Sure it's cool if a client and provider really hit it off, and the relationship becomes more than what was expected.  
 
 
I'm curious as to know why a gentleman would seek out a relationship in this arena?

EGO

One of the many attractive aspects of the hobby is that you have fun, hopefully both of you, and then she leaves (or you leave if it's incall). That in itself is fucking beautiful, no bullshit or fighting or any of the crap that comes along with dating or a relationship. You both know what the motivation is and then you say your goodbyes. Why anyone would want to mess with a good thing is beyond me. This is not to say I wouldn't date a provider if I was interested in dating. I think providers or past providers would make good SO's, I just personally can't see the upside of a dating relationship now that I have the hobby. Fun for a known cost and then "have a nice day", you can't improve on that, in my mind anyway and I understand everyone is different.

so why wouldn't you want to get to know them better?

It may not be the best idea for a lot of reasons, but the attraction is easy enough to understand.

1. Submissive - attracted to a cuckold relationship as a fetish.

1. The guy is an idiot and thinks that it's going to be just like the sessions all-day everyday, and won't turn into a typical relationship and all its attendant baggage.

So I go out on a date, and we stop for drinks.
Two conflicting questions start coming at me.
My date says, "Don't you think you've had enough?"
And the cocktail waitress says, "Would you like another?

Very easy to answer this question:  SEX  

Posted By: RobbinYoung

So the hobbyist no longer has to pay for pussy. lol  
   

Posted By: bigvern

Sure it's cool if a client and provider really hit it off, and the relationship becomes more than what was expected.    
     
  I'm curious as to know why a gentleman would seek out a relationship in this arena?    
   

I would also add the ease of meeting. In this business the woman HAS TO pretend to like him to get the money. The money gets him in the door, but the delusion keeps him going back. Yes, I said delusion, not illusion lol. There are also many women who are hoping to find true love here for the very same reasons, or because they are too dumb or lazy to do a thing on their own.  

Successfully for more than the expiration of a prenup.

You silly son of a bitch, you're dating finger cuffs?  
 

I guess it would be nice to not have to lie about seeing escorts.
I hate lieing... So. That would be a huge weight off my shoulders.

1.  Most providers are really hot.
2.  Most providers really love sex.
3.  See one and two if you still don't get it..
4.  Free sex with said hot woman who loves sex.
5.  Ego/Narcissism -  said guy gets to have lots of sex with really hot women for free while other guys are paying for it.  

Once you weed out the trophy hunters, the would-be pimps, the stalkers and the junior high school crushes it's easy to see that even in P4P sometimes one person will develop a strong liking for another. It happens in offices and in squad cars and on military bases and in showbiz so why not here. Sadly it will sometimes be the case that those feelings are not reciprocated and that the other party wants to keep things on a strictly business basis. In that case it's up to the first person to man up--or woman up--and move on.   Just because we're engaged in a business transaction doesn't mean genuine human feelings will not occasionally intrude.

Rescuing people is a human need...financially, emotionally, psychologically.

since Tobi said she wouldn't do me. She really hurt my feelings. I even nominated her for "rookie of the year"! I did sign a prenup once and it was worth every penny!!! She was a fucking knockout. The nup said she gets everything I own now and in the future. No wait, that wasn't in the prenup, that was in the divorce decree. I had one shit lawyer for both! But I still love my brother.

And I'll happily "verify" it. Lol.

You are from Jersey? I thought that's where JLA went to school. Jersey Shore biaatch lol.

OMG..we actually have an interesting thread with no name calling or bashing..i love TER.

I didnt go to her HS and I'm not from joi-sey but I watched Don John so I know how a guido is supposed to act.

The movie took place at the Jersey Shore, where Kevin Smith is from.   The actress is from Little Rock, AK.  Great movie!

Her real name is Joey Lauren Adams, you goof.

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but I guess I wouldn't rule it out either.  
I usually end up pretty friendly with most of the girls I meet, but I doubt any would date me in RL, lol

I "dated" my tantric partner. She was not a GFE escort, and our Tantra sessions were only partially about "having sex". Over those years we routinely went to dinners alone or in social groups at some of LA's finest restaurants. Circe de Soliel and the opera were frequent "dates" as we'll as tons of films because we had per-release invites, several plays, again many because we had comps, and a lot of casual time together at lowmarket establishments. I even let her talk me into going to church once, at Rev. Al Green's church. Aside from that, most things were mutually agreed on and very enjoyable for both. I continued to leave donations for the Tantra sessions, but otherwise there no exchange of money for our time together.

I can't pick a woman up in a bar, not one that I would be attracted to anyway. But, I also don't want to. I don't want to go through all that bullshit, I want to get laid. It's going to cost me one way or the other, so I have the perfect answer, pay a  provider. A lady that I am attracted to and that is there to make me happy. Another bonus is watching the women in the bar when they realize I have their kryptonite. Why isn't this guy responding and falling all over himself to try to get in my pants. No thanks, I'm going to get my world rocked by a 9 later and you're a 6 at best and I don't have to listen to your bullshit to get it either, it pissed them off.
 

And then the basher gods will pick one of their insecure subjects to come try to pick a fight while they are hiding behind the security of their computer screens. You see their subjects can only feel good about themselves by trying to make others look bad. I've got this all written down, I can show it to you sometime. Oh wait, I already did.

coming from 'you'. No further comment.

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Like I said I'm not against such relationships (why mess up a good thing?) unless you are trying to make it better.

Every female I've ever dated, or been intimate with outside of pfp has been a little loopy.

This diagnosis is clear too.  
The self hating is evident in this post.  
Lol.

Very true.

I know you could not pick up a chick if your life depended on it and I can see why  
   
                           Your not exactly a very handsome fellow lol!!!  

It depends. .

Needless to say I didn't read the linked post. lol

Hitting it off, and seeking it out. Are fairly different events.

Were attracted to the idea of dating a provider, even if it wasnt something they consciously sought out.

...and I don't seek it out. Very rarely would I be opposed to the idea. I mean what man sees an escort, that he is not attracted to, on some level?

I believe subconsciously, we all get a vicarious thrill pursuing someone, when we know that outside the hobby, it would not be realistic. Just like the striaight-laced girl from high school wishing she was with the bad boy.

as a lover and companion.  I find that providers let their hair down and share a lot very quickly, more so than when people first meet in the civie world, and that apparent intimacy fans the fires of desire to date.  I speak of personal experience here

The vast majority who seek it out are generally failures in multiple senses.
If you're targeting that group for your intelligence, it's an oxymoron.  

and there you have it!  It is just unexpected, and cool.  

They're not necessarily dumb, just desperate.

I've said this before. This game works backwards from civvie dating.  First you fuck.  In the process, after a few times, you get to know one another and a social relationship can develop.  It's happened to me several times and it's very rewarding because I really enjoy some of the brave and hot women who have enough balls to make this a profession and not have it eat them up.  They can be wonderful friends and companions.  But date them? I don't do that in the traditional sense. But who cares about tradition?