A previous post explained why someone would hobby -- to protect one's ego from possible rejection.

Well, I would say that is not always the case.  I've had great experiences with 8s, 9s, 10s (appearance/performance-wise) ladies, in a wide range of donations.  

Except today.

Ever feel insecure and, just in general, BAD, after a session (one that wasn't a ROB, that is)?

I had a session with a HIGHLY reviewed provider today that made me feel like a I am a SHREK or something. Why? Her body language + intangibles made me feel that way; she practically was 2 feet away from me during the post session chat (she dindn't want to lie down) Also, she didn't make any move for a second round (so it was just A BJ), she never even did a LFK; she didn't exactly pull away, but she didn't respond (distant) to my touches, either.  All the menu items I know to be available, weren't.  No semi-enthusiasm.  If I were to write an honest review about the session, it'd have to be a 5 (average) or 3 (barely worth the effort).  THe girl is super-nice, probably, so I just feel like I must have been repulsive or something. I don't know!  

Like I said, this was a session that didn't exactly make me feel good afterwards.  Physically stimulated, but mentally drained.
I know, I know... this is just supposed to be pay for an hour of fun, and then forget it about it. Well, sometimes it's hard to

You can either chalk it up to poor chemistry and that happens, right the review, or contact her and get her side of things. Maybe she was afraid by your actions that you were LE or something.....Maybe she was having a bad day and will offer to make it up to you somehow.........I would certainly try to get it made up to you somehow before writing the review.......but, that is exactly what that board is there for........don't be bullied because everyone else gives her big scores......I see that happen a whole lot. But, you also don't want to score so low that you appear to be overcompensating the situation. Just lay it out.

X's Summer

Yeah, I was wondering how long it would take for someone to bring up an escort that couldn't leave her own baggage at the door or was passive agressive during a session.  Sorry you had that experience...

And I have "rejected" a few gents myself over the years, albeit more straightforward, and always with some explanation so the person knows why, exactly.  I actually ended a three hour date 20 minutes into it due to lack of chemistry (it was *really* bad mind you...had I continued I would have had to act my ass off, which is really not my MO).  Of course I tried to be very nice and focus on the fact that *we* didn't have chemistry *together*, and that I wanted him to save his money and spend it on someone that would really enjoy him and visa versa.  He was hesitant as first...and really was trying to convince me we should just "start over".  It was an upsetting prediciment, and not an easy thing to do since I live to build people up not tear them down...but I also will not put myself in a situation I don't enjoy just to do that.  I'm a little co-dependant, but not THAT co-dependant...lol.  He ended up calling me after he left and thanked me...wanted to send me some money for my time, which I declined.  All in all, I felt I did the right thing for both of us.

I'm sure there are other examples also.  

xoMegan


-- Modified on 12/6/2005 4:25:40 AM

Suggest you write a review -- trying to maintain objectivity as you have in your post, apparently -- and let the chips fall where they may.  I once saw a nicely reviewed LA asian provider (Maki of Thatmall) and was less than thrilled.  There was just ZERO chem between us and I could not give her high marks for performance, but tried to be fair and share the blame/explanation....  Anyway, your experience is just as legit and important as the guy who gave your provider a 9/9 or 9/10.  MA

...it happens to me all the time, but every now and then there'll be a gal who's only 22 inches away from me during the post-session chat and that more than makes up for all the other times.

I set the appointment based upon reasonable reviews in TER.  We met and it was not up to my expectations of a GFE... I wrote a fact filled review - and took 2 points off her usual performance score.  When I reread all of the reviews of her, I found that she exhibited the exact same behaviour with other clients - they either overlooked the specifics or she did not do all the specifics with all of them...  either way her scores were decent.  She did bc me to say that she was sorry that I did not have a good time... but alas the damage was done.  The next guy to see her - got a true GFE experience and he could not understand my issues.

So I have been there....  it is difficult.

It sometimes happens.  Occasionally there just is no "chemistry". That is not always her fault. I like a "connection" - sincere friendliness and emotional intimacy, humor along with the physical. But I know life and stress and other distractions can affect the hobbiest and provider alike.  Move on; learn from your experience what kind of woman is best for you.

Did you wash your ass and brush you teeth?

Write the review.
This is why you are on this site.

If you cannot find something good about someone or "act" then you're in the wrong business or it's time to get out. We all experience "burn-out" at times, but it should never affect time spent together. Granted there have been some men that I'm more attracted to and want to kiss more, but that doesn't stop me from "giving it my all" to a client/friend. I agree that you should email her (better than a straight phone confrontation, and she'll have time to think about her responses) and ask if there was a problem. Perhaps she would make it up to you. If you rate her, be honest. If you found her beautiful, then give her a 10 (or whatever). If she lacked in the other department, then be fair but honest. It's your call.

Hugs,
Ciara

I spent some time with a lady not too long ago, based on a recommendation from a trusted friend.  We had a great time, and later I looked at her reviews.  Some were what I had experienced, and others were on the edge of horrible.  While we were conversing, she mentioned that it's been difficult recently, as she had just lost a very close relative.  She was just back to "full strength" and the timing of those bad reviews was at a time that she should probably have spent with family instead.

Megan, if you would leave a web site for us to see what we are missing by not knowing you.  You sound like a doll.

I just added a new gallery also (see Affinia)...and am working on a revamp.  I'm also converting my old site (which you will find a link for on my index page of my main site) to a paysite (which still has some really fun and hot stuff there...right now all for free!)

If all that doesn't tell you what kinda girl I am...I'm not sure what will... ~

All my best,

xoM

This has happened to me, but never from a well reviewed provider.  One of the best things about TER is that it provides pretty reliable information about performance.  A top rated provider knows how to deal with almost anything that might offend her.  Really, I'm sure its not your fault and you need to write an honest review so other hobbyists know that this provider can have an off day.

Not much for using an alias, but since I reviewed her...it wouldn't be too hard to ID her, and that might not be nice.

Great Post!

You did exactly the right thing. It's rare that we run into someone that the chemistry just will not flow with. And, it is impossible to get through multi-hour dates in that situation. You can't do it to yourself and you can't do it to them. It's a hard thing to tell a client that things aren't clicking.........often times he doesn't know the difference and feels rejected. And, to often women are just greedy because it's not easy to hand that money back........but, you have to. You have to feel good about all of your choices come the end of the day. Personally, I never want someone walking out my door without a bigger smile than they walked in with.

And, personally I would want a client to stop a date and say that it isn't working for him instead of pushing through and feeling about me the way that this guy is feeling about the girl that he saw. Not all money is good money and if I can't feel good about myself, others, and the money it's just not worth it to me.

X's Summer