I prefer that kind of situation over trying a bunch of providers once or twice.  I have a regular in my hometown and each of the cities to which I travel, and have known most of them for 4+ years.  The only time I try someone new is if one of my regulars retires or moves away.

Trying someone new brings a certain set of thrills.  But spending time with a provider who has been a friend for years is a different thrill that is so much better for me.

Just my 2 cents...

I think you may have been asking providers this question but I will give my input anyway. I have one very special woman that I will definitely see as long as she is available and willing. For me it is more exciting each time I see her. Of the others I've seen I didn't feel enough chemistry to become a regular.  I would like to find one or two more that I can enjoy enough to see regularly in case my favorite retires. I do not live in a large city so I basically travel  for my dates. They are like exciting adventures for me instead of just driving a few miles. So I need to feel a very strong connection.  The good thing is I am basically willing to travel most anywhere to see someone that I enjoy. Sometimes I can attend a comnference but I will travel just to see someone. So I prefer a very few  intense connections over seeing many different people.

Nearly 4 years....

Have I been seeing my ATF, which is over a year longer than I saw my one time fiance.  No regrets, either, and if I ever hit the ten year mark with her, I will be a very happy man!  I remember what she said after seeing her for about the eight time...that she was looking forward to the years ahead of friendship.  At the time, I thought, okay, it's great now, but in say two years, she'll retire and march off into the sunset to persue other interests.  This has proven to be wrong, and she has given no indication that things are going to change.  So maybe there will be a decade long celebration?    

A decade of friendship is worthy of a very special dinner, or something of equal import, to celebrate.  Hopefully, you two did so!

make a connection in the first meeting, and she is genuinely interested in the studies and research I am doing, and shows it by continuing the dialogue via email/phone between visits, chances are very likely we'll be seeing a lot of each other over the years for longer unrushed meetings.

If they feign interest I can pick that up pretty quickly. Since I am serious about the study of human sexual physiology, so I can use the info to help others, I need to allocate the limited opportunities I get judiciously. So, a few interested research assistants will trump trying to meet every lovely lady that comes along. (Tempting as that is.)

As you mentioned, the experience over time can either become stale, or a launching point for a deeper shared intimate experience.

with my longest running relationship with a regular.  We had one lacuna in our relationship for about a year while she attempted to make a monogamous relationship work with the father of her youngest child, but when that didn't work out we picked up right where we left off.  I made a point to stay in contact all that time and we would meet for lunch now and then to stay up with each other's lives.

Then I have another regular with whom we are having our tenth this year, another closing in on five, one closing in on four.

I'd have more except that gals retire and/or move away.  Once or twice, sadly, I have had to end a relationship over personal issues that arose.

Bev and I will be celebrating our third this coming July.

Yes, it's one wonderful world out there.

I've only been at this a bit over a year...  but I quickly found a Fav, that's my ATF...  who I still see.  
Around the 1 year mark I did some exploring...  several ladies later I found another Fav I see regularly also.  It's much nicer with a Fav...  I know I'll have a good time, I can relax.  I'll continue to check out a few new ladies but I'm not about to stop with any Favs as long as they are available.  
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There are two ladies that I will see as long as they are continuing to provide, either UTR or openly.

There are two, that if I lived in the same city as they, I would go broke....

they are as different as night and day... but they both are very sweet ladies.... I am quite fond of each - but for very different reasons...  what do they share?  they are both sweet and sexy... both are intelligent with street smarts... and both are mature enough to understand life!  

Hats of to you booth! and I hope you both have a great week!

and sometimes they change but still endure.

There is one very special lady (who has been alluded to in at least one reply above - actually I think two) who I have known for nearly five years ... which is to say, just two months less than I have been "Hyabby." Our relationship is "unusual," in many ways, and will no doubt continue for a long time.

There is another lady who I have known even longer (if only two months longer - she was in fact the second provider I ever met) who I had lunch with just last week. Although she and I have not had a "provider-client" relationship in years, we are still good friends.

And then, of course, there was Miki. Just two-and-a-half years, cut short by her premature death. And yet ... she is still a very large part of my being ... and always will be. Miss you, babe.





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I currently have two favorite ladies that I have been seeing for over two years. As long as they stay in the biz I will keep seeing them, though ine is 300 miles away and I only get down there five or six times a year.

Honestly, there are at least two other ladies that, if they were still in the business, I would still be seeing....meaning I never would have met my two current favs...

I love the connection that I get with a lady who is comfortable being with me and comfortable in her own skin. This hobby being what it is however, one has to be familiar with the "when one door closes another door opens" approach to things...

Who I see with any regularity, and not nearly as regularly as I'd like. There really isn't anyone local for me, so my dates are limited to travel time. There is one very special lady that I would see a lot more often if we weren't on opposite ends of the country. We do write back and forth, and she knows that she is still my favorite.

I do, however, prefer ladies with whom I have achieved a level of comfort.  It's just better that way for me and, I hope, for her.

I read some of these and one of the gentlemen is correct, its about the chemistry.  certain girls can rub you the wrong way others will leave a lasting impression.  I am from indiana (which good providers in this area are hard to find) and although I see many girls i have two I see on a regular basis.

I am very happy to report that I am rather close friends with a great number of what is commonly referred to in this business as 'regulars'...
It's not everyone that gets to this point, but we can share a box of kleenex and do music exchanges (I'm a rockabilly girl, so of course this is one way to really woo me)...

It makes me proud of my job, to have these people integrated in my life to such a large extent.

I've got three that I just like tremendously as people as well as my fantasy "lover" provider-  can't imagine not seeing them as long as they are in the business.

It simply depends on how real the provider and hobbyist are- the ones who are real will have connection, and connection is not likely to be broken except by retirement of the hobbyist or provider or some crossing of boundary by one or the other.

It's way different than when we first met, two consenting adults, a little nervous to see how this would play out. Now it's very comfortable. I've done lots of outings in public with them, gone on vacations, you name it. Even more fun is the fact that just chilling in a normal session, we really do click. The chemistry is great, the action is wonderful and it's enough to really ignite a fire in both of us for quite some time.

Katie

I have a great deal of Sweet Gentlemen, "regulars" as well. Love to see them, it's most of my business and I prefer it that way. Although I enjoy making new friends nothing beats seeing a man you have been with for over 3plus yrs everyweek or so. You know each other, know what to expect, its awesome. I cherish them as dear friends and look forward to our next tryst with great excitement. The relationships build and grow and change over the yrs but its sensational. So I don't think you are as alone as you think.



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Re: Is just me, or many of you keep seeing your regulars for....YEARS???

I think i might have you beat I have a client ive been seeing for 14 years


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I enjoy variety, I do cherish the chemistry that certain ladies and I have in common.