he's about to get roasted here. Maybe he'll learn something.
I have this client. Ive seen him maybe 6-8 times. Hes a great guy, we exchange dozens of extremely hot, flirty emails up to our appointment day. He seems to like me a LOT.
BUT, the first time I saw him, we did the deed, hot session, then he became cold and basically told me to get the f*ck out 1 hour into our 2 hour appt. Made me feel like trash.
Then we began just scheduling shorter appointments. That took the sting away a bit, but he still abruptly kicks me out.
Whats odd is he's so awesome at first, (very much into pleasuring me, DATY, lots of kissing, etc) then BAM! He comes and its like Dr. Jekyll and My. Hyde.
He is under 40, high testosterone, so I guess this may have something to do with it.
Do any of you guys act like this after orgasm or providers experienced something like this?
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Just wanted to share an interesting story:
I have this client. Ive seen him maybe 6-8 times. Hes a great guy, we exchange dozens of extremely hot, flirty emails up to our appointment day. He seems to like me a LOT.
BUT, the first time I saw him, we did the deed, hot session, then he became cold and basically told me to get the f*ck out 1 hour into our 2 hour appt. Made me feel like trash.
Then we began just scheduling shorter appointments. That took the sting away a bit, but he still abruptly kicks me out.
Whats odd is he's so awesome at first, (very much into pleasuring me, DATY, lots of kissing, etc) then BAM! He comes and its like Dr. Jekyll and My. Hyde.
He is under 40, high testosterone, so I guess this may have something to do with it.
Do any of you guys act like this after orgasm or providers experienced something like this?
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The afteglow is part of the session, and a quite enjoyable part at that. This guy sounds like someone who hates himself for doing this and/or has serious buyer's remorse after he's done, and rather than own it he takes it out on the provider. Scary actually.
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I don't think there is any wrong with them leaving immediately after the appointment is over. they're not coming here because they want my conversation or they want to become my friend that's for sure. and I am a great conversationalist but I would never spend the hour they pay for doing anything but servicing them. I like to do conversation before and after that I don't count that as part of the hour.
to me that much money is not given to someone to listen to them talk.
and if there are any breaks in the actual action part of the session I like to make sure I'm still working I will do pedicures massage maybe offer refreshments after.
$300 is a ridiculous amount of money to some people including me
the day I sit there and receive 300 hour and think it's because somebody wants to listen to me talk.
I am totally perfectly okay with them leaving the minute they get off.
I think they are paying you to service them and the whole talking thing I don't think that's really relevant to doing an appointment with someone.
if someone wants to stay after and talk to me about anything I will talk to them for as long as they like.
the last thing on my way I am going to do is be rude to a person that just gave me $300!
if they want to get up and leave great if they want to stay and talk that's great too'
either way they are the customer and I am here to try to make them happy if they want to come in and do it and then leave or if they want to come in and then stay in talking about a cup of coffee whatever works for them that's fine I'm just happy I just got my money'
The issue is not the leaving, it's that Dr. Jekyll blew his nut and turned into Mr. Hyde
...and saw one or more texts from his wife?
....... friendship with benefits type of relationship with a lady, she would get her orgasm and want me out the next minute. I later found out she was bipolar
And being with you isn't the release/escape it used to be for him anymore.
The guilt angle raised by someone is interesting. No way to know unless you ask him/he volunteers the info.
ADJ;
I agree with your comment that it isn't the lady but rather something in his makeup or background. But I don't agree that it's the possibility the release/escape isn't there for him anymore. The lady stated that this behavior was there from the very first time she saw him.
I believe she should tell him that she doesn't want to see him again. IMO, this type of behavior has too high a possibility of escalating into a dangerous situation for her. Surely, her safety is more important than having someone like this as a client?
The guy may well have guilt issues regarding him seeing providers. He may loath himself for it and one could speculate many possible reasons for that.
I know if I were a provider I would drop the guy immediately.
Regards.......RR
i love cuddeling up afterwards.
Maybe he feels guilty (violating his faith)?
Doesn't have anything to do with you.
Nothing to do with high testosterone either.
Deprived, not insensative
Girl, seriously? You saw him after he told you to GTFO? I sure hope you didn't refer him as "Ok" to other ladies without telling them that he treats you like dirt after he blows his load.
SMH
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If he hit you would you ever see him again?
Think about it.
Now think about this. A person who is demeaning you repeatedly is being emotionally abusive. It stung enough for you to need to talk about it, right? But it was disguised enough not to make you leave. Many ladies would never see him again.
There comes a lot of damage in emotional abuse because it is not as easily caught because of a few reasons.
1. You didn't feel physical pain - because he didn't hit you (physically).
2. They are NICE to you when it's convenient for THEM. And they are MEAN to you when it's convenient for THEM
3. They can manipulate you into thinking they're not abusive.
4. YOU can manipulate yourself into thinking they're not abusive.
5. You stay and take 6 or 7 blows instead of 1… because "He's actually a really great guy otherwise." Keep it up, and you just may take the next level in another client.
I bet you feel humiliated being chased out of the room that way. I know I would be.
You have a choice in who you see. Don't get jaded because you let anyone treat you less than the person you are - a person worthy of respect and uplifting words. Surround yourself with more friends and clients up uplift you --- as much as you can --- and you won't find yourself accepting that shit. Because you don't deserve it no matter how much someone pays you.
xoxo
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He is in a relationship and he feels instant remorse.
If you don't feel comfortable, stop seeing him.
Just remember., we are being paid for the mans needs within the time frame. If they want us to leave, we just leave. Bye! Bye! 
So he has an orgasm, becomes cold and somewhat mental.
I can only speak for myself, but NFW would that happen with me.
Sounds like you need to drop this guy before anything really bad happens to you.
Not towards you as an individual but in general. Once he gets his rocks off he probably starts thinking about the money he just spent. Maybe he has some misdirected resentment towards providers.
Guy is very asshole like in emails and phone calls very demanding and rude but a total sweet heart in person a lot of time I think its not the same person.
he's in a relationship... once he cums, his conscious gets the better of him. But sister, you don't need the drama. I felt a bit of it at first... if he hasn't gotten a handle on it yet, he's not going to. Bye, Bye!
Hes got a problem and its becoming my problem because I am on here talking about it.
Yeah I will let this guy go. The fun emails and flirting is not worth leaving appointments feeling like crap over and over.
Good move! There are some things which just aren't worth it.
Yeah I will let this guy go. The fun emails and flirting is not worth leaving appointments feeling like crap over and over.
he did not tell me to get out but he behavior changed 360 degrees.
Before the appointment, it was steamy erotica, after he came he got up and couldn't get cleaned up fast enough and was out the door so fast...all I could do was shake my head.
I got the feeling that he was ashamed of doing the deed.
I was called for a reference and told the lady exactly what I experienced and he acted the same way with her.
like that. It was a long time ago so I don't remember much. But I do remember that he was a killer.
I was also a kid that remembers that my aunt opened a place to sell food and beer. There was this guy, a real gentleman. One little beer and he turned into an asshole being rude to her. After that I've seen lots of people who can't handle liquor or drugs.
The guy you're talking about seems to have problems. He must be one of the few who doctors (Phil)
think we all are, and hate women. Like the guy in the movie. He felt guilty and filthy after.
Scary
Be careful.
PS: What the good doctor would say "He hates his mother cause she was a provider and he was abused by her and her bf".
But there are also some crazy providers out there (Not TER) who seem that they don't want to be there.
They just do it because they need the money...maybe for drugs. They just laid there like they're dead or go crazy or cry or whatever. I'm glad I haven't dealt with crazies in a long long time and never again.
I am surprised you ever repeated with him after the first time. The man has some weird issues. You don't need to be part of that.
Did he say " gtfo" or is that just his attitude? I'm wondering because after I come I often lose all interest in sex almost instantly. If I didn't enjoy the company of the girl I was with, at that point, I might leave or ask her to leave. That has never happened and I certainly would act like a gentleman if it did and not tell her to gtfo and act cold to her. But I also wouldn't see her again.
I've often wondered why I feel that way, I don't think it's guilt because the same thing happened with girls in civvie life.
I couldn't wait to get out of her apartment after I came. (Truth be told, she probably felt the same way.)
My take on it in retrospect is that I felt guilty about having done the deed and my mentality was like wanting to flee the scene of the crime.
Now-a-days I love to linger, at least till the allotted time is used up.
"this is the greatest experience I've ever had I hope it never ends, this girl is the greatest!" To: "if I advance the timing a few more degrees and enrichen the mixture I can get more hp at 8k rpm's" or "I really need to cut the grass when I get home" almost instantly. Some girls accused me of being indifferent after sex. I think I just lose interest and my mind wanders if she isn't interesting in other ways. But I don't think I was ever mean about it. Something to think about anyhow.
he's about to get roasted here. Maybe he'll learn something.
I have this client. Ive seen him maybe 6-8 times. Hes a great guy, we exchange dozens of extremely hot, flirty emails up to our appointment day. He seems to like me a LOT.
BUT, the first time I saw him, we did the deed, hot session, then he became cold and basically told me to get the f*ck out 1 hour into our 2 hour appt. Made me feel like trash.
Then we began just scheduling shorter appointments. That took the sting away a bit, but he still abruptly kicks me out.
Whats odd is he's so awesome at first, (very much into pleasuring me, DATY, lots of kissing, etc) then BAM! He comes and its like Dr. Jekyll and My. Hyde.
He is under 40, high testosterone, so I guess this may have something to do with it.
Do any of you guys act like this after orgasm or providers experienced something like this?
-- Modified on 2/9/2014 4:21:50 PM