I have two blogs - one of which I post a bit more personal things on, figuring that only guys who know me and care about what I have to say would take the time to read it - as opposed to my more public blog where I stick to more public type topics.

And recently I experienced my first MFM threesome and wanted to write a bit about it (no play by play specifics, mind you.  It was more about how I felt about the whole thing with some minor description of some kissing and such.) and was curious to see what kind of response I'd get from some of my blog readers.

I was a bit surprised and taken aback to hear from one man who said he was very turned off by it and didn't think it was something a woman should do.  And in the same breath added that if it had been a FMF threesome, he'd be totally into that!  Talk about a double standard!  And I thought the idea that men could have those sorts of fantasies but women couldn't was just incredible.

He also mentioned that he didn't like hearing about me with other men because he liked to think of me as "his girl" when we are together, even though he knows that's not the case.

So, I'm curious what others think.  To the guys; does it bother you to read about the experiences of a provider you like or can it be a turn-on, which I also heard from some of my friends?

Sometimes it can be a real turn on to read about what a provider  I like does with other clients because I know that the next time I see her, we probably will be doing the same things, and maybe even some things that I haven't read on her blog or reviews.  It can be really exciting leading up to my next appointment knowing that soon I will be  having a great time with her.

I don't think that I ever feel bothered about reading what a provider I like does with other guys. And, certainly I realize that a provider is not  "my girl" as you referred to the guy saying in your original post.  Sometimes when I read a review of a provider I like, I wonder if I"m not as exciting, or I'm not pleasing her as much as other clients are.   Maybe that is my insecurity, but that is the only thing that has bothered me when I read reviews or blogs of a provider I like.

Another reason I like to read reviews and/or blogs of a provider I like is because it gives me more information on things she may like to do during her sessions,  or things that please her, and that can then make our sessions that much better.

Runningman

-- Modified on 10/13/2007 4:31:40 PM

sort of discussed this on a post over in the Exotic Highway.

I would like to read about the erotic details...it's stimulating and would probably entice me to call you.

I do NOT like it when I go to see you and the same words or phrases are used.  Then my meeting with you feels like a play.

I pay for sex.  I don't want fake orgasms or "you're the best" crap.  Just tell me you're "ok" and I'm not boring you!    Honesty is the best policy - even in provider / hobbyist relationships.

Really, blogging about your appointments isn't any different than reading reviews here. I think it'd be interesting to see the provider's perspective.

The more detailed blog for regulars...
Unfortunately you can't please all the people all of the time. While I watch a lot of BGB porn I would not really be interested in participating in it. Reading about it is another story. I would be a bit curious as to how a woman feels about it...not neccesarily the play by play but what you liked or didn't like about it.
I'm guessing that it may tweek a bit of a homophobic nerve with some guys but I don't think that should stop you.
I actually get a kick out of talking with my fav about some of her more interesting encounters. It can be a turn on.  She also likes it when I start talking about other women I've seen...or even the waitress who I may have flirted with at diner...
I love it when she says "tell me a story" as she starts unbuttoning my shirt...

-- Modified on 10/13/2007 5:47:38 PM

I find myself counting and reading reviews of my ATF  and realistically it makes me sort of jealous, so I say to myself it's just a hobby, nothing more in hopes that it will allay my irrational fears that I would get sucked into this miasma called "....falling in love with your provider", nothing worse than to feel so helpless knowing that someone you were just with has moved on to the next "client"  and is working him over just as she had done to you.....all in all, not a good feeling.....a turn on it's not, although if I haven't seen a provider, I'd like nothing more than to read her or my fellow hobbyist's exploits...give me all the details, just not about my ATF please....

Hey Lauren,
I personally have no interest in reading what a provider does to another guy in a MFM threesome.  I        have also no interest in that kind of encounter.  A FMF, yes, I would  go  for that in a heartbeat.

I do enjoy reading what a lady  does in a one-on-one encounter with a guy, because that's what I want to have, but I would welcome an encounter with two ladies focused on me.

I want the lady to be working on me, or the other  girl while she is focused on me, but not on another guy.


In short, I don't want to share with another guy.  I will share with another lady,

Swim

-- Modified on 10/13/2007 6:19:54 PM

Except that it's not the provider writing them.

It's interesting to hear what guys think.

The bottom line for me was that is was something that was exciting for me and something I wanted to blog about in a relatively mild way, so I did!  I didn't do it (the threesome or the blog entry) FOR the guys.  I did it for myself.  But, at the same time, I wouldn't want to lose any good friends I already have because it turned them off.

Guess I'll just keep doing what works for me, and if there's anyone who doesn't care to read it then they can stay away from my blog.  : )  

All I can do is keep being myself, and I'll attract guys who like me as I am.  Has been working for me so far!  ; )

My blog entries are really not much like reviews.  I think they are very different actually!  More just my random thoughts about all sorts of things - some of which just happen to be of the intimate sort.  ; )

I've read providers blogs and I know that they are often about everyday life and observations, but you did indicate a specific subject matter, so that's all I was referring to - not your entire blog in general.

It is possible to talk about sex without writing a blow by blow (yeah, pun intended) description of the encounter. The impression I got from the initial post was that this is what Lauren is talking about.
In any event, a review written by a guy who paid for the encounter is going to be an entirely different POV than what you would get from the lady who was involved in it.

it's an account of a provider having sex with guys who are not you, no matter who writes it or how graphic it is.

Personally it doesn't bother me;in fact when ever I get together with her I'll ask how some of her "dates" went.

I think Runningman hit the nail on the head when he said, "...I wonder if I'm not as exciting, or I'm not pleasing her as much as other clients are.  Maybe that is my insecurity, but that is the only thing that has bothered me when I read reviews or blogs of a provider I like."  Bingo!  Please remember that some of us are hobbyists because of massive insecurity issues.  Some of us believe that we are so inadequate that the only thing we can offer a woman is money.  I'm not saying that I necessarily fall into this category, but many of us really do.  So posting a blog detailing your sexual olympics may not be the best idea, business-wise.  You could risk scaring away the losers (who are often the best clients).  If you post stories to gush about the wonderful encounters you've had, some guys will feel unable to compete.  If you post to complain about the poor sexual experiences you've had, some guys will feel you are impossible to please and they won't bother to try.  You're screwed either way!  

Does this affect everyone?  Of course not!  Consider the legions of men who hobby with porn stars.  These men know for a FACT that their date for the evening has probably had more traffic going through her private parts than the Holland Tunnel, and they're still willing to shell out $2,000 for the privilege.  To each their own.

Personally, I have no opinion.  I probably wouldn't mind seeing you regardless of your blog content.  I wouldn't care if you're doing MFM, FMF, or HFH (H= Horses LOL).  In fact, that last one sounds like something I'd like to read about!

That could be a bad sign.  It sounds like that guy has strong feelings for you.  I've had those feelings before.  It's better to be a bit more detached.  

-- Modified on 10/13/2007 10:52:39 PM

So, here's the blog entry I'm talking about so that everyone knows just what I'm referring to.

I don't think it sounds much like most typical reviews that men write.  Nor do I think it's all that graphic. . .  

Turn on?  Off?  Nothing at all?

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Wow! What a night in my bedroom! And living room. . . and entry way. . .

I did it. My first MFM threesome.

Well, sort of. There were three people involved, but it wasn't a complete threesome.

Read on.

Let me start off by saying that in general, I prefer intimate one on one times with someone whom I've developed a genuine connection to on some level. I love it when you know each other and can have fun and learn what really works for each other.

BUT. . .

I have been wanting to do a MFM threesome for some time now. It's always been a turn on for me. I've actually even been thinking about who my top choices were to fill the two male spots. : ) The first spot was easy in my mind. I actually asked that man if he would be willing to help me out, and he said maybe - but more so because it was something I really wanted than because he wanted it, so I'm not sure that will happen. It's a shame though, because man does that man turn me on!

But, back to last Sunday night. This first experience came to be when one friend of mine expressed an interest in being part of this with me because he liked the idea of a moderate amount of participation as well as watching me with someone else. So, as sort of a spur of the moment decision I figured, what the heck? This would be a good way to warm up to trying this thing all the way.

I contacted a friend of mine who I knew would be interested in helping me out. He happens to be a black guy (color doesn't really matter, other than that I think the difference in the skin colors when put together in a sexual situation can be very erotic.) whom I had had a "friends with benefits" type relationship with about a year ago, but then had moved onto a friends only status because things had started to get a little sticky as relationships sometimes do. But still, the decision for us to stop being intimate was mine, and I knew he would jump at the chance to get some benefits back in our relationship! LOL There certainly was some added excitement due to the fact that I hadn't slept with my friend in about a year, but it had been great when we were active FWB!

So, all was set to go. My first friend and I went out for a nice dinner around 6pm Sunday night and I was already getting excited about what was to come, but also nervous, so I had a few yummy frozen watermelon flavored drinks with dinner. : ) And when we got back to my place around 7:30, I mixed up some Malibu and pineapple and continued to work on getting that wonderful buzz that feels so good and makes everything else so much fun, as well as making me more bold because my self-conscious feelings all but disappear.

My FWB was to be there at 8pm and I spent the next half hour trying to get everything ready; I put my couch together so it formed a huge semi-circle,which I thought would be great for some fun that was yet to come, had to have the right lighting and the right music, etc. Before I knew it, he was there and the anticipation of what was to come was incredible!

The three of us sat and chatted a little bit, but I honestly don't remember a thing we talked about. Probably due to equal parts alcohol and nervousness. But, what I do remember is that I wanted to just skip over some of the awkwardness of the whole situation, so after a little while I just crawled over to my friend and started kissing him and that started the ball rolling!

The rest of the evening was filled with fun and really hot times for all three of us! Talking to both men after the evening was over, I realized that they each had a great time and probably the best thing was that no one ever felt left out of the excitement. Even when one of the guys wasn't actively involved for a little while, he was still enjoying the show and was soon to join in on his own or have me shift my attention back to him - or both men!

I was sorry when my FWB had to leave, and I can remember him pushing me up against the wall by my door, (probably getting me back for pushing him up against my closet door just a few minutes earlier. . . ) for just a few more minutes of deep kissing since neither one of us wanted to evening to end. I could feel in more ways than one that he didn't want to go! ; ) But, like all good things, it had to come to an end.

I believe a huge part of why everything worked out so well was because we all felt relatively comfortable with each other and I felt very comfortable with both men. This is not an experience I'd want to do with someone I didn't know well.

After closing the door on my friend, I walked back to my bed to snuggle and chat with the man who was left in my bed. We both thought the evening had gone splendidly well, and I was already wondering how long it would be before I would get to do it again!

is fine by me.

Besides, can there ever be too much erotic literature?

whether you like it or not,MFM arouses jealousy in most males and FMF in most females.Keep it in mind if your clientele is mostly male.

I would liken it to the old story about trying to relieve an itch in the eye by rubbing it with a sharp stick.

i only would do a mfm threesome, if guys don't like it too bad. You shouldn't feel bad that you had a great time.

I think the noted sociologist/philosopher Paris Hilton said it best:

"That's hot."



filmat11

I don't find any eroticism in reading my ladies reviews.  My satisfaction comes two ways: confirmation that I've picked a winner, and joy that they are prospering.

This is akin to websites where a babe is shown (GOOD) with a guy or two (who has/have an erection). Bad news. Why? Because then  it's really about the other male erection, not just a hot babe.

Not here to see, or think about, another guy's erection. It's about hot female flesh and my erection. SORRY, but that's the truth. Not paying for anything else.

I would add that I get upset when I read a review that is not complimentary and the reviewer is nasty toward a lady I know for reasons I know would not be accurate.

Just my opinion...
B

But it's her blog. There are guys who will want to read about that sort of stuff and guys who won't.
Ultimately she has to write what's interesting to her and hopefully it will also be interesting to others as well.

I just don't think guys should get uptight over how graphic her depictions of sex are.  I was just pointing out that it couldn't be any more graphic than the stuff WE write.  So if the difference isn't content, it's POV, and why should that matter?  Would it make some guys feel better if another guy were describing the exact same actions?

It shouldn't matter as far as the content but I think with some guys it always will. Not sure of the reasons as it doesn't bother me at all but every body thinks a little differently. Of course, in the case of writing about threesome there may not be much to compare it to from a reviewer's POV. I'm guessing they are out there but I have never seen a review of a B/G/B session here on TER.

I would never have known her because reading reviews is how I found out about her to begin with.

But a guy really has to be turned on by a polyandrous woman's high sex drive. It sets me on fire. For some straight guys, two guys naked in a room is gay, no matter whether they're with a woman or not.

It's not going to be every guy's cup of sexual pleasure. Yet, my own sexual pleasure aside, I'd rather that providers write it, and document what the hobby is really like.

-- Modified on 10/15/2007 3:04:31 PM

I like reading about what providers think, and about what they're enjoying.  I'm under no illusions that I'm a lady's only client, after all.  I also don't have a problem with being in the same room with another guy; it doesn't trigger anything for me, and I know that I'm not going to take part in anything that isn't my idea.  I can say, "No thanks, I'm just here to be playing with her", and that's the end of the story.  (I like the idea of trying a DP sometime, but have no expectations that it's ever going to happen.)

For me, the "focus of an experience" is whatever I decide it's going to be.  If I decide that I'm going to focus on her left boob, or her asshole, or her shoes, then that's what will happen.  The presence of any other reasonably polite individuals will have no real effect on me -- if someone is so much of an asshole that he decides to make everyone's experience all about him, then he needs to not be a part of any scene I'm in.

You seem to be a classy lady and wrote that with class. In my opinion it was very G rated, but interesting too.