I was stunned the other day when I received a PM from someone I had never seen on the boards, and who proceeded to insult me, a recent review I had written, and my intelligence level.  The PM was totally unwarranted, as I said nothing controversial in my review, and I have no idea why this guy took such exception to my writing  what I did.  

I know that some people are bitter, or spiteful, or jealous, so maybe I am just naive to not be able to understand why someone would feel the need to go out of his way to say something hurtful to someone he doesn't know for no reason and with no hope of making any type of impreesion other than my thinking he is a jerk.  It really blows my mind, though, how some people can actually be like that.

MY QUESTION IS:  have any of you had a similar experience, or was I just the lucky one?

I appreciate any feedback to my question.

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It must have been about your most recent review. I read it and maybe some guys are envious of having an experience like yours. Very poetic writing which was heavy on feelings and impressions but light on juicy details specific to your session. I'm not knocking it but reviews like yours wander a bit from the core of what this really is: sex for money. Still no excuse to get hateful mail over. You might consider posting the message here (without names) or sending it to staff.

If anyone receives an abusive PM or spam through PM, let Staff know about it.  The system is not meant for abusers.

The first couple of sentences and then said forget it. :-|

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-- Modified on 3/28/2004 12:04:55 AM

The sender of your hate mail is totaly jealous of your writting abilities! Either that or he is a jealous BF, or ATF.
I loved the review and found it very eloquaint. Keep writing!!

Cheers!!!
Kylie

I hate to seem bitter, but your review does make you come across as pretentious and a bit of a panty-waist. You have every right to say what you want, and how you do it is your business; but most guys, I would guess, read and write reviews to educate and inform each other--not to seemingly flaunt their writing talents. I, too, am a writer, and my style of writing has its place. Your posting was unnecessarily long at first glance, and the reason for the posting got mired in your attempt to dramatically color your story. You might consider submitting your stories to a forum that would better appreciate your energy and ability. Just my two cents...

You must have had a great time.  She sounds wonderful.  Don't worry about the writing cirticisms.

About a year and a half ago, a fellow TER member took issue with the fact that I mentioned performing DATY in a review. He said I was a liar, because the provider in question never allowed DATY (he had asked her when he saw her), and then proceeded to tell me I was an idiot to perform DATY on a courtesan (he used a different term.) And so on.

I just put him on my ignore list and asked staff to take a look at his note. Staff responded appropriately, as I remember.

I too read your review and it sounds as though your correspondent considers the lady his ATF and is upset that someone else had such a special time with her.  My .o2

Some even had threats!

There are some who have the attitude that reviews should be short and direct. They just want explicit detail.

I recall a heated debate about the subject a year ago.

Not having seen the PM, I can't say if the sender was angry about the length of the review, the tone of the review, or who you reviewed (and the session).

I would tend to agree with some of the others that you wrote what should have been a letter to Penthouse instead of a review; however, you seem to have that style of writing.

I'm not one of those who think reviews need to be "Gave her donation. In, out, repeat" type. I do wish you would trim down the reviews you write though.

in "Evil E - What About Sex?"...

"I fucked her."

Maybe I will use that as my next review.

I don't have any problem with someone not "identifying" with my style of writing, as it is obviously not for everyone.  However, if we were to make reviews utilitarian only, there would never have been someone like Paulie Walnuts, for example, who is revered by many in this community.  In addition, as with things on the discussion boards, if you don't enjoy something, then don't read it.  The issue I had a problem with was only that someone would go out of their way to say something negative about it, or me... like calling me "panty-waist".  Thankfully, the women I have been with and my friends on TER know better.  

Someone once said, you can't please all of the people all of the time.  Fair warning...however, someone also once said "If you can't say something nice...".

Peace.

P.S.  As you know, Romeo was a Shakespeare character who was extremely romantic and favored long, expressive, poetic passages to his Capulet girlfriend.  Ironic.


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If this is true, then you would seemingly have a lot of trust in me, which would be inconsistent with our previous exchanges.

As such, I have to think you are kidding.  If you aren't, e-mail me and tell me the name it was sent under the first time.

[email protected]

No one deserves hate mail. That's so inconsiderate. I'm sorry. Here, let me make it up to you . . . rub, rub, rub.

Have a nice day, sweetie.

Hugs,
Ciara

I have only gotten good PMs from VIPs.  Sometimes we exchange information, sometimes we simply cheerlead.  It is discouraging that the person who sent you the hate mail would not take you on in one of the discussion boards in a respectful manner.

Just kidding.  I remember reading the review in question about a month ago after reading one of your posts on this board then clicking on your review directory.  I seldom read reviews of someone who I will not be seeing, but I saw the 10s and had to read.  Interestingly, I found the review the be very good, the amount of verbiage did not bother me on the first reading.  I went back a few minutes ago and read the review in a manner that I would use when looking for information.  I read your last paragraph in "general details" and your last paragraph in the section where specifics are discussed and got all of the information that I would have needed to get me to contact the lady (assuming I wanted to see her).

is it the review you wrote for Lily June, it's wonderful, you are such a great writer !!!!!!!!!!

I wish i could spend sometime with you and get a review from you.

I really like your writing !

I personally wasn't peeved by the post, and I don't know whether you're a panty-waist or not--I was trying to explain possible reasons the guy who PMed did what he did.

You do whatever floats your boat, and people will respond. That's the risk we take when we publish our thoughts--and it won't all be good, so expect anything, maybe even the worse.

I know who Romeo was...and it's not all that ironic. Maybe SelfDestruct means more to you than a handle, but for me, it's just a name. We should resist taking ourselves to seriously here...it can be self-destructive.

I once recieved a PM from someone because he disagreed with an appearance rating I gave to a woman.  He asked how could you give xxxxx a rating of x, and then proceeded to write that the woman was a "fat pig", followed by about 20 exclamation points.

You are not alone in this matter.  Some people are just assholes.

-Placebo

If your review of Emma caused the PM, then, yes, I would say it's a little long-winded, but I wouldn't particularly notice (or care) if it hadn't been pointed out to me via this thread.

The person who PM'd you has the problem, not you.

-Hoot.



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for the reviews say, it is based on all fiction.

Your reviews are pretty damn good for a "newbie", and between that and your pictures, I think it is just a matter of time before you have more business than you can handle.  Best of luck to you.

unless you would like to elucidate on your thought.

I clicked somewhere but evidently in the wrong location. Sorry.

It seems to me that many folks tend to ask of a short post, Was it a GFE? Once you get beyond the mechanics of what was done or allowed the rest has to with the experiance. In a longer post you as a reader can get a better idea of the "mood" of the encounter. This should help someone decide if the experiance was GFE or not, based on the discription of the meeting. I think the mechanics need to be listed, but since we all know the acronyms no great details there are required. If a review covers these basics, gives me a sense of the mood, and is entertaining on top of it, that's a bonus.

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EOM= End of Michelle-missive!

"oh, that backside...after 40 years, I have proof of God"

And now, after 40.1 years, you have proof of jerks.  The truth is out there!