ay you used to see a really good provider back in the day and she has now retired, and has been retired for quite some time now. You're at work one day and your co- worker tells you he is getting married and shows you a photo of the bride-to-be... you recognize her as the provider you used to frequent... Do you say anything to the guy? Do you laugh in his face? Tell co- workers on the side? Ask for an invite to the wedding so you could p4p 1 last time? Lol.

You're a lucky guy and leave it at that

...and regarding his wedding plans wish him well.

Unless this person is a really good friend, and the provider was still providing and the person didn't know.  That to me would be the only time to say something.  Otherwise the past is the past, when I was young I thought it was nasty if a girl slept with a lot of guys.  These days, I look at it as they are experienced and I would rather deal with someone who knows what they're doing.  So I wouldn't say anything as people do change...sometimes, and would you really want to be the person that crushes someone's soul.  Getting in the middle of other people's business is a burden I don't need.

...except maybe Melania Trump.

congratulations and best wishes. Why would I tell? I am not a bitch like that to destroy his upcoming happiness. I see absolutely no point in telling him who she was and besides it might garner you a punch in the face or a kick in the balls. The past is just that

Most providers are upfront and honest about their past lives when they settle down.

have a RL boyfriend WHILE they're still working, but most will not tell a love interest once they have retired and left that life behind.  You clearly have no experience with this.

To the first Q: say nothing. "Keep your mouth shut and keep it moving."

If it's just a co-worker. If it was a friend, my answer might be different. My answer might also be different if I knew something else about the girl, like if she was a rip-off artist. But in your hypothetical I frequented her, and I don't frequent that type. (So far as I know.)

This shouldn't be an issue.  
Why would you want to ruin someone else's life?

You could very easily turn your two friends into your two enemies.
I think MYOB is appropriate here.

Don't say shit. She has moved on, respect her and his privacy, and respect your privacy and past. If she's moved on great, let her do just that. For all you know she has already disclosed this and maybe he was a client too. Best of all, maybe he was doing her as her bareback as her S/O for a very long time and for all you know you ate his cumm while performing oral on her? Maybe he laughs in your face?  

Discretion is a two way street. I would honor her silence if she hasn't told him and it is between them if she has or hasn't. People in this need to be able to leave it behind if wish and their privacy respected. Only a complete loser would do more than wish them well. In fact had any informed me my now wife was a retired sex worker, which I both new and was true (she came out of retirement), I would have read him the riot act.

The one I dated told me everything about her past experiences being a ho.

but what if things were a little closer to home, say your son comes home with a gal that you saw as an escort some years before?

Say you used to see a really good [manicurist] back in the day and she has now [become a teacher], and has been [a teacher] for quite some time now. You're at work one day and your co- worker tells you he is getting married and shows you a photo of the bride-to-be... you recognize her as the [manicurist] you used to frequent... Do you say anything to the guy? Do you laugh in his face? Tell co- workers on the side? Ask for an invite to the wedding so you could [ask for a pedi] 1 last time? Lol.
 
 Or do you keep your mouth shut and keep it moving

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Oooooohhhhhh boy... Now that is messy

I saw a situation on another board and everyone there had completely different answers.

Even in a situation like what he is talking about.  I remember years ago when I came home for a short stay with my parents.  Mom found my porn stash and told dad. Dad told her leave me alone he will get bored with porn.

Maybe the other site has a lower average age of its members ?

average IQ than posters on this site ? ,.,,
 

I would say nothing about it.  I would also be careful about mentioning it to anyone else, even trusted persons, since they might repeat it and still eventually get back to them.

dated about 20 on the outside then you should start giving advice.  Your sample is too small if you only dated one.  HER experiences are necessarily the norm.

Why is being a hooker any worse than having used drugs, which is also illegal but, I contend, should not be a crime?  So if I know someone who's getting married and he used to deal weed, am I supposed to tell his intended?
Sorry, I'm not a cop, let alone a judge.
Now, if I knew he was a fugitive from a murder rap that might change things.  But not this.

"To whom do I have an obligation?"

...is that, assuming the gal remembers you as a client, keeping your mouth shut becomes a play. By saying nothing you put the ball in her court and if she acts on that immediately she's in a weak position, and if she doesn't, then the game goes on with her knowing that at any point during or after her relationship with your son you MIGHT bring it up. That isn't necessarily an advantage one way or the other, but it is an interesting set up.

While I wouldn't out the once provider, I'd probably react differently regarding drugs. Weed I wouldn't consider much of a thing, but if the person my friend was going to marry had been on hard drugs, particularly heroin, I would view it as a red flag and MIGHT want to make sure my friend new the score. Especially if the person in question had been involved with trafficking.

Keep your mouth shut. Providers have a right not to be outed much like a guy wouldn't want to be outed.  

I'd simply wanted to point out that providers are normal people - and why can't she get married, just like anybody else? Why the need to 'inform' on her? Especially if her career is years behind her.  

I had a roomate in Grad School and he and his GF would break beds and make all kinds of crazy noises while having sex in their room. Which was annoying because of the sound but good for him and her in general.  

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