Some guys just don't take Rejection well. My ATF's have had a few clients like this. They simply ignore them. Don't answer their calls and texts. Hopefully he'll get the message and leave you alone.
What prompts a guy to keep contacting a provider after she has told the client in question she won't be seeing him again? How to be effective in making sure he stops contacting the provider after she decides to stop taking this gentleman's calls?
What's even more baffling, why would a guy wanna see a girl who doesn't wanna cater to him anymore?
Theories?
The only way to stop him is to change your email address, your name, etc., and it's not worth it. This business by its nature attracts some very twisted types. Hell, just look at all the lunatics on these boards.
Not me, of course. I am a gentleman. LOL!
You don't need to change you email or even a phone. Just mark his emails as spam and be done with it. That's going (with any reasonable email service/client) a lot easier than his setting up new email accounts. Depending on your email you might even be able to setup a forward rule that sends his email back to him.
If that's not enough -- beyond your asking him to leave you alone -- you can probably ask TER and any verification service you're with to check and see if the email matches to a user and if so ask them to kick him out for harassment.
Not me, of course. I am a gentleman. LOL!
and instead simply ignore him. Your other advice is good.
if they continue to get a response. If you ignore him, he will eventually tire of playing by himself. If that doesn't work, then tell him you'll see him one for time, and stick an exploding dildo up his ass. Too extreme?
I would think just a no-show would be sufficient for the first round.
Those are my answers. Some combination of lust, loneliness, attention-craving, and boredom prompts rejects to keep pestering you, I presume. But there's some mystery at the center of it which I can't explain.
The best way to get rid of someone in my experience is to freeze them out. Don't give him any attention.
As for the more baffling, it's a fact that we are attracted to people who don't want us. That's true for men and women both. I can't explain that, either. It's the flip side of neediness being unattractive.
Even if you guaranteed bad service, I imagine some guys would still enjoy it. Probably clients are paying for the illusion of uninterested or even hostile providers as we speak. That's gotta be part of humiliation (or whatever the proper term is) packages.
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In email, setup a rule to automatically delete emails from his address.
Most newer phone operating systems allow you to block calls from certain numbers.
Out of site. Out of mind.
Just ignore and use some tools to make it easier.
Some guys just don't take Rejection well. My ATF's have had a few clients like this. They simply ignore them. Don't answer their calls and texts. Hopefully he'll get the message and leave you alone.
I agree with most here. Mark his email as spam, block his phone number in your phone, block him on any review or like boards as well. If you flat out told him you won't see him anymore then that should be enough. Don't respond period. Last but not least, black list him on any board you can.
You should not have to do these things. I respect that you actually took the time to tell him that you won't see him. Not that you ladies have to, but I think it's best to be clear first and then block and ignore from there. He needs to find a new friend or leave the hobby.
Good luck.
What's even more baffling, why would a guy wanna see a girl who doesn't wanna cater to him anymore?
Theories?
Is he a p411 member? If so, inform him that you'll place a 'Stop Contact' notice on his account, and do so immediately. If he continues to contact you after that, his account will be terminated (or so the lady from Chat module says).
I did that. After 3 'Please do not contact me, ever again!' emails, I finally had to tell a guy I'd report him to p411 if he continued to harass me. That actually did it - haven't heard from him since.
As for why?? These guys think that different rules apply to us, since it's our job (livelihood).
Carrie on prom night, baby. Carry - sometimes go as far as Carrie's mom LOL!
Then they stop lol!
Overly attached girlfriend works much better too. Start emailing them 30 times a day with twitter updates, and just get really annoying. Like - why won't you email me back? I thought we were LOVERS.
LOL
What's even more baffling, why would a guy wanna see a girl who doesn't wanna cater to him anymore?
Theories?
What's even more baffling, why would a guy wanna see a girl who doesn't wanna cater to him anymore?
Theories?
everyone is just providing the obvious "creepo/sicko" knee jerk response. And they are probably correct if all the facts are accurate. But you don't provide any details ... not that anyone NEEDS a reason to break off a relationship? But a courteous response is not the worst thing that could happen. Did he/she try that approach?
Has she given him a reason?
Consider that...
1. you might not "know" all the facts . .
2. the gal may be acting in a way that elicits more contact ... you might also call it the ULTIMATE tease and denial ... lol
3. the guy is a douche bag and should stay away ... only the lowest of the low would continue. I don't know how you'd deal with that.
I'm sure you've heard it all by now. Many of us have too I guess you can say it comes with time served.
I banged a civvie years ago that loved my cock. Then she started calling me at 3 a.m. but would only breath lightly into the phone. I'd invite her over but she wouldn't speak. Went on for a week or two then she stopped. I didn't whine about it. I moved on
Tell whomever they can too. Unless yours is a hypothetical question.
Or are you asking for yourself? Planning on dumping a client? 😚
The guy is an OK person, not dangerous, not "the lowest of the low." However, he's just gotten carried away, and can't take a 'No.'
Some guys get confused by the fact that this is a business. Surely, if they continue to offer us money, we'll see them again at some point? (They think)
Some guys just get WAY too attached. Recently, I had a guy like that. He told me that he fantasized about starting a family with me, and even drove me past a house he wanted to buy for "us." He joined p411 (as per his own words) just so that he could see when I was online. Sometimes, he'd ask me who I was talking to, or comment if I was online a lot. He seemed to think that his behavior was cute. He'd joke about it. Apparently, stalking = caring. However, he WAS completely harmless (he doesn't have an ounce of real harm in him), although extremely annoying and intrusive.
When I told him he had to move on (several times), he kept writing me to the tune of 'I need you.' He even told me that he was having an operation and wanted to see me before he died. He finally left me alone when I threatened to report him to p411. (However, I'm sure I'll eventually hear from him again).
There was NO ambiguity in my emails. "Do not contact me any more" and "You need to move on" were phrases in all of the emails I sent.
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If a client has fallen for a provider and can't get up, a "breakup notice" will make him/her desperate. Stupid and desperate is a bad combination, there's not much you can do except ignore it until it runs its course.
The best advice on this post is Ignore.
If the guy is only e-mailing texting calling....ignore and block should work.
If he is harassing you personally at your home or school.....be very careful.
If it doesn't stop you may need to hire a PI to find out exactly who he is and what his history is.
Last thing is to get an order of protection.