To their parents by a hobbyist or provider?

That is crazy!!!!  I don't care if he was mad, why go that route??!!

... I don't give my full real name to any provider, unless I get to know them well and trust them AND I also know their real name (the M.A.D. principle).  

Only 2 people have my real full name.  One has a SD arrangement weekly and pays my credit card through his business to hide the money.  The other I have known for a decade and trusted him to overnight money to my address when the banks were closed for snow and the ATM withdrawal was higher than his daily limit.

One of the providers has bounced back in great shape. The other is working on it. Both amazing, positive women that I am in awe of.

I’ve seen two Providers thus far and /both/ have told me their real names (and I know where one lives because that’s her in-call).  Both became comfortable with me and began to trust me; I just seem to have the kind of personality that puts people at ease.

... when my first wife caught me cheating she downloaded my emails and showed them to everyone she could.  

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That is one of the crappiest things I've ever heard of. What an ass. A provider i was communicating with
bought a new cell phone & forgot to erase her real name so it showed up when she texted me. I quickly
informed her of her error. I don't need to know your real name.

Many years ago a hobbyist had a hidden video recorder & taped me. I found out he was doing bbfs with many ladies (he admitted it to me & via his reviews) and stopped seeing him. He later froze a frame at the end of our time, before I could straighten up & went to the trouble of photoshopping white flecks all over my face,,,, and posted it on Usa. He got banned from every site possible. Very obvious it was a hidden camera. Anyways, I was temporarily outed in the sense that I hadn't shown my face at that time. Guys are stupid, they seem to not think of the fact that we remember what their bedrooms look like. Pfffft. It was only up for a day.

It sucks,

Providers, mongers, nuns, preachers, everyone and anyone.... it's just difficult to really know anyone.

martial arts are wonderful to teach children how to walk away with dignity.  But can defend themselves if backed in a corner.

working out of their apartments.  
When you ring their buzzer, there's their RL name.  

Lots of providers use their real name as the name of their WiFi network.

My kids play basketball year round.... both teams finished top 10 in AAU nationals last year.  They don't have time to add martial arts..... but you are absolutely correct about that being a good source.  Unfortunately both times it was a cheerleader trying to exert her popularity....  my kids laughed it off and moved on.... I'm probably the only one that got pissed about it and that's what we really need,  grown men wrapped up in middle school drama lol.  Thanks for the tip

I have looked at pictures on your websites.... if it looks good to me and I'm considering booking I will right click the picture and check details.... this will tell me when the picture was taken, is it a really old selfie?....it also gives the address where the pic was taken, I don't really care about that however if you took it in your backyard you might not want to advertise where you live.  Always crop your pictures before posting, that removes all other details except the date it was cropped

from 2 providers. they took a little time off, changed hobby names, got new phones, redid websites, etc... to maintain plausible denial for the family. The funny thing is, they were both still very open to me about their real names. I've had providers give real names, their civvie job, and email addresses after just one hook-up. I must seem very trustworthy.

friend of mine saw a client who was in his 20's. Somehow this client's mother was friends with her mother and he knew this. He outed her to his mother who in turn told her mother. was not a nice thing to do.

It was almost 2yrs after we broke up amicably...he jumped the gun responding to a situation that was entirely manufactured by the woman he was cheating on his live-in girlfriend with. She didn’t know he had a girlfriend, got suspicious of him and followed him home from her place one night. Saw his girlfriend leave for work in the morning and crafted a plan to ruin his relationship. She got the girlfriend’s number from his phone and found two year old pics/videos of our sexscapades in his iCloud and sent them to herself. She then waited for him to go home and sent the pics/videos to the girlfriend at 2am using an app to disguise her number.

I have been given real names by two providers, and one by accident (social media is pretty dangerous. She came up as a potential 'friend' and she hadn't locked down her information. If there was an upside, she was truthful about her life, family, sisters, etc. In all cases, promptly forgot the information. The one on social media had a difficult real name to remember anyways.

Assuming you have a smart phone (I-Phone or Samsung) I am curious how he was able to find this information.?  It would be impossible for anyone to find my info from my last 3 phones without unlocking my Paasword.  ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE to make a phone call, send emails, check settings without accessing my 4 digit password.  

Big city environment here.  I see this frequently.  You arrive at the incall, and the real name is on the buzzer (particularly the digital displays - you enter in the code, and the name pops up for a sec. or so).

A friend of mine would give her visitors the code to punch in at the door; it didn't show her name.  But you could go through that digital directory, searching by code, and thus find her real name.  It was only a minority of people who did this, but I personally feel it's crossing a line to deliberately snoop like that.

You don't know, for example, how long her timer is for the phone to stay-on. Mine was annoyingly quick so I changed it to two minutes. If she just checked a message, went into the bathroom, he could just tap the screen and its good for another two minutes, or five minutes, or whatever she had it set.  So it would have been 'unlocked'.

Not all smart phones had/have password/fingerprint protection.  Or it isn't always enabled.

It adds a completely new dynamic when a provider has a jealous boyfriend that does not know she is providing...

That exact situation happened with me.... my girlfriend (the provider) then Facebook messaged friends and family..... I responded by leaving her alone and visiting the providers I never knew about till I saw my girlfriends reviews.... like I said before people are shitty

I often get suggestions on Facebook for providers  I communicated with via E mail (as themselves). It happened with a NY provider who is a fitness model that has a real life page dedicated to her legitimate modeling business with her real name and civvy friends and contacts.

Those guys are trying to show how clever they are, and instead are revealing how stupid they are.

Some tags placed on suitcases at check-in before departure show the traveler's real name and home address. Discarded into a bathroom wastebasket, they could catch the eye of a curious monger freshening up.

What several of them have told me is that it's not because I am so "trustworthy" it's because they know I care so little that I will forget everything they told me five minutes later anyhow. lol

I’ve also received Recommended Friend suggestions for a Massage Provider.  So if I’m know viewing her family FB page, safe to assume she’s viewing mine (along with unknown numbers of FB employees and the NSA!)

This is a prime way that burglars learn when people are not at home, so that they can plot a break-in.

I was stupid and told him the password because I was tipsy and thought it was a funny one.  It was "poop'.  Hilarious, right?  Not so hilarious now though.  I have a new burner with a really complicated password that I will never tell.  I'm probably going to be one of those people that never let's their phone out of their sight...

If your car gets stolen the guy can hit the home key for your GPS,  open garage door, pull in, close garage door and he knows you won't be home for a while...  valet is famous for that shit.... always make your home on GPS near your home but not exactly your home

This is awful and so upsetting. I'm very sorry to hear that somebody violated your privacy. Absolutely unacceptable!

But she stated it happened while she was asleep.  Stands to reason that it would have timed out in a few minutes; not hours!

So... love = living together & having babies together?  Really?  You don't know of any other kind of love?  

A few years ago some guy posted that he'd look up providers on Facebook to make sure they were not "butterfaces." Some thought it was wrong. I thought it was a great idea. I ended up seeing some girls because I liked their facial looks.  

GrandPa Gambler Oh gosh...

No free babies from pro father.

I was a single Army officer stationed in Korea. Had a long term relationship with a Provider A.  Another officer (West Pointer)fell in love with Provider B and was on track to ruin his career chances and marry her. I was in a group of Lieutenants that attempted a drunken “Guy Code” intervention, said some mean things to B in the process.

Ah, breezed through the post. Didn't catch that.

or at least a sit-com that Larry David would be interested in.  

yep..it is called "Much ado about Nothing"

I have never kept what I do for a living from my boyfriends...he knew what I did and we had a beautiful relationship until it ended...and he has since apologized profusely for running off half cocked and actually thinking for a second that I would do something like that to him. We are good now...and the silver lining is, although my family and I don’t talk about it, they know now and I don’t have to carry the weight of those secrets on my shoulders anymore.

Giselle,

...both men and women

I've had a few gals real life information & most of them have mine.  One I had a serious falling out with... of course I think I'm the agrieved party...   but there's no way I'd ever out any of them.   It's just wrong.    
The bad KARMA isn't worth it.  

Yeah; they sound like good, decent people.

When my ex husband and I were parting ways he told my family and a lot of my friends what I do.  I do not discuss it with my family, but I have talked about it to some of my friends.  Most really don't care, they just are more concerned that I am safe.  I do in call in my home (I have for years now) and many of my clients know my real name.  It really does not bother me.  It is what it is.  

The family member replied, "You can't have a whore without a whoremonger."  

Hence I NEVER EVER provide my last name!  Only twice has this stopped me from seeing a TER lady.  I remember one time 2-3 years ago: she said she has “to know my name.”  I said, “what exactly is my name gonna tell you?  OK, my name is John Smith - and John Smith is on my drivers license- how does this help you?”  Also, I said “OK, I’ll show you my name if you show me yours...”

I have had all kinds of situations, there are people who do not understand respect and have no common sense. People who have had to threaten to make a complaint, including someone who showed my advertising on the Internet to my boss (I worked as a receptionist and outside of that schedule as an escort). The best thing is to avoid problems do not give too much information and not leave at hand or phone, or documentation where an unbalanced person can get the opportunity to hurt you and your family.

I took an ex hooker GF on a trip to CA several years back and one of our first stops was to see my mother. I made no secret of how we met. They still FB each other from time to time. As for my father, back in the late 70's early 80's we used to hang out a lot in LV and that included places like the Chateau Vegas where hookers were always hanging out, it was rare that my dad would take home a hooker, much less rare for me. lol

Bad karma is a bitch, I`ve seen it. Hope and pray none of us ever experience it. You`ll believe real quick if you do.

Just had a crazy vendetta thing myself.
Had seen a FBSM person three times. All went great.
A little too talkative but very comfortable each side.
The last time I saw her she wanted to move the appointment from 5 to 4. No problem.
Then it was 4 to 3. Okay  
Then it was "oh hell, come now. I'm done for the day"  
I hadn't hit the bank yet so I asked if she still took credit cards.
Hadn't used one but she offered the previous session.
Make a long story short her Square didn't work. After about five tries I gave her a platinum card I NEVER use for hobbying.  
That didn't work. Clearly her Square wasn't working.
She went ballistic.
Accused me of cheating her, threatened me....not wise to threaten a former Green Beret and former cop...but I kept my cool.
Then it was I'm following you to the ATM, you mother f'er.
At this point I'm still just trying to pay her.
Finally it was "can't find my keys. I'll ride with you"
By then there was no way in hell she was getting in my car.
She must have called and texted my hobby phone 25 times that night.
Being a good guy I'm mailing her a money order.
Never want to see that face again.
But bottom line was no reason for any of it.
I asked in advance, offered other cards, tried to do the right thing.
She claimed to blacklist me everywhere.  
That I couldn't care less about.
But off the rail nuts for no reason at all.
Glad I have a hobby phone

Sorry this happened to u

Been there done that and yes it ruined my life. I hope u find peace and work through this. This is why I use a separate place for incall that is not directly related to me or use my phone. Everything is separate! It's like living a double life. This life and real life. And they don't cross at all. If u need someone to talk to...

These are some crazy stories. I've not been in the hobby long, but stories like these are why I don't plan on giving out real life information. Know multiple guys that got divorced from the Ashley Madison hack. Had a guy at work get fired by getting verified through his work email. All of our emails are inspected by our crazy HR and IT departments. Big company and not sure how they have the time or even want to do this.  Not sure what the email included but he was the talk of the office for a few weeks. This happened the same week that that College coach got let go for calling an escort service from his work phone.

And for her to know my real name... BUT I would NEVER abuse that.. I have followed a few providers via their real name on Facebook or Twitter after they have left the biz.. Just to see how they are.. BUT I would never "friend" them.. as I don't want hem to go nuts..
One very popular provider left.. Now I see her pics on FB with her infant... another , kept hitting me up for a loan so I finally, after struggling with saying no.. just blocked her.. I wanted to help, but she was taking advantage.
My GF used to be a provider and was outed by her baby daddy.. her face was shown in her pics and that stuff lives forever.. It really hurt her in the custody fight.. I caution providers to not show their face..  
So, outing is a pretty intrusive and violent act.. pretty scary.. I'm always astounded when a girl tells me her real name..

@Exit9 and anyone else:

Not by a provider or hobbyist. Its crazy how it happened actually....

Hmmm.... How do you get screened? There is not much someone could do with your name. How would someone go about ruining you if they don't know your wife's name or where you work? Even if they knew where you banked it would be impossible to steal your identity with just your name. Unless all of that information about you is public there is no way you would be unsafe by just giving your name.

Thanks for sharing. I'm sure there are some really good Provider stories about almost running into someone that would cause big trouble.

Yes, screening is the issue here. It's easy for me to think that it isn't necessary, because I always treat women great and would never push or force anyone to do anything, but I'm sure that many women on TER have met with situations where they were in danger, scared, or even far worse.

I would never do that to a provider. I had a falling out with my 1st girl when I entered the hobby. We spent a lot of time together for over a year, and I do know all her personal info....and it will die with me. I don't give a shit what she did to me....thats below the belt!

It's not as if anyone would care or notice if I was