Today, I spent a lazy Sunday morning with one of my longtime clients.

He calls me "my *** fix" (sorry I have to keep my name anon)

For years, he has been one of my regulars and he makes a point of visit me whenever he has time between his many trips around the globe.

Between rounds, while he was showing me the pictures taken from his recent trips, we were talking about how long we know each other and how we met for the first time --- 10 years ago!

10 years! He claims I got better with time and I think he's right. Our sessions are hotter now than it was way back.

So, after he left, I was thinking about all the guys I have seen for years and I realized that I have a big number of these special men.

I might not be their ATF, but I am the one they always book in regular basis.

So, I am curious...

How many of you have seen the same person over the years?

Is this a common situation or should I consider myself an exception?

BDG






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I prefer that kind of situation over trying a bunch of providers once or twice.  I have a regular in my hometown and each of the cities to which I travel, and have known most of them for 4+ years.  The only time I try someone new is if one of my regulars retires or moves away.

Trying someone new brings a certain set of thrills.  But spending time with a provider who has been a friend for years is a different thrill that is so much better for me.

Just my 2 cents...

I think you may have been asking providers this question but I will give my input anyway. I have one very special woman that I will definitely see as long as she is available and willing. For me it is more exciting each time I see her. Of the others I've seen I didn't feel enough chemistry to become a regular.  I would like to find one or two more that I can enjoy enough to see regularly in case my favorite retires. I do not live in a large city so I basically travel  for my dates. They are like exciting adventures for me instead of just driving a few miles. So I need to feel a very strong connection.  The good thing is I am basically willing to travel most anywhere to see someone that I enjoy. Sometimes I can attend a comnference but I will travel just to see someone. So I prefer a very few  intense connections over seeing many different people.

Have I been seeing my ATF, which is over a year longer than I saw my one time fiance.  No regrets, either, and if I ever hit the ten year mark with her, I will be a very happy man!  I remember what she said after seeing her for about the eight time...that she was looking forward to the years ahead of friendship.  At the time, I thought, okay, it's great now, but in say two years, she'll retire and march off into the sunset to persue other interests.  This has proven to be wrong, and she has given no indication that things are going to change.  So maybe there will be a decade long celebration?    

A decade of friendship is worthy of a very special dinner, or something of equal import, to celebrate.  Hopefully, you two did so!

make a connection in the first meeting, and she is genuinely interested in the studies and research I am doing, and shows it by continuing the dialogue via email/phone between visits, chances are very likely we'll be seeing a lot of each other over the years for longer unrushed meetings.

If they feign interest I can pick that up pretty quickly. Since I am serious about the study of human sexual physiology, so I can use the info to help others, I need to allocate the limited opportunities I get judiciously. So, a few interested research assistants will trump trying to meet every lovely lady that comes along. (Tempting as that is.)

As you mentioned, the experience over time can either become stale, or a launching point for a deeper shared intimate experience.

with my longest running relationship with a regular.  We had one lacuna in our relationship for about a year while she attempted to make a monogamous relationship work with the father of her youngest child, but when that didn't work out we picked up right where we left off.  I made a point to stay in contact all that time and we would meet for lunch now and then to stay up with each other's lives.

Then I have another regular with whom we are having our tenth this year, another closing in on five, one closing in on four.

I'd have more except that gals retire and/or move away.  Once or twice, sadly, I have had to end a relationship over personal issues that arose.

Bev and I will be celebrating our third this coming July.

Yes, it's one wonderful world out there.

I've only been at this a bit over a year...  but I quickly found a Fav, that's my ATF...  who I still see.  
Around the 1 year mark I did some exploring...  several ladies later I found another Fav I see regularly also.  It's much nicer with a Fav...  I know I'll have a good time, I can relax.  I'll continue to check out a few new ladies but I'm not about to stop with any Favs as long as they are available.  
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Mr. Fisher, like yourself I've had many "longterm
"relationships" with providers; I've been seeing my current ATF for nearly 2 years now.In your post you mentioned " I have had to end a relationship over personal issues". The same thing happened to me when I cut off seing a provider that I had known over 5&1/2 years over
"personality conflicts". One of the problems of having a longterm friendship with a provider is that it starts to resemble a civie relationship & problems ensue. Part of the pitfalls of hobbying, I suppose.

There are two ladies that I will see as long as they are continuing to provide, either UTR or openly.

they are as different as night and day... but they both are very sweet ladies.... I am quite fond of each - but for very different reasons...  what do they share?  they are both sweet and sexy... both are intelligent with street smarts... and both are mature enough to understand life!  

Hats of to you booth! and I hope you both have a great week!

and sometimes they change but still endure.

There is one very special lady (who has been alluded to in at least one reply above - actually I think two) who I have known for nearly five years ... which is to say, just two months less than I have been "Hyabby." Our relationship is "unusual," in many ways, and will no doubt continue for a long time.

There is another lady who I have known even longer (if only two months longer - she was in fact the second provider I ever met) who I had lunch with just last week. Although she and I have not had a "provider-client" relationship in years, we are still good friends.

And then, of course, there was Miki. Just two-and-a-half years, cut short by her premature death. And yet ... she is still a very large part of my being ... and always will be. Miss you, babe.





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I currently have two favorite ladies that I have been seeing for over two years. As long as they stay in the biz I will keep seeing them, though ine is 300 miles away and I only get down there five or six times a year.

Honestly, there are at least two other ladies that, if they were still in the business, I would still be seeing....meaning I never would have met my two current favs...

I love the connection that I get with a lady who is comfortable being with me and comfortable in her own skin. This hobby being what it is however, one has to be familiar with the "when one door closes another door opens" approach to things...

I have been around for so many years and am glad to see a post like this. My early days as a provider were so different to today. It is nice to see many gentlemen having long term friendships with their special lady. My longest is 30 years and have to say I would trust him with my life.I go south to see him once a month on my dime and spend the day.We still hold hands and I love to see him smile and know those days are numbered because he is not well. This was a norm in the 80's and 90's but computers have made it so easy to shop for new providers and more gentlemen are out there shopping. Have a wonderful day. Kisses Haley

Who I see with any regularity, and not nearly as regularly as I'd like. There really isn't anyone local for me, so my dates are limited to travel time. There is one very special lady that I would see a lot more often if we weren't on opposite ends of the country. We do write back and forth, and she knows that she is still my favorite.

I do, however, prefer ladies with whom I have achieved a level of comfort.  It's just better that way for me and, I hope, for her.

I read some of these and one of the gentlemen is correct, its about the chemistry.  certain girls can rub you the wrong way others will leave a lasting impression.  I am from indiana (which good providers in this area are hard to find) and although I see many girls i have two I see on a regular basis.

I had been seeing her for about ten years and in so many ways she was fantastic; but she had this thing of NCNS that just drove me nuts.

Once it occurred when we were supposed to take a trip to Florida and I had to go alone or lose everything I invested in plane tickets and hotel reservation.  This just hours before the plane was to leave.  (I did end up hooking up with someone down there, but it just wasn't the same.)

I put up with it many more times than the usual person would.  I just became apparent that this was something that wasn't ever going to change and I had to decided whether I thought it was worth putting up with or not.

I chose it was not, but it was a really painful decision.  I miss her to this day still.

I am very happy to report that I am rather close friends with a great number of what is commonly referred to in this business as 'regulars'...
It's not everyone that gets to this point, but we can share a box of kleenex and do music exchanges (I'm a rockabilly girl, so of course this is one way to really woo me)...

It makes me proud of my job, to have these people integrated in my life to such a large extent.

over 3 years, 90+ visits.....guess that makes us "regular."  Am crazy about this woman, and she likes and respects me a lot,might even love me in a way,  and do we giggle when we are together!!   We also have great sex, despite my being twice her age...........

I've got three that I just like tremendously as people as well as my fantasy "lover" provider-  can't imagine not seeing them as long as they are in the business.

It simply depends on how real the provider and hobbyist are- the ones who are real will have connection, and connection is not likely to be broken except by retirement of the hobbyist or provider or some crossing of boundary by one or the other.

Golden, I have always been very impressed with your posts.  

Again, you hit the nail on the head for me.  The "connection" between two people means it all.  There are some where that connection is far greater than the business part of the relationship and it seems to benefit both parties.

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It's way different than when we first met, two consenting adults, a little nervous to see how this would play out. Now it's very comfortable. I've done lots of outings in public with them, gone on vacations, you name it. Even more fun is the fact that just chilling in a normal session, we really do click. The chemistry is great, the action is wonderful and it's enough to really ignite a fire in both of us for quite some time.

Katie

Katie, I am sure each of them feels exactly the same way about you also.  Congratulations to you and your friends, you are fortunate.  I hope that in the years to come I will be able to say the same thing about my special ladies.

I'm lucky to have connected with a lot of my clients, who are now friends also.  
I like what I do and I think that makes a Huge difference in how we connect with people?  
Seeing someone more than a few times makes me so much more wild and inspired.
It's such a compliment when a gentleman wants to see us again, and again.
One last thing, I was thinking about Miki the other day, it's nice to see she's still in our hearts, she always will be.

...Mr. Fisher, your's and Bev's relationship is to be envied!  I'd like to think mine can compare, but not sure.  I can also symapathize with having to end a similar long-term relationship with a provider.  It is truly a strange, AND wonderful world out there!!!

I have a great deal of Sweet Gentlemen, "regulars" as well. Love to see them, it's most of my business and I prefer it that way. Although I enjoy making new friends nothing beats seeing a man you have been with for over 3plus yrs everyweek or so. You know each other, know what to expect, its awesome. I cherish them as dear friends and look forward to our next tryst with great excitement. The relationships build and grow and change over the yrs but its sensational. So I don't think you are as alone as you think.



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I think i might have you beat I have a client ive been seeing for 14 years


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I enjoy variety, I do cherish the chemistry that certain ladies and I have in common.

you who leave them... and NOT they who leave you... personal ad for Doctor Gonzo - a PhD in LUV

Great personality, generous to a fault... fun to be around with laughs comin at ya fairly fast.

Loves the company of a beautiful woman.  He is a lover of beauty and a beauty of a lover (thank you Danny Kay!).  

The good doctor can hold his own in conversations ranging from sports (biking) to entrepreneurial skills to politics.  While a devotee of various forms of music, his favorite sonata is that played upon a nice V-8 tooling down a desert highway.

Always willing to help a friend in need - but never needy of a friend.

that do it?

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