A while back I read a post from a provider who seemed somewhat hurt that a recent reviewer "only" gave her a 7 for looks.  It got me thinking...
In my limited reviews, I have given five 7's and one 8 for looks, the thinking being that "attractive" is a GOOD thing and "really hot" is well above average.  "Model Material" and the much coveted "Once in a lifetime" (how many once in a lifetimes can there BE anyway?) are incredibly rare in and out of the hobby.
Soooo, am I grading too literally & inadvertantly hurting the feelings of some incredibly nice ladies that I think the world of? or is there a tendancy for others to perhaps be too generous with the higher numbers?

"7" is a great score on both sides. Ego aside, there are only a few people that even come close to resembling their pictures. What's true is that she is who you pay for, no matter what you believed her to look like. I wouldn't change your system of grading because it would mean that you were lying. It's all mighty subjective and some providers have bad nights on both sides. I was with a 7, but the night I saw her, it was like WTF happened. She got the seven, but my account of the night told the story. When I see 9s and 10s in the looks dept. I chalk it up to someone with really bad vision and I am usually right. Aren't you?

I don't take the descriptions in the review explanations literally,  I take them as a grade from 1 to 10, and decide how many points out of 10 best fits the provider.

Take "once in a lifetime" as an example.   How can you really decide that this girl is once in a lifetime until the lifetime is complete?   As a 60 something I laugh at any 20 something or 30 something who thinks that once in a lifetime is literal.  After all, that reviewer has 30 or 40 years of experience before he gets to my age, let alone the age of my father.

When it comes to looks I say, "Look around."  If the girl is more beautiful in looks than almost anyone you see, she is probably a 10.   And if she brings you to heights that almost nobody else in your experience has (and I have been at this hobby for more than 25 years), then give her a 10 for performance.  And if you are lucky, as I have been in this hobby, you get to meet more than one 10

Reon't Be So Literal

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It is by the number of blocks that I would be willing to follow the lady. Of course, anywhere more than 10 blocks would be a 10.


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How many Clydesdales would it take to pull her off my face?

thats a nine, and i'am a hard scorer

Don't change the way you are rating.  I look for a track record both on the provider's and the reviewer's side.  If a provider has consistent 8's and someone gives her a 7 or a 10, I look at that reviewer's other reviews and see what the other providers he's seen look like to adjust the scale.  I tend to place less weight on reviewers that seem to give only 9's and 10's - they seem too easy to please.  Personally, I have never given a 10 and have only given a couple 9's and those providers really were models.  If I ever find a 10, 10, I'll probably stop seeing any other provider.

The "looks" ratings are way more relative to the reviewer than performance, imho.  Such a great topic to discuss, as I've often wondered if TER has it's own scale.  
One man's 10 (one in a lifetime) could be a 5 (average?) to another.  A woman could more than likely perform 10's while being unable to change her 4's in appearance.
Since I'm a provider - I really don't have an unbiased opinion on this, sorry.   I feel that anything higher than ugly is okay with me... I really shouldn't even be responding to this.

I don't think this is a state secret...
The scale reviewers are provided goes like this;

1 I was really scared
2 ugly
3 homely
4 OK if you're drunk
5 plain
6 nice
7 attractive
8 really hot
9 model material
10 once in a lifetime

I think a lot of providers, myself included, are very happy with 7's and 8's in the looks department, when rated.  Looks are like the lottery...very few people genetically "win" 9's and 10's...but if a man thinks you are "attractive," then that's a good thing.  If you want to score points with a woman, I guess you could always point out the thing about her you find most attractive...flattery will get you everywhere!  But most women know that it's inner beauty that really counts and endures.

I love the fact that someone would take the time to write one. I love collecting them for my personal benefit, but I never read them. I already know the guy had fun, and I had fun. I know my integrity is high and my standards for treating my company is excellent. Unfortunately, I do click more with some guys than others and sometimes we get a little more wild than I planned from the start.

I had one guy from VA Bch, and we went crazy, anal sex, he took pics of his dick in myass, etc. So I won't read what he wrote, I know he had fun, and I am worried I came across way too wild for the other guys who read it.

I really am passionate and it doesn't have to be crazy bunny sex, but sometimes it is, so the reviews are kinda scarey. You never know what someone is looking for and they may not want one thing or may want more of something. So, if someone writes a review, I am glad, but I don't peek!
As for appearance, I'm a unique looking person anyway. I am very tiny, and small frame, some men love that, other men want a little more to a woman, bigger breasts, longer legs, maybe chunkier. So, I don't take what people see in me personally. I know I have men who go wild when they see me and just love my body. That's enough, not ALL of them HAVE to feel that way. I'm ok with being loved by a special few.

This topic is so subjective that I find it difficult to disagree with anyone's opinion. How someone feels about another's looks is quite personal and it seems somewhat pointless to try to persuade someone to change their mind.  But nonetheless it does make an interseting TER discussion topic.  Some of my random thoughts:

- The perfect '10':  Based on what I'm reading already it is clear to me that we are all not coming to the table with the same interpretation of 'Once in a Lifetime'.  And that's okay for me.  I certainly don't take it as literally as Kornlover.  A 20 year old's once in a lifetime is just as valid as a 60 year old's.  Yes the older guys will have more to compare but that does not matter.  What matter's is how you feel at that time regardless of future possibilites.  That argument reminds me of Olympic judges who will not score early performances high because they fear that they need save high scores until the end of the competition.  For me I don't subscribe to the theory that there is only one 'Once in a Lifetime' beautiful lady.  There are many extraordinarily beautiful providers out there.  Some are models, some are porn stars and some are neither but just flat out take-your-breath-away gorgeous.  I tend to think of a man's thoughts in general when I assign the 10 beauty tag. For the typical non-hobbying guy, if he ever had the chance to have sex with this lady then what would go through his mind?  If I think most guys would feel like I do that she is even beyond model beauty and exceptionally rare then a 10 is fair game.  Let's not forget that thousands and thousands of ladies provide.  Saying that only 1 can carry the 10 mark is limiting to say the least.

- 9's and 10's are signs of easy reviewers:  Perhaps.  Then again we all tend to rely heavily upon the research capabilites that TER and other sites provide.  If a guy is doing his homework and looks for a lady with plenty of 9/10 reviews then guess what?  He's going to find many and he will likely choose from those hits.  So when he too gives a 9 and 10 afterwards is he being an easy marker or is he just adding to a well established history?

- Before getting into the hobby, I frequented strip clubs for many years with many friends and business associates.  Often times there would be a conversation about who is the most beautiful dancer in the joint tonight.  Almost always there would be disagreement.  Joe is a boob guy and Cindy has an incredible pair. Mike is an ass man and Barbie's looks like an apple.  I'm a leg man and Crissy's make me cry.  So right off the bat the subjectiveness of this exercise is established.

If we ever think that we will score the same way we are kidding ourselves.  I guess we should just try to be consistent ourselves.                                    

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Many that even though they get paid, what they give their clients is sacredly personal.  They are not going to like anything in the middle of the scale.  

Secondly, from a business standpoint, a 7 really does nothing for them.  They know that guys will glance at the numbers without reading the review, and will move on.

Who can blame them?  I wonder how we would feel if our looks and performance were reduced to such a subjective rating system.  And what if other providers had access to our "reviews" and made decisions about who they would see based on those ratings?  Guys like me would never get a date!

I am surprised by how many people (providers and hobbyists) are so worried about the looks ratings.  I think some of it depends on how you use this site.  I usually find an ad where I find the girl attractive and then check to see if she has any reviews.  So by the time I read the review, I've already pretty much decided that she is someone I would like to see lookswise.  The only time reviews have changed my mind is if the pictures are fake or old or if the face was blurred (a pretty face is important to me as much as a hot body).  But here again, the write-up gives me more information than a simple number.  Usually, the performance rating and write-up are what make or break the deal for me.  The provider can be a 10 in looks but if she isn't any fun, I won't see her.

Depends,
The ladies are continually saying that what counts is cleanliness and respectful treatment.  On THAT scale I'm a 10 10 (O.K., maybe 9's), as I will be so recently showered as to be barely dry when she arrives, and after she gets there I am perfectly happy to worship her.
Now on the looks scale, this bald overweight middle aged fart doesn't have a chance...

How many Buds do you have to drink before she looks like a 10 (inverse proportion scale)

10. Weren't You A Playmate Of The Year?
9. My God! You're Gorgeous!
8. You're A True Hottie.
7. You're A Girl Next Door.
6. You Must Be An Acquired Taste.
5. But You've Got A Great Personality.
4. Your Pictures Don't Look Anything Like This!
3. Would You Mind Wearing A Bag Over Your Head?
2. I'd Better Leave Before The Coroner Gets Here.
1. I Hope You Got The Number Of The Truck That Hit You.

I sort of chuckle at myself because only a few short months ago, it was all about getting that first all important rewview. I fretted over getting a bad review out of the gate. I poured over reviews and got all sorts of smart do's and don't in this hobby.

Then I got my first review, and it was a great one. The second one, bless him he'd never written one before and his write up was well, not all I'd hoped it would be. Then disaster struck in the form of a really bad review - well it was pretty unflattering anyways.

I'll admit I was pretty upset about it. Then I figured out that reviews ARE subjective. I sitll think the bad one is actually fake, but its beyond my control, and after being upset for a few days I got over it. I knew that my reviews would balance out over time, and they have.

Honestly, I don't really care what the rating on looks is. I'm not a small woman, and I'm not young either, but I am a very attractive woman. A 6 or 7 suits me just fine. I don't expect to see very many 8's, and certainly not 9's or 10's. What I've learned is that regardless of the rating on the looks scale what matters most to me, and to the men that I am with and to those who are looking at my reviews - is the performance. In terms of performance, my goal is to always provide a service that is worthy of an 8 or better. So far so good, and as long as I continue enjoying what I do, I expect it to remain that way.

A woman doesn't have much control over what God gave her in the looks department, but she certainly does have control over the energy and enthusiasm she brings, and her attitude. So for me, that's what it is all about.

Just my two pennies

now I'm horny. It's been awhile since I had sex, I'm off work at home. I can't wait 'til I go to Reno and see my regular guy. I told him I'd wait 'til we both had the time for a weekend. He's not a TER member so you won't see any reviews from him. In fact, I think I met him from RB.

He's been my only customer since Aug, and he's so cool. I don't have to worry about my expenses anymore, he's taking awesome care of that. I feel really lucky to have met him and try to show him in every way.

The reviews were awesome, I liked reading them. I love sex, I hope it shows, I know you guys are skeptical but you should be. Great thinkers are skeptical, and no one should be a sheep and just follow the herd.

I don't perform for good reviews. I perform for the fun of it and 'cause I want the guys to know that I really appreciate the time they took to see me and the fact they will hand over money to me for a good time. I like the fact they have faith in me, and show up with out drama.

Setting appointments is always a challenge, some guys don't show and some call to let me know. A lot of games are played on me, but I just think, well he sure missed out on a good time, NEXT!

I've learned a lot since I've gone indie this last year, and I've been too so many places and met all kinds of men too. I'm getting better at handling my biz and have grown a lot in the experience department. I still get nervous when I go to a new city or meet starngers, especially when they are calling me and my phone is ringing like crazy. I panic it's gonna be a cop. For some reason, the right man and I just click, I feel comfortable from the start of the call, and things go smooth. I like that a lot. Sometimes, it's feeling wrong, and I don't connect with a good feeling and I back out or they do. I don't know why. It is still a mystery to me how the best ones show up at my door. I've met the neatest, coolest, classiest guys I could ever hope for. I hope they feel as comfortable with me as I do them.

Well, I wrote more than I intended and left out the reason why I got turned on reading my reviews, but I guess it's 'cause I'm horney.

love Heather

Heather, Your comments "I perform for the fun of it and 'cause I want the guys to know that I really appreciate the time they took to see me and the fact they will hand over money to me for a good time. I like the fact they have faith in me, and show up with out drama" is what this hobby is all about for me.  I rank "performance" a whole lot higher than "looks."  What good is a playmate if she just lays there?

Now, when are you coming to the Southeast?

I've been watching your reviews and posts for the last couple of months as well.  I only live about 3 hours from you, and in this hobby wasteland an enthusiastic GFE is incredibly hard to come by...
I count myself fortunate to have found Celeste in  Wichita, and hope to someday make it out your way & add to your growing list of admirers!

Until then...

Awww how sweet of you to say

Better hurry fast though, cause I'm about to get furhter away from you. Moving day is this Sunday, and I'm moving to KC.