Ever meet anyone who constantly blames others for their own short comings?  

I went to get some blood drawn and this new girl sticks me with a needle but couldn't find a vein. She blames ME for it cuz I supposedly moved! I didn't even flinch. She tried the 2nd time, again blames me that I moved. Grrr, alright I'll hold my breath! She still misses! Needles don't bother me unless some incompetent prick twists it in me 4 times. She was digging that needle around trying to get a vein! Bitch eventually gave up and another nurse came. She found it on her very first try! But now my arm has 4 bruises and look as if I've had rough sex or been shooting up some drugs. All this and she's probably continuing to blame others for her incompetence! Well, this got me thinking and prompted a bit of introspection wondering if I too blame others for my short comings:  

- I don't blame others that I wasn't endowed with an 8 inch cock. I embrace my 6 inch package and appreciate the fact that if the girl generally allows greek but has size limits, I won't be the one getting turned down due to size. If she does turn me down, well I blame her brain, not her, for being stupid.  
- I don't blame the provider when I book 1 hour, spend 30 minutes chatting over a glass of wine, and then wonder why I feel rushed. I blame that damn wine for not reminding me to start sooner.  
- I don't blame Trojan for a Magnum XXL condom that slips off my modest-size dick during the act. I don't blame my modest package either,  I blame it on using too much lube.  
- I don't blame an agency girl for not being able to extend my time when I get to the appointment 20 minutes late. I blame it on my slow watch or the traffic.    
- I don't blame Johns for being Johns and seeing escorts, I blame it on the damn internet for being the enablers who allowed providers to entice johns more effectively. :P
- I don't blame the side walk builders when I get piss drunk, slip, and break my arm. I blame it on the alcohol manufacturer for not having clear warning signs on that bottle, saying drunkwalking on side walk shouldn't be allowed.  
- I don't blame the girl when the provider wants to spend more time blowing chunks with me, I blame it on my happy asian glow.

Do we also have a habit of blaming others for our own short comings?  
It's really something we should think about.  

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Asian veins cuz I had the same problem... Once I came out of there looking like I was a crackhead main liner cuz they poked me so much to find a vein, my inner arm was bruised badly, all the nurse kept relating to me is " where is your vein" you have small veins-as she poked me annoyed .... Ugh bitch/assholes!!!!   But yes do not blame!!! Lol  

 
Hi OPA!!!! Lol 😜😜😜😜😜!!

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I heard a while ago something about the rice diet that makes Asians have very good vein.  I always get stuck with needle back in school whenever they had phlebotomy practice.  I blame my good veins for it, lo

which prompted me to wash the car which prompted me to clean out the empty cans which lead to me having to hold the mouth wash in.  

So ultimately it's the dog's fault.  
But my neighbor might want to check if he still has a dog. rof

and some occasional chinese food, sushi.  

Not much rice other than when I eat Chipotle burritos rofl.

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Damn, I stayed up til 5am watching music videos and getting drunk and I have a 10am meeting!

4 hours of sleep is enough for 1 day during week for the Great AA Hobbyist.  
He usually makes up with 10 hours on the weekends. LOL

Interesting observation, I see it often as well.  As far as we've come in our society there are still a bunch of things that we need to work on.  Like our puritanical beliefs about sex (don't get me started).  Another is the prevailing attitude that everyone is entitled to everything.  And yet another is that whenever something bad happens let's look around to see who we can blame (or sue).

I'd like to get away from that ambulance chaser mentality.  Sometimes bad things happen for no particular reason.  Sometimes they happen as well because you don't know what you are doing.  It's always good to reflect a moment before pointing the finger at someone else.

Damn - just spilled hot coffee in my lap.  Gotta call my attorney.  

and this stems from the absurd idea that somehow children emerge into the world with "self esteem" and it is the job of people not to take it away from them by demanding the development of competency.

In reality self esteem comes only with achieving difficult goals and standards and at a young age this self direction is rarely possible but requires others to set these standards and measure performance....

In other words self esteem comes only from exercising our psychic muscles, along with whatever else is needed in a particular instance,  to achieve.   And achievement can only be measured by standards, and through competition.

Today's educational system and parenting culture is against both standards and competition....

This leaves people with only the existential option of blaming others when they do not receive the result that they want.....    and concomitantly leaves them without a roadmap for achievement or self improvement......

Wow. Have to agree that if "today's educational system and parenting culture" worked against standards and competition, that the result would be a clueless youngster unprepared to step into the wilderness. But I don't think that this is the mechanism that creates an entitled youth. You assert (or subscribe to the notion) that we are giving our young a false understanding of how the world works.

Today's educational approach that is typified with the image of getting a trophy for showing up does something else. It teaches the kid that achievement is possible and that his/her achievement will be recognized. I'm guessing you and I are of roughly the same generation, and we faced a different world that WAS CREATED FOR US.

In the world as we were taught to understand it, entitlement was either earned or won. Or born into, which is another way of winning it, but we'll bypass that. Only 10% of our generation went on to a university. So instead of a high school aiming to prepare all the graduates to handle college, they concentrated on separating the deserving from the undeserving. Then, colleges prided themselves on how many of the 10% they could weed out in the first couple of years, as this reflected, they thought, the strict standards of their school.

That was how the world worked because people agreed to work it that way. But if and when a person got beyond DEALING with people and found a few people he or she could actually RELATE to, that person learns that this is not how life is at all.

So maybe if everyone is entitled, then no one will be entitled. Equal playing field, and all that stuff.

what I am seeing is even at the graduate school level good universities are having to accommodate themselves to willful underachievers with a sense of entitlement to good grades -   the experiment has failed... and the US is having to import foreign students with an old fashioned work ethic in order to produce the high level of education that we need for our future....

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... Actually win the case?   Goes to show how messed up things got lo

Try eating the raw garlic that you get at many Korean restaurants, you could gargle a gallon of Listerine for an hour and still not kill the taste.

Some foods get into your blood stream and the smell comes out of the pores in your skin, no amount of mouthwash is going to do a damn thing until it metabolizes out of your system.

I believe so.  How dare they put hot coffee in my hot coffee!  I didn't see that coming.  LOL

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That gives a whole new meaning to the term needledick.  LO

Kimchi tends to have lasting effects though.  Definitely not a good idea to eat those before a session lol

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go break a leg and blame the femur bone for being so fragile.

don't blame anyone for nominating you for the SPOTY award.

Every handsome guy has his own female stalker.  

I don't think either experiment succeeded. But there are two ways of looking at the Darwinian system. One, as you say, is the ability of the individual, and the other is the fitness of the group, and the ability to function in groups. Of course, the individual has to have a level of competency to find acceptance in the successful groups.

What makes it a difficult question for me is that I really am uncertain as to what truly is "fit" in the Information Age. For me (us?) fitness demanded the ability to steer events so that the result brought about the greatest good for the greatest number in society. Or, if social good was less reverent, to take into account all POV and the interests of all concerned. That's what I see as the weakness in the current generation. "What's the matter with kids today?" Lol

She should be restricted to taking weight and height.

I'd hate to show up and have her do that to me.

Maybe there's a bit too much blaming going on in this world, but I'll tell you one thing:  There's not enough complaining sometimes, and things don't get fixed without some of that.