL    And the hot car she's driving...it's literally a "hot car".  It'll be repo'd pretty soon...enjoy the fun with the top down while you can.  And don't....fucking don't lease her anything.  She's busy fucking ten guys a day to support her drug habit.  Just a word to the wise  LOL

See you on the other side  

Posted By: Daniel10

Pretty sure she doesn't look here.  Website is high $$$ agency-----out of my price range.  I guess I'm embarrassed that somebody I know knew about her and I didn't. I would  have no right to hold her past against her.  I guess I just won't propose till she quits. Oh, she's working  on a PhD in chemistry and that is true. In the meantime I'm the luckiest guy in the world.  I have a beautiful woman whom I love.  My children and my mother are crazy about her.  We have a great time together and we are both healthy. I will keep my mouth shut.

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Re: Stick to that story...but it keeps changing...what a shock LOL

Damn, lol. I think you summed it up. I am not that attentive to details today, because I got a shit load of PMs asking me why I did not call bullshit. I am nicer without the booze, I think.

It's gotta be more "entertaining" to watch those that actually think it might be real.  But when they can't help themselves and start concocting more and more bullshit...the whole thing just completely unravels.

Had he kept his trap shut on the MBA...whatever.  Once the moron threw out there the PhD in chemistry...any modicum of reality fell apart.  I have too many "pals" who are indeed PhD's in chemistry.  And know all too well what that entails. Let's just agree it's an unmistakeable program from a Masters in chemistry.  

I have my suspicions who this handle is...and hope that he will come back and play more often.  This was just showing that being out of practice for better than a year leads to sloppy play.

See you on the other side  

Posted By: London Rayne

Damn, lol. I think you summed it up. I am not that attentive to details today, because I got a shit load of PMs asking me why I did not call bullshit. I am nicer without the booze, I think.

He'd make sure that there's a hooker in every house.

Any more questions?

75% of the peeps on this thread STILL think this post is legit! lol. I actually think his later bullsh*t ADDED to the thread! lol. At least it did for me. He saw the more ridic he got, he still had people buying in, so he figures "lets see how far I can go till everyone gets it." He still even isnt close! lol. He gets a fking "standing O" from me, and I had him pegged from the git go! GREAT STUFF!!!

They could sell scorecards at the beginning of the thread as well...

That way you can tell who the players are from the pretenders.

People want to believe...and it's so easy to lure the lemmings over the edge.

Or so I have seen here  LOL

His post was so original he fooled my dumb ass at first . :-[
 Then he kept talking , like most BS artists they can't shut up .

* If she works for an agency as he later added to his fable , her web photos are photo shopped to render  
her unrecognizable , or make up  conceals her morning  face , unless she's from another country .
 Did he mention she had a heavy  accent ?

...turns out she turns into a fkin dummy when she stops drinking! lol

Hi Daniel, let me get right to it. This woman could be wonderful and into you and afraid to share her little secret...

Or,

She could know you are vulnerable and not be sincere. Are you spending a lot of money on her? Don't answer me, this is for you to think about...

You don't need any more heartache or heartbreak... My sister lost her husband three years ago and it was terrible.

You must confront her. Let her know you will listen and be open and non-judgemental, but make sure she understands you must always have the truth from now on. And that you will not be lied to, ever...

Everyone is capable of giving and recieving love, sex workers, nurses, everyone.

Again, you must talk to her, not saying anything will make you sick. Plus, this is a hot little secret the two of you will share together. Think of how envious everyone would be if they knew a beautiful "Lady of the Evening" chose you!!!

KB

Ah, hell! You bitches are never going to let me live this one down, are ya? I told you I would be back after 6 p.m. and get it...well, here I am, and I gots it! Your post was so funny, I can't even be mad at ya bwahhahaaha. Touche, and Cheers, biaatch!

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You would have said "Great honey!  Me, the kids, mom... we're all behind you 100%!" ???

Is that how it would have played out?

just didn't over-disclose yet. That's a helluva bomb to drop on someone you really don't know yet, and as you pointed out earlier, maybe she doesn't feel the same level of connection for him- in which case, as you pointed out, why should she divulge such sensitive information? That info in the wrong hands (i.e., a spurned lover) could topple her world. It's not something you drop on a first date if you are concerned about your safety and that of those around you.

Not only that but just because someone is not an escort doesn't mean they are not out banging loads of other guys, nor does it mean that our dear OP is not out banging gosh knows how many other girls.  Right?

Have you tried google image search on her photos? Maybe someone is using her photos and she's completely unaware of it.

Think about it for a moment, This guy would be lamenting to his buddies, or BFF.....
who would slap him EF'g silly upside his is scrawny head......telling him he's Nuts......that he's got OTC free Everything....... as much as he can get!!!!!   Finger lick'n good tooo!


And he's miraculously found TER!!! to get Advice.... WTF.... are we that gullible here?

Dude website please!!!!!

Whether this story is true or not,  why do people get vicious?     Someone seems to have inferred that getting a PhD in chemistry is beyond the ability of an attractive woman.  If photos on websites are so doctored that even a man in love won't  recognize  his lady,  why bother with them at all.  Why do so many reviews assure readers that she looks just like her pictures.  Why steal pictures if you can alter yours that much----indeed how can the stolen pictures be recognized? If there is any chance this is true,  I believe suggesting to a widower that his wife would have become a hookers if she'd  lived,  is beyond the pale. Thank God I'm not the woman who has to put up with some of you asshats just for a few $$$.

That's still a lie.

Not that I'm running around with the truth badge lmao

I lie about that all the time. It's a survival technique.

And I wouldn't be in a relationship if I was still working. I can't multi-task lol

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Jinni

What is it about me that makes people I care about feel they need to lie to me? Am I that unapproachable? Do they feel that my love for them is so shallow?

All I want to know is what is the link to her website?  I might want to set an appt.

This is true, if in the context of it being a "new" relationship, BUT I would certainly tell a guy I was having unprotected sex with about any other sexual activity, if nothing but for his own safety. I agree, he too could be out banging 100s of women, but his "story" didn't suggest that lol.

Good point. Some people lie for fear of rejection, and others do it because of humiliation if the truth were found out. Most women don't want to be known as a whore, even though they might escort. They want to pretend to be something else for the people closest to them. I can understand if it were your parents or children, but some guy you've only been screwing for a few months? Nope, I could not care less.

I get Sarah's point about that info being in the wrong hands though, as in, what if he is was so caught up that he wanted to use that info against her, when she left his ass a year later. In that case, I can see why she would not be broadcasting what she does for a living.

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and I have never doubted you in any way.