As i have been in this line of work for a few im woundering why im getting an increase of older men asking for unprotected everything..? now this worries me because i think of how many girls say yes and how many people are walking around with std's and dont even know it. This scares me and i encourage all working girls to stay healthy. No amount of money is worth your life. Be smart not greedy.

With all of the knowledge regarding STD's, why anyone (regardless of age) would want unprotected FS is a mystery to me.  If a provider even remotely suggested this as an option to me, I would immediately leave the session as my health is much more important than a moment of pleasure.  And if she offered one, I would certainly assume she offers others.  In my travels thus far, the issue has never come up, and given that I do extensive research on a lady prior to my visit, I expect that it never will come up.

come up with a reason why they would be asking that. Older guys should know better.

It's pure ignorance......and it's the massive numbers of ladies who allow bareback.

I had one this weekend ALMOST drive me totally insane insisting that there is no way I do what I do during a session and don't go bareback, and do what I do sober. He is convinced I do ecstasy and that I bareback.

Introduce them to female condoms at their cost. They are not aesthetically pleasing, but as close as they'll get to going raw. If they insist, refuse service. Your life and health are inestimable. If they can't respect that, don't fuck 'em.

How we ALL seem to decry this BB thing. I will agree that going BB is pure insanity. However, the stories that i've heard over time would astound.

Greed is a very strong emotion. Many are under the impression that a simple shot(or comparable)would cure whatever ailment comes as a result.


And we convene to express an anger that will, more than likely, fall on deaf ears.

Let it go and just take care of one's-self.

I too have to admit I have been tried lately a few times by returning friends of all people, trying to have full unprotected. And of course in return I provided a nice STD/HIV lecture for them!!! I just want to know why? You guys know what we girls do and are more than aware of the risks!!!!! I thought bbbj was enough???

Ms. CandyGyrlxxx

You must have read my brochure.LOL

This is not a joke.   Maybe they are really suffering with condoms?  You should:

1. lecture them on HIV/STDs
2. suggest they get some sort of ED treatment  (cardiovascular support + herbal medicine preferred)

Then they need to stick to BBBJ or HJs and not put another person at risk.

I'm new to this forum but I'd like to point out that BBBJ is just as dangerous to a woman as is BBFS.

You may lose some business with these older guys, but as you said - you're not willing to take that risk.  It's all about risk and reward.  And maybe an increasing number of women in your area are offering these guys something you don't wanna do.  Probably, there's nothing you can do about it, but say No.

There are too many other options....something as simple as switching to a female condom can often help a gent who cannot maintain in a male condom.....and frankly for the guys....a woman who knows how to use a female condom = barebacking FOR THE GUYS.....it is still as safe as a male condom, but the guys don't have anything on......even with all that a lot of us still get request for bareback sessions....????

Also, there are ladies who specialize with men who had ed. I know Cindy Spice here in Vegas, Betty in South Jersey, Carissa BBW in Cleveland, Yasodhara in San Francisco.....and there are several well known ladies who are tantrics or have sessions specifically catered to men who have ED issues.

Greed is never an emotion in my life. Peace, love, harmony and tranquilty is what  I can get into. Then a great shot of Tequila...baby...then I am so taking care of myself! No anger and deaf ears here. Oh...I need to go take care of "myself"

No, you're not out of line and I can respect that as your opinion but it is not fact.

The HIV risk is much lower in BBBJ than BBFS and there are other STD that can't be transmitted by a BBBJ and can by BBFS. Not to even talk of yeast and urinary tract infections that she can get from BBFS. Both acts can be dangerous for both the man and the woman but BBFS is even more so. There is no such thing as safe sex just safer sex. Condoms are not 100% effective at stopping anything but they are the best tool we got if we are going to play. Outside if the HJ, breast play and DATY, BBBJ is the safest bare back sex act.

there are two sides of the problem here...

SUPPLY AND DEMAND

Yes, guys ask (and they are nuts)... and some ladies offer, and even advertise.

I cannot count the number of ads I have seen of ladies offering BBFS.

I will assume for the moment that the ladies posting here would never do such, but I am also reminded of other highly regarded providers who recently shocked our little community with their antics. So, the bottom line is we never know what others are really doing and we need to watch out for ourselves.

If a guy asks, either show him the door with his donation or ask if he is willing to play by the rules (but never trust him after that).

Guys, if she offers, then you know what to do... wrap that rascal...

I have heard that that references to Porn or offering "PSE" can be taken by some as shorthand for BB.

just stick to your guns girl! Protection is always a must! Diseases do not discriminate against age.

If she offers BBFS I would get dressed and leave. They would be on my DNS list for life. To much risk to even have CFS with someone who offers BBFS. Condoms are not 100% effective at stopping the spread of STD's. If a provider offers BBFS there is a good chance that she has caught something from one of her partners and that would add to my risk of getting something from her even if I am wearing a cover. If I was a provider I would turn down anyone who asked for BBFS and put them on my DNS for life. There is enough risk without adding to it by choosing unsafe partners. We need to play safe for our safety and all those we play with safety. Those who do not play safe need to be shunned until they learn to behave. No amount of fun and/or money is worth the risk of catching something like HIV/AIDS. As to why you are seeing an increase in older men asking I have no clue but I do know the STD rates are rising in people over 50 faster than any other age group. Note those in the 20 somethings still have the highest STD rate but that may be changing.

that there has been an improvemenrt in life expectancy if you catch the BIG BAD because of advances in medication regimens. with life expectancies after contracting something deadly nearing the 10-20 year range irresponsible old guys take risks. unfortunately tehy probably don't care about passing something along. i wonder if they get tested?

i never ask for unprotected anyrything although i admit that BBBJ is a plus in a profile. regular condoms are difficult so i have a preference for female condoms. i would feel dreadful if i passed an illness to someone else. so i manage things to avoid that. i don't expect to last much more another 10 years though either....

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To be more specific it is beyond improvement in life expectancy.  HIV is now a chronic disease as compared to the mortal disease of 10-20 years ago.  You will be surprised how many people you know have HIV (yep, even your medical personnel...they don't have to inform you if they practice safely) and you will never know if they stay on their regimen.  One pill once a day and they will live an absolutely normal life with complete suppression of the virus.