Think about it. The lady would have to basically "throw you out" and that is difficult when she is getting paid, as most ladies want to provide a service that the client will want to repeat with time and time again. A gentleman should do his very best to not infringe upon the mutually agreed upon time frame.

I'd say that if you don't get around to initiating what you paid good money for then shame on you. Maybe you led the lady to believe that you were more interested in chatting than sex.

Most ladies I've seen are not clock watchers but it's a bit much to expect that much extra time so you can get your rocks off.

Provider's prerogative, as I understand it.   She calls the shots, so to speak.

IMO it’s on the hobbyist. If you want to mix drinking and socializing with the sex, it’s on you to make it clear whether the drinking and socializing is on the clock or not, especially if you’re looking for 2 pops. Since you’re paying, the lady should be entitled to follow your lead.

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When a girl opens her mouth, that's my cue to insert dick.  I used to do 2 or 3 shots/session, years ago.  Now I'm lucky to have one.

I know, I know Papa...

 

These days, I session with kgirls at an incall.  It's 💯 on the clock...I've been told by bookers that unless the booker or kgirl tells me it's ok to stay beyond the scheduled appointment time, it's on me for cock and clock management.

 

YEMV

Some providers will take the initiative, but if you want to get going before they initiate, then you have to make your move.  It's just like dating.  Move closer, start touching, kissing etc.  Things usually move pretty fast once you start.  It's not like you have to seduce them like in a real date.  It's just a signal to start the festivities.

I just want to make sure he gets what he came for. So  even when we are having an amazing conversation, I'll wait for a lag in the convo or lead the convo into a 2nd round.  

Talking about music? Mmmm this song makes me want to bounce on your **** again.

Talking about food? Mmmm was it as delicious as your **** in my mouth?

And just pounce on him! Lol Dont be afraid to take the lead.

If he isnt taking initiative, then you should....or don't. It's up to you, I suppose. Lol

-Anina

The same thing applies if a client gets carried away with a conversation that he is enjoying and time gets away from him so there is no round two.  

 
Now, just to play devils advocate, if the provider intentionally tries to put off going BCD and TRIES to make a 90 minute session 98 minutes talking and one minute fucking, then shame on her, but unless she actually refuses sex for 45 minutes the onus is still on the guy.  

 
Lastly, there are a LOT of guys, (so I have heard) that rarely get even 30 minutes of "good banging" in a 90 minute session, and it has nothing to do with getting carried away talking. lol

Hobbying is about the most easiest way a man’s gonna get the action he’s looking for. She’s literally there for his pleasure, there’s no need to play any games. Still, some escorts follow the guy’s lead, and if that means the guy keeps talking, then that’s what the girl will do too. Some escorts love to talk as a natural aspect of their personality, while others are willing to let the guy ramble on if it means they have to do less work. They get paid regardless of what the guy does.  

A hobbyist is a paying customer, and he’s still a man, at least most of the time he is. Does he want sex and he feels the girl is playing him by letting the initial meet and greet drag on for way too long? Then he needs to just get in there, he’s literally paying for it, she’s expecting him to go for it, and if he’s booking a 90 minute session than I have to assume that he booked that amount of time for multiple pops in addition to having a nice conversation. Plan accordingly.  

I regularly book 2 to 4 hour sessions with my favorite girls. Generally this means I get in there, we greet each other, the sex starts pretty quickly, and then we have an intermission where we talk and catch up, have a little wine or go for dinner, and then we go for another round to conclude the night. I make sure I get 100% of what I’m expecting from the date, and usually the girl I’m with understands what I’m after.  

That said, I did have an issue with a prior ATF that decided she wanted to do way more talking than I wanted and would burn through lots of our time, ruining our dinner schedules and aggressively pushing back at me when I tried to engage in sexual activity. So I stopped seeing her. If you’re not getting what you want, then move on, find someone who’s a better fit. You’re literally paying for it after all, don’t burn hundreds or thousands of dollars on some dud who isn’t willing to service you the way you expect to be serviced.  

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A provider who's interested in the client getting his money's worth will get a little assertive to move things along if the guy is nervous/chatty. But the alcohol complicates things if it causes him to have performance issues. In the situation as described by the OP it's all on him.

So he may not understand that the time starts when he arrives.  IMO, the  best way is to bring it up about 15 minutes in, but asking him "shall we get comfortable", then go sit next to him and give him a kiss and a squeeze through his trousers.  If he doesn't  agree, then remind him he booked 90 minutes and he has already used 15.  You  could offer him the option to extend the session to 2 hours  or longer for the additional donation amount if he still wants to chat for awhile (assuming your schedule for the day permits).   I think something like this is preferable to waiting an hour and then telling him he has 30 minutes left.  

I have posted about this before.  Years ago I visited a retired porn star...drove 90 min each way to see her.  One hour appointment.  She kept talking, and talking.  I would drop hints I was ready to go, leg touching, sitting back massage while talking, etc.  

After 45 min she look at her clock and says "whoa, we need to get going you only have 15 min".  I called BS.  Her response was either I bought more time or her "friend" in the lobby would pay me a visit.  I was hustled, pure and simple.  During the reaming time she took her top off and BBBJ to completion.  No kissing, no touching the merchandise.  I felt like I was in the VIP room of a strip club.  

I have been lucky, this only happened once.

Complements to those who place a "Chatty Cathy" warning in their reviews.  You saved me from wasting money.

While we are on my favorite subject, me, I recently dumped my user name and switched to the name I use on the boards and reviews.  Not sure why I have not done so before....lazy I guess.  If this opens up my reviews to folks who search WICardinalfan, great.  Never meant to be secretive.  

Sorry, I failed to address the main issue in this thread.  

If you know the lady in question is a talker, it's on you.

If you feel the lady is talking too much....try hinting or out right say you want to get started, in a polite fashion.

Hardest of all, if the lady continues to chat you have a judgement call.  Let her keep talking and hope she will not end the session on time, or push the issue so you are not getting hustled (See my first post).

IMHO

I am pretty sure this wasn't your intention but that response right there sounds really bad to me and gives me the inclination that I wouldn't want to schedule with you.

"Like I said the guy was quite chatty, and I was actually the one to finally say we better get to business after an hour had gone by.  I actually did also let the session go over by about 20 minutes, but I did actually have another appointment after him, which I was subsequently late to (luckily it wasn't a problem). "

You just basically said you are ok with blowing off the next appointment, something anyone with a bit of experience in this lifestyle would find a negative, glad it "wasn't a problem", but then you follow it up with...

"I would have probably let things go over a little bit longer, I did ask if he would like to extend his stay by paying to upgrade his time which he declined"

So you were willing to be late to your next appointment, and you would be willing to ignore your next client, whom as far as we know has never seen you, simply because you let one run over.  And then you state you were willing to extend the session if he paid more? Literally saying you won't "fuck" the next guy, which is what you did.

Doesn't really sound fair to the next client, or anyone else who was interested in scheduling with you...

It's your life, your body, your price structure, but Lady, that right there tells me I probably don't want to be a client of yours.

the social skills to engage civvie women face to face.  They grew up texting and emailing, and hanging out in groups rather then going on dates.  It stands to reason that they might sometimes just enjoy chatting in person with a hot lady to practice the social skills they are lacking.  There have been numerous research articles over the last ten years that say young millennial women are more interested in dating guys in their 49's - 50's because they are more open, engaging and connect better than guys their own age.

It's not necessarily the guys' fault that they can get dates.  Since the sexual revolution chicks are less likely to see first sex as a marriage track, and therefore throw themselves at 20% of the guys, who get to fuck them all.  80% of the remaining guys are forgotten men.  Maybe these ladies reach their 30's before it dawns on them they aren't going to land a top tier guy as they are now aging out of the hot guys' age range of interest.  

I did not get that message from your post.  Like yourself, I have clients which need my attention and sometimes conflicts occur and meetings get double booked, or run over.  

My clients businesses, but people just the same.

I would have done exactly what you did.  Great judgment.  

Only time I have gone over with chit chat has been driven by the provider, not myself.  It is a balancing act.  My personal preference is conversation, seductive conversation via foreplay, animal conversation during fucking.

I cannot imagine taking up my hour appointment talking, then expecting sex.  

You went above and beyond.

Good for you.

Friends with benefits blew up in my face during the late 80"s. She said it was cool, be friends and fuck.  When the conversation turned to biological clock and babies, I knew I was in over my head.

Ahh to be young and wise in today's world.  

Whoa There!

 

+1 For bigboypants

 

And did said monger pay $600 + for 90 minutes?!?!  And you let said monger go off at the mouth for the initial 60 minutes....

 
And this is why I stick with kgirls.  No offense intended.  This is me going back to the kgirl board.  I know, I know Papa...

 

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Of course it's there fault that they have no game. Not all, not even most women go for just the hot guys. Thankfully I might add, because I am never going to make the cover of GQ Magazine. lol

 
Game will beat looks any day of the week. Times change and women's priorities change. No, women are less likely to be fucking in order to land a husband, but pretty much universally women like a man with a spine, and an actual man is going to get a lot more pussy than a spineless jellyfish who almost always end up in the friend zone.