You're a lucky guy and leave it at that

...and regarding his wedding plans wish him well.

Unless this person is a really good friend, and the provider was still providing and the person didn't know.  That to me would be the only time to say something.  Otherwise the past is the past, when I was young I thought it was nasty if a girl slept with a lot of guys.  These days, I look at it as they are experienced and I would rather deal with someone who knows what they're doing.  So I wouldn't say anything as people do change...sometimes, and would you really want to be the person that crushes someone's soul.  Getting in the middle of other people's business is a burden I don't need.

...except maybe Melania Trump.

Most providers are upfront and honest about their past lives when they settle down.

It is best that you leave it alone and avoid contact with him.  

You don't want to loose your job over this.

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To the first Q: say nothing. "Keep your mouth shut and keep it moving."

If it's just a co-worker. If it was a friend, my answer might be different. My answer might also be different if I knew something else about the girl, like if she was a rip-off artist. But in your hypothetical I frequented her, and I don't frequent that type. (So far as I know.)

This shouldn't be an issue.  
Why would you want to ruin someone else's life?

You could very easily turn your two friends into your two enemies.
I think MYOB is appropriate here.

Don't say shit. She has moved on, respect her and his privacy, and respect your privacy and past. If she's moved on great, let her do just that. For all you know she has already disclosed this and maybe he was a client too. Best of all, maybe he was doing her as her bareback as her S/O for a very long time and for all you know you ate his cumm while performing oral on her? Maybe he laughs in your face?  

I assume this is all hypothetical?  

Discretion is a two way street. I would honor her silence if she hasn't told him and it is between them if she has or hasn't. People in this need to be able to leave it behind if wish and their privacy respected. Only a complete loser would do more than wish them well. In fact had any informed me my now wife was a retired sex worker, which I both new and was true (she came out of retirement), I would have read him the riot act.

but what if things were a little closer to home, say your son comes home with a gal that you saw as an escort some years before?

I'd still keep my mouth shut, but I'd certainly feel a bit antsy, to say the least

Say you used to see a really good [manicurist] back in the day and she has now [become a teacher], and has been [a teacher] for quite some time now. You're at work one day and your co- worker tells you he is getting married and shows you a photo of the bride-to-be... you recognize her as the [manicurist] you used to frequent... Do you say anything to the guy? Do you laugh in his face? Tell co- workers on the side? Ask for an invite to the wedding so you could [ask for a pedi] 1 last time? Lol.
 
 Or do you keep your mouth shut and keep it moving

I saw a situation on another board and everyone there had completely different answers.

I would say nothing about it.  I would also be careful about mentioning it to anyone else, even trusted persons, since they might repeat it and still eventually get back to them.

Similarly if I knew someone was cheating on their spouse or significant other, I would tell no one.

Actually providers are confronted with this every day -- lots of their clients are married men.  They could be ratting someone out nearly every day.

Why is being a hooker any worse than having used drugs, which is also illegal but, I contend, should not be a crime?  So if I know someone who's getting married and he used to deal weed, am I supposed to tell his intended?
Sorry, I'm not a cop, let alone a judge.
Now, if I knew he was a fugitive from a murder rap that might change things.  But not this.

"To whom do I have an obligation?"

So someone has seen a "good provider" who has retired and moved on. Now you learn a co-worker is marrying her. What to do?
1) Most responses here seem to suggest a closer relationship with the provider than the coworker. If so the keep quite and wish them well seems to apply.
2) If you know the co-worker well AND know this type of information would certainly shatter his/her world maybe something should be said -- but what and how would be the challenge. Part of that will depend on whether you like or really hate your co-worker.
3) If you're largely indifferent to both of them I'd say keep quite and wish them well would be the cultured thing to do.

I can think of other scenarios but I think we're all smart enough to do that on our own to get to a situation where we would tell the co-worker, say nothing, hint at something, invite them both out and talk with the provider...

So I'm not sure the answer to the question is at all clear without your defining more parameters for the situation.

Keep your mouth shut. Providers have a right not to be outed much like a guy wouldn't want to be outed.  

There are certain things that go unsaid in the hobby and outing anyone is a huge no-no. If said guy told his coworker and I became aware of it, I would not see him.  

I know it's complicated when it is someone close to you that is going to marry said provider (or ex-provider) but I still believe in respecting the hobby. What goes around, comes around. I keep things the way I want to be treated.

Now if this question was about a cho-mo, wife beater, druggie, or a murderer.... I would say something. It's all about safety in those situations.