The following is likely old hat for experienced hobbyists, but it is new for me.  I have seen lots of posts about the hobby being all about the money, and providers not wanting much to do with hobbyists off the clock.  I have conducted myself all along in this hobby, as if these these guidelines were gospel.

You're paying her for more than an hour with her dinner date package.  So she's telling you that she doesn't want more to just eat on your dime already?

You must realize that the dinner date packages the prostitutes sell are usually 4 hours.  What prostitute doesn't want some old fart buying that package?  Knowing full well that the fucking part is over in an hour, or less.

that she wants zero incremental compensation, because she enjoys hanging out together so much.  

The real question is how many HOURS are his dates and at what PRICE? If he is already paying 700-1k every time he sees her then the "dinner date" time costs her nothing and she gets a free meal.

Had to read the OP several times (yes, I am slow that way). It is not entirely clear what "extra compensation" entails.

Yep, that is it.  I always book two hours, and she is telling me to pay her the exact same amount of cash as I always do.  At face value, this is going to mean about four hours for the price of two.  Except that I won't cheap out that way.  She has no "packages" as bbfs seems to think.  She doesn't have a web site or any on line presence at all.  

There have been girls who throw in a dinner for two hour customers. That does not mean you get more (free) sex after the dinner. The sex part is being paid for out front.  

This is in a major, expensive market.  The hourly rate I pay is about half to two thirds the going rate there, for someone of her caliber. I hobby in this city a lot, so I am very confident in making that comparison.  Cynicism is making a comeback here by the looks of things.  Maybe I should take her to McDonalds or Taco Bell to see where I really stand?  .

Just have fun, thank her and keep seeing her since it seems you both get along so well. Don't try to minimize or outdo her gift, or try to "equalize" things with money.

I think you are likely right. Quite insightful on your part.  Her personally is such that if I try to minimize or outdo her gift as you put it, that I am quite likely to insult or piss her off, as it would kind of suggest I did not believe her offer.  I think I will try to figure out some cool gift that does not go overboard.

She is here for a reason...correct? She clearly is a woman with a heart...yes?

Insult? Not likely. She's here in p4p right? Selling her goods for a price right? For a reason right? Unless you think she's here for the helluva it. Which i highly doubt anyone would enter this world for shits and giggles alone.

Appreciate a provider chiming in.  Quick question re your advice.  Did my post come across in a way that it sounded like there would be no money involved?  Because if so, I left the wrong impression.   The date includes dinner plus private time.  Her and I have a baseline understanding - I am paying for that private time at the same rate I always pay.  Where I was surprised was her telling me that for the dinner component, she did not want any more money.  So is your advice to pay (full rate or otherwise) for the dinner component too, no matter what she says?  

but (not surprisingly) I disagree with her and by extension with you.

And spot on and get exactly what I'm talking about. That's awesome. Maybe you should gives lessons to some men here who just don't.  

Not reading your post either. He's a grown man. I'm sure he can figure out what will work fine for him in this regard.

Hey - you have been down this path many times with many different outcomes.  First time for me, and not trying to extend how I handle this to any form of generalized rule.   Kind of feeling my way around.  You are right, about me wanting to keep a professional boundary. I am not looking for, nor do I want a girlfriend.   But the idea that I can have this hybrid of a friend and provider, in defined time slots when it works for both of us is really appealing.  

I just wanted to let you know this is not so unusual, nor is it a black and choice between having strictly hooker/john or BF/GF relationship. These hybrid relationships can and have worked for others before you for several years in some cases.

If we travel together, I intend to work out a daily rate and pay her that.

FWIW if she actually does like you and you are going places that are "fun" not where she will be cooped up in a hotel room all day, you might be surprised at how reasonable her rate might be. I would suggest you leave the rate up to her and not make any "offers"  

Take it from what it's worth...
 
She enjoys your company. Good for both of you.
Maybe after playing she got hungry.  
No big deal.  

That's what I was thinking!!!!

Hookers and Johns do become more than acquaintances, I have a LOT of hooker friends that I never spend a dime on, we are just buddies. Some of them I have slept with in the past, some I have sex with now, and others I have never had sex with, nor do I ever intend to.

You are a man who has a NEED to brag about your hooker friends. Hookers are not the focal point of my life.

You do seem to have this superior attitude that some people are below you and not worthy of your friendship, it must really suck to be you. No surpirse your wife won't fuck you any more. I wonder how many "friends" she has?

Rather than debate you are turning this into a personal attack. Friends don't charge friends for favors that can be done for free. Example: If you are close personal friends with an auto mechanic as I once was he charges for the parts but not labor. A girl who is your friend would be a fuck buddy. You might pay for dinner or a hotel room but you don't pay for sex.

I travel with someone all the time and do as I please when and where I want lol.  

do yourself a favor and don't even go there lol. Just let it roll off the back, truly. It's just a word, I used to fight it when I first came on here at "that" word, but it is just that, a word. Don't let it bother you girl.  

and sometimes I think you should be in chains, for your own good.lol

And no thanks. I thought I told you marriage wasn't for me.  

That last line was funny.