Apologies for the long post but... So I contacted a massage therapist on massagefinder and she came to my place twice for far. She brings a massage table and is a legit massage therapist with degree in Chinese medicine. Here's the twist! I asked what is she comfortable with as far as me being in underwear or naked and she said she's seen it all and doesn't care. So I got completely naked and jumped on the massage table. She didn't drape me and started the massage sitting on my naked butt and giving me a great shoulder massage while she was fully clothed. The rest of the massage was amazing but nothing else as far as teasing, etc. I booked her for the second time and the same thing happened. I just booked her for the 3rd time and I'm curious to make a move or ask for additional services as I really don't want her to freak out - she gives amazing massages - but also I don't think sitting on my naked butt to give a shoulder massage for the first 15mins is normal lol. What do you guys think?

If  you  don't  query  you'll  never  delight  
in  her  possible  "extra  charms"!

What makes you think she provides any extras?

The risk is you lose a good massage therapist. The reward is you get what you’re hoping for. I wouldn’t say her sitting on your butt is necessarily unusual. Massage therapists using their sexuality and teasing is a thing. That said, as long as you’re respectful, risk is probably low. She probably won’t want to lose your business.

wearing while sitting on your butt.  Was it panties or a bikini bottom, or was it a little white uniform with pants and a shirt like they wear in a spa?  Answer this, and I will tell you what is reasonable to infer from her attire and her actions.

That would be worst case scenario (well not really absolute worst case would be citing harassment but very very unlikely). So if she is really great pro masseuse and you don't want to feel awkward after she rejects you... id prolly just not try it and keep it professional.  

If she's a real CMT why would you assume she offers extras?

She is staying fully clothed and not touching you suggestively at all. Please do not ask this poor CMT and TCM practitioner for a hand job.

also offers extras, then you should stick to those who offer or at least strongly imply that in their marketing.

The most I'd do is tell her he finds her attractive and ask if she dates outside of working hours, then see how she responds and take it (or don't take it) from there.
But I'd beware of starting out by directly asking her for "extras."

Exactly.  

.... and let me tell you - HE's are easily gotten and a dime a dozen, but great massages and truly skilled masseuses  are not. I prefer to keep those 2 worlds separate whenever possible. More than once a great massage routine was fucked up once sex got involved.

Do it in the least direct way. Maybe confide in her that you occasionally go for sensual massages and you wish the sensual provider had the same massage skills that she had.  

I think she would have asked you if you wanted a happy ending if that was on the menu.  
Go to an amp or find that type of massage lady.  

The facts you described--and the fact that you're here asking--are strong evidence  to me that there is no doubt this lady is a CMT doing her job and nothing else. NOTHING you have shared suggests she would offer more. I think theres high likelihood you will embarrass both of you if you ask for a handy.  Plenty of rub and tug girls out there about whom you don't have to guess.

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Well I think it's quite unusual that a CMT not only gives a massage without proper draping but also sits on client... not very common innit?

Not a uniform or anything like that. Yoga pants and a t-shirt

Well I think it's quite unusual that a CMT not only gives a massage without proper draping but also sits on client... not very common innit?

if she was open for personal attention it would have happened or been hinted at by now .    she is a professional masseuse ..  if you are seeking more will have to be with someone else.    i say enjoy what she does offer, not to be taken for granted.

Exactly what I feel. Don't see why would you potentially ruin a relationship with a great cmt.

Amazing massages are hard to find.  Don't make it awkward.  Been there, done that.  There's a bunch of chicks on this website that will suck your dick with NO ambiguity.  

…a key detail.

You are showing up for a LMT massage naked and undraped. As she said herself, she’s seen it all. She knows you would like extras and she knows she can get more money from you by doing it. You’ve repeated so I’m sure she knows you’re not a cop.  

she is a real massage therapist, she doesn't provide "extra services".  take it or leave it

Google her number, maybe she has reviews?  
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As much as I am for seeing providers, they are providers for a reason, and it's within their boundaries as to the services they provide.  I have seen a few providers that offer nude massages with mutual touching, happy endings, then FS, etc., but I went in knowing both the floor and the ceiling.  Now things may happen during the session, that being teasing, and hints, or even them being forthright with that information that x, y or z are on the table for extra.  But you indicated that both times you were ass naked and she just did her job and gave you a massage.  To me that wouldn't indicate "hey let me ask if she's willing to suck me off or give me a handjob".  
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If you want extras, there are plenty of providers that offer FBSM or NURU services with extras or massage parlors that do those "additional services".  You have access to TER for reviews and searches, you should try that.  But putting a professional woman in a potentially uncomfortable situation like that seems uncalled for and is not cool, and can probably lead to trouble for you, just my opinion.  

The fact she is staying fully clothed speaks volumes. You could ask but might get dropped as a client.

additional services, but you can't rule them out either.  There is a no-risk way to find out that I have used in the past.   If you have established yourself as a potential regular, i.e., 3 or more weekly visits.  Then skip a few weeks before going back.  Then when you see her again, and she asks you why you missed a few times, tell her that you had been referred to another masseuse that offered more services than she does.  Then shut up.  If she has a secret menu, she will tell you now that she knows you.  She may ask what you got from the other girl.  Tell her a sexual release of all your tension.  (This keeps the conversation clinical until you get her answer).  If she does other things, she will tell you she can do more but there is an upcharge.