Sorry for posting from an alias but when you read you will probably understand the desire for some additional privacy.

Who had that done and they both had significant issues post surgery. The Dr's told them that "performance" issues were largely a thing of the past, but both had issues. The Dr's just said "everyone is different .. Blah,blah, blah" , but both guys had issues with getting wood and one had to wear adult diapers because he kept pissing himself.  Do your research by finding forums online and talking to guys who had the surgery.  Ask them if they felt it was the right thing to do.

Sounds like you are getting pretty good advice here..........a mentor of mine.........had the surgery and regretted it.  He now wears a bag..........and believes he would have been better off without the surgery.

You know the one where you had your sense of humor surgically removed.

A client in his late 50s early 60s who had undergone a similar procedure, though I don't know how invasive it was. He was completely upfront about it at the beginning of the session, after exchanging pleasantries of course. My experience was exactly the same as with men who have not had this surgery, except for the aforementioned difference.  

As with all surgery, get a second opinion. A lot depends on whether the cancer is aggressive or not.
Your performance depends on how extensive the surgery becomes because there are two nerve bundles with the prostate. One is for the erection and the other is for orgasm. You want to keep both if at all possible.  
The leaking urine has to do with kegel exercises and muscle control, you have to practice a lot. These are the muscles that help you stop the pee mid stream.  
Again, ask your Dr. every imaginable question you can think of. Make a list ahead of time.
Keep in mind, it is better to live cancer free than to die of cancer!

I have a couple of friends who had the surgery.  From what they told me it took some experimenting to see what works for them. They can orgasm but both need a pump to get an erection.  They both explained the situation to me beforehand so I knew what to expect.  We usually pause after a litle while to pump up. It seems hard to orgasm w the cock ring on so a different method is needed to finish. The only hiccup I've ran into is knowing exactly what's going on. If your the quiet type, or you don't get more expressive during the finish you have to communicate when you are done.  
I wouldn't worry too much, as long as you tell them any pro should be understanding and willing to work with you.

And it did not turn out well. This was a few years ago. Robotic surgery, state of the art. But....they had a problem. He now wears a diaper and needs to use a med injected with a hypodermic needle into his penis to get hard enough to have sex. He would NEVER have gotten the surgery if he could go back. Like the others, even though you think you know everything, keep looking and get a second and maybe a third opinion. Good luck whatever you decide.

AND no smell.

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From what I have learned and heard from several urologists, prostatectomy will most likely hurt you sexual functionality.  Very likey you will not enjoy your sex life after surgery.  There are exceptions, and how much you can still enjoy your sex life is very hard to predict, and varies from case by case.  Most people who lost their function won't come to this board.  You can only hear from people who still maintain somewhat sex function, and the opinion you get from this board is heavily biased.  If I were you, I will be fully prepared to say farewell to this bobby if I decided to receive the surgery.  Good luck, brother.

kiss up to me..........but I still think you would be better served..........if you reflected BEFORE you clicked the "post message" button.

Here's a Men's Health article on it. Cliff Notes: 1/2 the men who had the surgery said life was worse after ... a friend who had it told me to NEVER allow Dr's to talk you into it. I refuse the "finger wave" and PSA tests because Prostate Cancer is a slippery slope. Most men will die with it, NOT from it.

Yes, most men die with it than from it, but certain factors come into play, such as,,,,

1. I had prostate Ca 15 or so years ago and after careful research decided to have radioactive seeds implanted.  My prostate shrank to a tiny dot.  I am in my 70s and still have good erections and climax.  I usually have one or two small climaxes and if all goes well one biggie at the end during which small amounts of fluid comes out. I explain all this the first time I am with someone, and there is never a problem.  

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That its true, but the long term results tend to be better with the non surgical approach.  And, iff you have surgery and no longer have control of your urine or can no longer get an erection, that is permanent as well.  Some of the best data I have seen suggest there is a 50% chance of incontinence or impotence or both.And dat on long term results do show a slight edge to non surgical treatment for long term cure

we'll have a fine time