A guy is ready in fifteen minutes or less.

Some guys make a point to getting the room, etc. way in advance so that they are on time, then figure that you are like them and are just sitting around already made up, etc.

So, they figure that they are doing you a big favor, plus they are anxious to see you.

I doubt we'll ever learn, but it's OK for you to vent now and then.

... go through the effort of booking an appointment 3 weeks in advance and confirm the hotel and time twice, only to call you a few hours before your appointment and say, "You can come earlier if you'd like." ??

I dont know how other women are, but if you schedule an appointment with me at 5pm, I dont even start getting ready until about 3:15. It takes me about an hour and 15 minutes to get ready for an appointment, then with the way traffic is in my city, it takes about 30 minutes to drive to any major hotel.  So if our appointment is at 5pm and you call at 3 and say, "You can come early if you'd like," sure, we can come early-- if you'd like to see a woman with no makeup on, wet hair, and hairy legs.

I assume most guys are either married, have been married, or have had a long term relationship with a woman.  You'd think guys whould know that it takes women FOREVER to get ready!!!!!

Providers do not sit around all day with their makeup done, hair done, body shaved, smelling lovely.  **We sit around in our pajamas with pore cleansing mask on our face until 2 hours before our appointment

If you'd like us to come early, just schedule the appointment at the time you'd like it!!!!

Just FYI for some of you guys.

Thanks

Sometimes they just might find themselves settled in and ready earlier than they planned, so they extend the offer.
If they scheduled weeks in advance, and called twice to confirm, it might just be that they are excited to see you and looking forward to it.
So they call in hopes that you might be able to make it earlier.

Just another woman thinking we're GD mind readers and know what they are going through at every minute.
Hopefully he enjoyed the fantasy and never gets to know the "real" you.

There's your FYI

Since I don't believe in Peter Pan or unicorns, I also don't believe I'm the only guy a woman will see that day or evening.

When I was only seeing outcall providers at my house, I'd tell them that they could come early (if they wanted to) just to let them know that I'd be there, the house was ready and the coast was clear- if it helped them to come early, then come early.

Since they rarely arrived within a half hour of when they said they would anyway, the point was usually moot.  But I did see one provider for a couple years that had a 7-year old daughter, and it usually worked out better for her to come to my house earlier in the afternoon, and get home earlier for her daughter.  So she appreciated the flexibility and frequently would call to say she'd be arriving 1/2 hour early.

As is often the case, it is a mistake to project personal experience or motivations onto everybody else because our situations aren't all the same.

I had just assumed that each and every gal that I have seen (or will see) is just always that gorgeous naturally, and waiting for my call

Now that vision you have put out there (hairy legs, et al) for me...well...I prefer to just enjoy the fantasy.

LOL don't you know the anticipation is killin' him. He knows you're going to be there, but the ol' clock on the wall is just not movin' fast enough. He figures, what the hey? All you can say is no. He might get lucky and you can be there early. Now if he starts being a pain because you can't that's a whole other issue.

...and yes for what ever reason some guys don't get the whole gettin' ready thing for ladies. I have to say to him, Dude it is SO worth it. (Just as long as you are on time.)

I had a provider call me and ask if it was ok to be late because of traffic and hair appointments and stuff. We had seen each other before. I knew she was not just messin' around. When she did get there! (exactly on the minute at the new time we had arranged.) Ah! Yes! It was definitely worth it.

So cut him a little slack...and from me thanks for all you go through to make it sooo worth it.

It would be one thing if they told you to get your ass over there now or the deal is off. All they're doing is giving you an option if you want to use it. Some women may find it more convenient to bump up the time depending on circumstances.

Besides, I see ads all the time where providers say they can be over in less than hour from the time you call. They're like fire fighters, ready to jump into action on a moments notice from the time they get into character until they call it a day.

I'm single and a selfish bastard, that's for sure. BUT, I don't presume to tell a lady to get her fine ass over ASAP.

As a matter of fact, I can say on one occasion the lady called me and wanted to bump up the deal. Shityeah! The sooner the better. Funny part about that was, she didn't leave any sooner than she would've with the original time.

All I'm saying is, yeah, it's not cool to say 'get your ass over here NOW!' But I don't mind if they say 'Mikey, I'm ready now.'

Know what I'm sayin'?

Well that was a little rude.  Im not a stinkin slob on my time off.  Im just not "done up".  

Heres just a shortened version of why we do to get ready:

-Take a bath
-Wash the girly bits--inside and out-- five times
-Shave every hair off our body--every single freakin hair
-Shampoo our hair
-Blow dry our hair
-Flat iron our hair- part by part- while angling a mirror behind us so we can see the back of our head
-Lotion on the entire body
-Paint toenails
-Put on foundation, powder, eye shadow, blush, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick
-Pluck our eyebrows
-Spray on perfume
-Look for lingerie-- Why the hell cant we ever find the matching panites to our bra??!!
-Find the damn panties but they're dirty-- FUCK!  
-Wash the panties quickly and throw them in the dryer.  Will they be dry in time??
-Look at the clock-- I have 10 minutes to be out the door
-Tear through our closet looking for something appropriate for the hotel we're visiting-- it cant be  
too sexy.  It cant be too conservative
-Try on 5 outfits, model in the mirror
-Try on 5 pairs of shoes-- repeat
-Get still damp panties out the dryer and put them on.  Bloody hell
-Im late.  Jump in the car and race to your hotel.
-Fight rush hour traffic
-Arrive to hotel and go to hotel bathroom to check our appearance, touch up makeup and compose ourselves
-Knock on your door... (Only 5 minutes late, phew!)

Maybe Im just a bad planner but this is why "You can come earlier if you'd like" stresses me out so bad.

Thank you for the other perspective!!  I just took it as something to be stressed over-- not that they were trying to be considerate...

This happens alot ("Come early if you want") so you must be on to something

I'd hate to make you go through all that just so I can get laid.  Why don't we just forget it and save us both the bother.  That way I get to keep my cash and don't even have to wash my balls.

LMMFAO!!!!

Now THAT was funny!!

women.  we can run late or early and be in trouble.   they run late or early and we should understand.  Shit it was just a hey I am ready are you.  And please do not take this wrong, but I think most of us think you have more than a 5 oclock appointment and might want to get it out of the way and get on with the rest of the day. My .02

That's right ............. aren't those 24/7 and short notice gals ready to go at a the drop of a hat? LOL

When a client says to me "you can come earlier if you'd like" all I hear is an excited invitation.
If I can take it on the happenstance I'm flexible or in the unusual circumstance that I've begun dressing early I will.  If I cannot, I say "lets keep the original time, but thank you!"

Last night I had someone show up extremely early.
I still had hot rollers in my hair and my makeup was only half done.  When he called I explained that I had curlers in, had to finish my makeup and would probably take several minutes to put on my outfit because my nails always tear my hosiery and I was just going to take it slow lol- he thought it was cute and sexy that I took so much time getting dressed for appointments.

I've learned that I take a really long time to get dressed because I'm particular and I like to feel confident going into sessions.  I've learned to streamline that process and minimize the stress.
If I'm late I throw a lot of time on the back end of the appointment to compensate for inconvenience and keep the energy going to offset any irritation as soon as they get in.

Don't let a casual invitation stress you out; they're just excited.  
Make a choice to be happy and maintain : ).

For the same reasons you mention, planned way ahead, get off work, fight the traffic so I leave in plenty of time to not be late. Then occasionally everything goes right and you find yourself there a half hour or more early. So while I realize you may still be getting ready I make the offer to bump it ahead and in the case of a half hour early it has even worked out occasionally. Especially since I tend to do daytime appointments and starting earlier can sometimes mean she will be able to pick the kids up from school herself. It is only offered as a courtesy things on my end have worked out better then originally planned and so I offer to pass that benefit along to the lady. Never any problem if the original schedule works better.

I empathise with you for feeling rushed HonestProvider. I confess I have been guilty.  I have offered the option to come early only because I knew she had to drive to another location soon after my appointment.  I had providers call me to come early to their incall because they want to squeeze me in between appointments.  I have had girls who come late because of flight delays, traffic, or just can't find your place (unlikely).  I have been late because the location was changed.  Bottom line is, if you go to a restaurant and order your favorite meal, you never tell the chief you want it early. If you think your time is worth the earlier hour, compensate her generously and you will both be happier.

One time my GF told me to pick her up and 8:00 PM so we could go see one of her girlfriends sing at a local club.  I arrived exactly at 8:00, and we left her apartment exactly at 10:30!  

Even though she looked like she was almost ready to go at 8:00, at least to my male eyes, she wasn't satisfied with her appearance for another 2 1/2 hours!   After getting yelled at a couple times, I just quietly sat in the living room by myself until she was finished.  Of course, to me, she looked the same as she did at 8:00 o'clock, but I didn't dare say that.

I can't complain, though.  I appreciated the fact she was fastidious and always looked great.  Plus, she even let me shave her legs and pussy once when she broke her wrist, which was awesome!

You know ladies, maybe you're going at this wrong.  I'll bet you could find some very willing and generous clients willing to climb in the bathtub with you and shave your legs, pussy and other parts in preparation for your date.  I swear, I enjoyed the hell out of it and it just happened by accident.  I think it's so sexy to watch a woman leaning over the sink as she puts on her make up in front of the mirror, just wearing her bra and panties.  Some of my best sex has taken place in that situation.  I think it could be a great way to turn what might be a one-hour date into a two or three hour memorable experience- just an idea.

when a man "suggests" an option.

To us, it's no big deal; to women it is a big deal.

That's because men are unconscious and women are abusrd.

Remember that always.

That is understandable.  If the woman has to pick up a kid or is high volume and needs to get going to her next appointment, yes, it makes sense to offer for her to come earlier.

That is not my case.  

Do you call your doctor a few hours before your appointment and offer to come in early if that helps him out?  Probably not.  He'd say, "No, come in at your appointment time."

I guess Im being silly and I now realize the guys aren't trying to stress me out on purpose.  Its just an inherent difference between men and women.

Guys think they are being kind, offering her to come early.

The provider, meanwhile, is running around like a chicken with her head cut off, thinking, "He gave me 3 weeks notice and even confirmed the time twice!!  If he wanted me to come early, why didnt he just book an earlier appointment in the first place??!!"

I do see your point of view, the reason the guys don"t book an earlier time to begin with is to make sure they can make the appointment and not be late. When I make an advance appointment I always work out a safety net of time for the unexpected. IE I can't get free as early as I think. traffic or weather slows me down. When making an advance appointment, many of us are dealing with a lot of variables and so we don't book at the earliest time, but at a safe time we know we can make. So then when things do work out better we are ready sooner. In your defense I would only call a provider that it was ok to come early if I knew her well enough to know that she also might be able to make it early. With my ATF I know her schedule reasonably well enough to know when she might be already ready and could use the extra time on the other end.

Oh my god that is so true!!  

The problem is:  women dont really go to the mall to pick up one specific item.  We go to the mall looking for a broad spectrum such as "shoes" or "dresses" or "purses".  There are many different stores that sell these items so we go from store to store to store, trying on several "shoes", "dresses", and "purses" until we find what we like.

Or even if we go to the mall looking for "white shorts", a very specific item, we find the white shorts, but then we think about other stuff that would look good with the white shorts.  So we wind up at the mall for 2 hours.

Women's shopping is an emotional.  Sometimes we shop, not because we need anything per se, but because new clothes make us feel pretty.  

Wish I could but I can't. Wouldn't that be simple instead of posting this on the board to start a drama. One, could ask, why can't you keep simple things simple instead expecting every man on the face of the earth to know your quirks and behave accordingly.

Don't see the point, he I am a simpleton.

Studies have shown that women speak about three times the number of words in a day than men do.  So, basically, by the time he gets home, he's already used up all his words.  This is another arguement for same-sex marriage!

There is little sexier than watching a hot woman getting ready for a date.

If you've got a man gene, there's only one and it's teeny tiny.

I always wondered why it took women so long to go on a date. Even my sister would lock herself in the bathroom for hours.  Like most men, I am ready in 15 mins. I pull on any clothes in that are clean in the closet. maybe I will comb my hair. I definitely brush my teeth, but unless it is for work or a date, I don't shave.

I think it is important to realize that just because a guy asks if you can arrive early doesn't mean you need to say "ok". From his perspective, he is only asking, not expecting. Women often make the mistake of thinking a question is a statement.

This is HUGE! It totally changed my way of dealing with the "other half" when I realized that they are much more literal. He is not "telling" you to come early, merely "asking". If you can't, just say "No, I'll be there at our previously agreed upon time though, and I am really looking forward to seeing you..." (You can put that last bit in if you feel he needs a little reassurance about your interest.)

Realizing that men use words differently than women is very helpful. The guys undoubtedly don't intend to be saying "You need to come early". They intend to be saying "Come early if you can." I, like you, usually can't. So I say that, and no hard feelings. I like to be ready, nice and relaxed and not rushed if possible. This puts me in a better state of mind for a romantic encounter. And guys do understand this and would never want to get me flustered and "off my game".

Well stated. I'm gonna' keep this handy.

You're right, we're very literal.  When women speak, there's always a "subtext" but there almost never is with men.  We say what we mean and you don't need to over think it in an attempt to extract some hidden meaning- there isn't any.

We know and accept that verbal skills are a female superpower, along with boobs and your other curvy parts.  So we don't pretend to claim superiority, but frankly, we just can't understand why women make it so damn difficult for themselves with all the hidden meanings, opposite meanings, and mis-directed meanings.  Why do you say "No, nothing's wrong" when everything is wrong?  (It's a rhetorical question).

I just think women would be much happier knowing what you've just stated- men are literal.  If we think someone is an asshole we say "He's an asshole."  It's not that hard to understand.  For example, as a general rule, no means no, and yes means yes.  With a little practice in literal thinking, any woman can successfully learn to communicate with the men in her life.

Well said Jill. It's very true about how men and women use language differently.
Another source is "He Says, She Says by Lillian Glass Ph.D

As I stated in an earlier post (in this thread) if he is being a ass about you coming earlier that is a whole other discussion.