After having read Lass' year end reflections and the other lady's input, and then scanning down a few threads to a hobbyist's year end reflections and accompanying thoughts from other clients, I have a few thoughts.

Guys it isn't always about how much, how many, or how long. Did you meet anyone that you really connected with, beyond the physical? Maybe had a laugh with, or shared a quiet dinner? Did you learn anything from some of these gals, not just about them, but maybe about yourself.

I had the pleasure of Lass' company at a Vegas party I had a few months back. At the end of the nite, we all sat around, ladies and gents, talked about the biz, from both perspectives (January is the conductor of the straight talk express by the way) shared some insights and had a few laughs.

The one thing that I learned this last year is that I have met a few ladies that I really enjoy being with, and will probably spend the majority of my time/donations on them this coming year. There are some real gems out there gents, and the mining process is fun, fun, fun, but once you find those rare few.......... MfSD.
 

-- Modified on 1/1/2003 6:31:34 AM

in this fantasy land last year, I had met a few wonderful ladies I am quite fond of.  Four shared some of their private lives with me – family situations, past relationships, etc.  One of them I knew I would get into trouble if I continue to see her, hence I stopped.

The other one became a friend of mine.  We spent times running errands, eating out, watching movies, shopping, sharing secrets and have long talks.  However, it is no longer possible to continue our sexual relationship once we were friends.  After she met her new boyfriend, she got busy and we rarely saw or talked to each other.  I think my presence reminded her of this hobby.  She probably couldn’t handle it when she is in a relationship.

There are too many beautiful and intelligent ladies in this hobby.  Getting too close to one is a danger I tend to avoid.

Well it would seem that you did learn something about yourself. Getting too emotionally involved with an escort can have pitfalls, but that wasn't what I was referring to. Merely that there are great ladies out there that offer more than just a physical experience.

That said, your point is certainly well taken. MfSD.

I am a relative newcomer to this hobby, but 2002 was very good to me.
Yes, I too have met a couple of very special ladies this past year. Friendship has its pitfalls, but if approached carefully, I think both parties can benefit. I have been fortunate to find several women who are in this business because they enjoy making others feel pleasure - sure the money is the big driver - but there can be more. It has been my pleasure to offer assistance with some non-hobby problems (stranded with a broken down car, a ride to the airport, things anyone would do for someone they care for). I don't expect any serious emotional involvement or committment on either side. The sex seems to be more special and certainly the "afterglow" of cuddling and conversation is improved. If you are fortunate enough to find that someone special that you feel extra comfortable with, you are very lucky and should be sure to enjoy the perks it brings.
Bless all those ladies who bring more than just sexual release to the party. Intelligence, personality and a caring attitude beat the hell out of big boobs and tight butts any day IMHO!

I agree complety.

The tally below was, in some ways, light hearted.  Yet it was rather eye opening.  I knew that I had spent quite a large sum and spent long hours with providers, but until I read ForWhatItsWorth's post I had no intention of looking back.  But after I got into it, I was forced to take a look at just what I'd done and think back on the encounters.

I think that it's obvious from my tally that I prefer longer sessions and that is because I really enjoy getting to know the person.  I felt connected to at least 6 of the 16 ladies I saw.  One of them I hope to see again soon and we have e-mailed to keep in touch (3000 mi. separate us).  One will not be seen again becaue she has retired (thank LE for that).  One felt good enough for a repeat visit which felt rushed and very unsatisfying (I suspect she has become too hardened to the biz). Two others will be with me again I'm sure.

There is one beautiful lady that I've waded into the emotional netherlands with.  We have spent weeks together. The interesting thing here is as I look back on her the first things I remember are non-sexual times together.  That came to me as I went back through my year to compile the posting.  I really reflect most on walks through the woods, in parks, riding in the car on our way to distant destinations, seeing the joy in her eyes upon receiving an unexpected gift, and those chats in hotel rooms after the action has ended and it's time to "be with her".  Sexual fun and physical attraction are still part of the equation, but they have taken a back seat.  I just enjoy her so much and am lucky and greatfull for the feelings that she has given me for the past year.  Now I can't wait to get together again with her...for some mercilous pounding and deep BBBJ's.  So much talent!

I was inspired to tally last year when somebody else brought it up and I couldn't remember all of my encounters.  The thing is, even though I tracked it in a highly numerical format, the tally helped me remember the special moments in each particular encounter.  

My ATF lives on the opposite coast as I do and she presents a form of danger to me that Spectator brought up.  Hopefully, the distance will keep me from falling into a trap.  Even though the initimate moments are special with her, it's the quiet times we spend getting to know each other better that keep me making that cross country trip.  Fortunately, even though I see her on personal time, business travel and the benefits that come with it allow these trips to be a little easier on me.

it's midnight now, patti smith is on the cd, just sang the great line "you and your alien arms" (distant fingers).  

I'm 3 months new to this avocation, just getting my feet wet really.  Have been thinking a lot about the ladies I've seen, out time together, the money spent, and of my reasons for pursing such a course.  It's a big topic and has become a significant part of who I am.

Of the 5 ladies I've seen, only 1 situation turned into something undesirable, and I think about it almost every day.  The other 4 situations all had their individual merits, but the one that went bad, whew.  If we're not living, we're dying, so the saying goes.  Probably applies to learning also, because if you can't appreciate the bad times, then the good times are probably forgettable too.

So yes, MfSD, for the new year I hope to continue down this path, hopefully balancing out a bit, ending the brunt of this newbie curve.  The greatest and worst moments have all been 'shared' -- the communicative silences, the shared breaths, the trembling fingers, the awe inspiring surprises, and most of all the gift of being open with, available to, a complete stranger.  

As in that White Stripes song, there are moments where I find it difficult to remain a gentleman, where that beastie boy rage surfaces, lol, throwing propriety out the window.  And in that arc, that suspension of belief, between the roles and the fantasies and the grim reality of potentially falling flat on your face, HARD -- that's where I hope this new year will lead.

YES -- process, not product.  The shared pleasures.

cheers, fahrkle

(ps:  One of my cats just got one of her nails stuck in the rattan rug, meowing for help, I had to curl her up and around to get it free.  As omens go, heck.  Be safe, have fun!)


-- Modified on 1/2/2003 8:33:27 AM

This is certainly the time of year in which we tend to reflect on the year that has just passed and I personally have grown and been blessed because so many of you.

With this thread, I wanted to take a little deeper of a look into myself and find out what is was about those people I have developed friendships with and how it has enriched my life.

Without having to look too hard, I can honestly say I am a better person because of you (collectively). There is, however, one gentleman that sticks out in my mind.  He is my "gentle giant". He is a rather large man physically but when you are 5'2" like I am that isn't hard to say about most people...lol
When I lived in Atlanta, I was faced with some challenges in my life I had never dealt with before and certanily doubted myself as to whether I would deal with them successfully. This man offered his friendship in a way that allowed me to find the strength within and get through this set of challenges. Of course I am eternally gratefull for his support and as a result of being as close as we are, I have learned to grow and become a better provider.I am much more self confidant and have really begun to master my "craft". The best part is that he didn't give me any financial help or do things for me, he was just there with his gentle smile, his kind words, and  allowed me to fuss and stew and fight my way back to success.

I learned I can really really do anything in my life and as a result I am now going back to college at UNLV! This will be my 2nd dregree. I start at the end of this month for my PR and Marketing degree...  I think this is the most important thing I have ever discovered about myself from a "gentleman friend". Now he gets fresh baked cookies every time I come home to visit for life.! Not a bad trade off.!!!

xoxo
Brooke Butler

That's wonderful, Brooke! Congratulations on all your accomplishments!
Cute website, btw.

Happy New Year to you!

Sedona

Those are some nice sentiments, MfSD..

warmest regards,
Sedona

Ok, RowdyOne, here's my question:
When are you coming to San Diego??



Big hugs,
Sedona