I'm in  my mid 50's, probably 30 lbs overweight, on BP and cholestral meds. I still love sex even though I'm not very good at any more....LOL.

I'm just kind of tired of spending $$$ to $$$$ per appointment and not being able to get a decent erection and if I do...popping in just a few minutes.

Just wondering if not masurbating for up to week before an appointments helps (seem to blow quickly when I do that) or beating off the day before helps you last longer (harder time getting it up then)

What works you other middle aged, overweight guys ?

The gist of tantra is to slow things down, get you to relax and enjoy your body.  There's no pressure to perform.

I quote a service offered by a "tantra teacher":

"As a Tantra teacher, relationship counsellor, sexual healer, and joumalist in the field of Tantra and conscious relationship, I have a wealth of more than 15 years of experience.

I offer:

-Male Ejaculation Mastery
-Full Body Orgasm, Multiple Orgasms
-Teaching the Goddess how to tap into her orgasmic energy 
-Yoni Massage and female ejaculation
-Tantric and Sensual Touch
-Romancing Your Tantric relationship 
-The Sacred Heart Space & Emotional Intimacy
-Tantric Lovemaking and Tantric Energy Orgasms
-Sexual/Spiritual Energy Circuits
-Conscious Relationship Training
-Intensifying Sexual Potency and Passion
-Sacred spot/prostate massage
-Ejaculation mastery 
-Goddess worship/ Coaching in female ejaculation for women
-Multi-orgasmic response and full body orgasm sessions
-Taoist erotic massage
-Breathing work, visualization and meditation techniques
-Skills to enhance intimacy
-Bath Ceremony 
-Self-pleasuring rituals
-Pelvic release bodywork

-Re-connective healing 

I address the following sexual issues:

・Premature Ejaculation 
・Performance anxiety
・Erectile Dysfunction
・Low Libido 

I coach men, women, and couples in private sessions that take place in my exquisite Sacred Urban Sanctuary, a safe, secure, 100% smoke-free environment."




All these to put a dick in a pussy!

Consumerism and modern society cock-blocked us! We are even intellectualizing sex!! I don't think that cavemen needed all that funny jargon... Neither IPods, IPads  , IPhones or antidepressant, anti stress meds,  anti erectile dysfunction pills...to fuck HARD!
Don't get me wrong I love my comfort ! I like all new tech gadgets... We are much luckier than cavemen intellectually and materially but not sure that we are sexually!

There's always a price to pay for luxury it cost modern males their balls.