Originating from one of my primary touring cities, and the caller is a female obviously fishing for information. These are the toughest calls to take. They really are. I enjoy my married gents and always strive to encourage them to take whatever enjoyment they had with me and recycle that happiness and fulfillment into their daily lives. It breaks my heart when an SO calls but you have to play dumb. You simply have to. They will ask who they are calling and my response is always to ask who is calling me. Seems to shut it down but it's not a good feeling by any means. -e

I too sometimes get those uncomfortable phone calls.  You can always tell when it's a client's S/O. I always say it must be a mistake. Another one I'll say is that it's my husband's cell phone and he's not home, but he forgot to take his phone. That usualy helps when they think it's a man's phone.  Please...please gentlemen...erase our numbers....disquise them with a man's name if you feel you need to keep our number.  Otherwise, someday you may get a provider that doesn't give a poop when she gets that call.

I'm single with no current prospects

But I've learned that when you provide any kind of false leading details they will absolutely research (anyone who has a wife or has been a wife knows this), which can lead to disasterous consequences. Because then they're all asking him what business he has with your husband. Meanwhile, he's got no clue, and if you try to warn him it's even worse. I mean, it just sucks all around. -e

I don't think it's a good idea to say it was a man's phone either. I think the best thing to do is pretend that it's a wrong number and/or play dumb. Get the S/O off the phone as fast as possible with no leading info. Maybe if she thinks it's a wrong number, she'll forget about it???

You make a good point though goddess. None of us should be keeping each other's numbers after the session. I keep mine on a secure email site that I can delete at a moment's notice. In the cell phone is asking for trouble...

Was meowbaby's point, sweetie. -e

I married and subsequently divorced the same idiot twice. Yeah yeah I know, whose the bigger idiot? The idiot or the idiot who marries the idiot not once but TWICE!!!!. Enjoy your freedom, my friend. -e

if you ever make it out east.

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The faq for newbies discusses using a separate anonymous phone for hobbying.

I bought a separate tracphone and have played it largely safe using that one to call providers- but the couple times I've let down my guard have still almost gotten me in to trouble.

I let down my guard by using my personal regular cell to call one of my frequent regulars I talk to a lot.  I usually don't carry my hobby phone home with me because I don't want to have to explain the phone if it is ever spotted.

One morning about 5:30 am, my regular phone started ringing, displayed the "man's name" that I have her number listed under in my directory.  Turned out she had hit the redial button on her phone thinking someone else had been the last one calling her.  While if my wife had been the first one to grab the phone and answer it, this lady would have been smart enough to say "whoops, wrong number" it still would have planted one of those seeds of suspicion- woman caller hanging up or wrong number.

It is amazing how the smallest slip up can get you under suspicion.

Oops, not multitasking well tonight, sorry, lol.

I had to take my phone number off my website because I kept on getting calls from former client's wives.

That's just sloppy on the guys part. I wouldn't see providers if I had an SO, but even if I did, I'd have a seperate phone. I'm single, so in my phone it's flagrant, I almost hope a girl I'm dating picks it up. lol.

-m

This may be a naive solution on my part, but any number I write down pertinent to provider messages I write with the last and first number of the 4 digits reversed. That way anyone who calls the written # gets a wrong message and I can claim "it was written down wrong,I guess".  Also, religiously erase any phone #'s on the cell as soon as a call is completed or a message picked up (even though going back over those sweet nothings can recapture fond memories).

good advice tony.  I agree 100%.  There is no practical reason, if you have a SO, to keep a playmate's phone # on your cell phone. Any body that is that careless w/his/her hobbyying deserves the heat.  But in deference to the provider, hobbyists should strive to protect her from being put in the position of having to think fast to protect her clients.  Hobbyists should also be aware enough to protect their providers

I occasionally get that call, but never from hobbyists' wives because I don't give out my number.

I get that call from civvie guys I think I'm dating at the moment and bam, some chick calls up asking who I am and if I know so and so. Sigh... those are always fun. One girl was the g/f of a guy I went out with a lot- I saw him maybe 4 days a week and spent the night every now and then. Apparently she travelled a lot, but she lived with him. huh. Go figure. Another was finally home from going to school in another state and found out about me. I mean,everyone in our mutual social circles knew I was dating him (though no one bothered to tell me he had a gf.) It was sort of a big blow because I was dating him for months.

Either way, I deny deny deny and those girls always get so pissed off and end up calling me for months and stalking my ass. GRRRR.

Katie