But that doesn't mean you can't ask for what you like. What you are dealing with is just a bit of shyness. It used to happen to me but the longer I hobbied the easier it got for me to tell the ladies what I like. One good ice breaker is to turn it around a bit. Ask them what THEY like and see what the response is...

A good lady will do all she can to  make you feel comfortable but at some point, lol, your participation is required to insure a good time. Just remember that, if you truly being a gentleman, she is very appreciative of that and wants to reward you with a great experience.

I have a similar problem, I really want to try some the more hardcore stuff, like COF. but when the time  to request come up i freeze. just can't get the words to come out to request it.
usually still have fun but alway wondered what it would be like.

as an added note I believe the people who do not have the block to ask for stuff like that are also the ones who can go into a club and find a one night stand.
just my thought.

Maybe....  I know I sometimes act like too much of a gentleman in the real world and it carries over to my hobbying.  I usually just like to let the lady take the lead.  But as others said, eventually your participation is required and so long as you're respectful about it, I doubt you'd say anything offensive.  

The more you read the reviews and the more you hobby, you'll see that guys who proclaim to have the best sessions are the ones who aren't afraid to ask.

Many providers get upset when you ask, or demand, a service they do not provide.  This information will sometimes be found on their websites, but more often you can see it in the reviews.  As long as you stay within her boundaries, you should feel free to ask for something you want.

In this case, you've been seeing her for 2 years, so you should know what she is willing and not willing to do.

When I see a new provider, I ask immediately what she is into.  I don't completely trust reviews.  Once that's established, we can get on with a great session.

Help her out and stop making her guess.  Tell her what you like and, if you know what she likes - just do it.  It will help you guys establish a non-verbal rhythm.  Sex is so much better when some things don't have to be spoken about.

Great timing for the post, as I was just thinking today about how to find out if a client wants more of a "zesty" session without sounding too crass.  Maybe it's my newness, but I am not comfortable letting go completely with the dirty talk or slight bondage, etc for fear of turning him off.  Silly considering what I am there for.  I think you can be respectful and still ask for what you want.  Let me throw out a question - how would you respond to a provider who let her "inner slut" out?

Kari~~

If it interferes with enjoying the company of the lady who genuinely wants to know how best to please you then your silence is neither gentlemanly or not.  It's a question then of whether you're being sufficiently communicative to maximize the time spent with a provider.  As in much of life, you might need a better balance in your communication--somewhere far to the left of "Spread 'em!" but also to the right of "Um, whatever."

Try this:

Write out a fantasy of what you would like and then hand it to her.  I bet that would do the trick and I bet she will find it most disarming.