I am returning to the hobby after some time away. And, since returning I want to ask the providers out there of an idea I want to make one of my rules.

I'm thinking that I want to start being more selective in who I see and give donations to. So, before setting up an appointment for a session alone, I want to have an initial meeting first. Lunch or Dinner. From this meeting I will learn two things. Does she look like her pics?  And most importantly, her attitude.

So, my question is:

Would a provider agree to a lunch or dinner in her area without wanting her normal hour fee?
Would having a free meal suffice? I guess this sounds like an audition, but I just want to know that her attitude is good, before making the investment.

It doesn't hurt to ask, however, my best guess is that you will not get a very enthusiastic response to this idea.

Read the reviews, do some homework, investigate your choices and you won't have any problems with making a good choice.

Just my opinion...
B

Unfortunately, giving free consultations like a lawyer would not be worthwhile unless the lady had an office in which to schedule and conduct mutual interviews.  Unless you come with the honest potential of a multi-hour, overnight,  travel date or a long-term arrangement, asking her to get ready, drive to and from the location and spend time with you is quite a lot to ask for without compensation and quite unrealisitic.  

I would suggest you find a lady that interests you quite a lot, read her site through, read her reviews and then contact her.  If you are looking for a muti-hour date or a long-term arrangement, you hit it off via email, perhaps she would be willing to meet before scheduling as an initial investment on her part.  

If you are looking for a one time, couple of hours date, I would suggest you pay her the rate she asks for in exchange for her time regardless of the location and intention of your meeting.  

Best,

Kate

in my hometown, everyone has to take me to lunch or dinner where I can see how they treat the waiter and be seen in a public place. The times that I took a client who seemed a little impatient with the date are the ones I regret seeing.

As Kate mentioned, if you were doing a long session such as a weekend excursion, I'd think she'd have no problem meeting for dinner at all. But you'll be hard pressed to find a provider willing to sit through an entire dinner or lunch as an audition for  a 1 hour/$300-$400 appt. And no, a free meal isn't going to suffice, get a grip on yourself!

You might have a little better luck (and I emphasize "little" here because you are still pushing your luck) if you tone it down to a 15 minute meeting over coffee, or a quick drink, which coincides with her schedule.

It probably depends on how much she needs the business...

An established provider with regular clientele would probably not make the time for free...or perhaps even have the time to spare in most instances.  

If you are looking to set time with newer unknown ladies, you might be successful in offering a meal...but you would probably have greater success in offering a reduced donation plus meal.  

Good luck!

xoM

So...
1.5 hours showering, shaving, washing hair, applying makeup, blowdrying hair

.5 hours each way drive time

1-2 hours spent having a meal


Total of 3-4 hours.




All of that for a POTENTIAL date?

No way in a hot hell. A free meal does nothing for me, because really, it isn't free. I'm losing money in the time I'm spending with you and, honestly, I'm probably not enjoying myself. Let's face it. We're actresses. When I'm dining with a client (no matter how much I adore him) , I have to be on stage. I cannot talk about my boyfriends, my family, my dog, my daily worries, or the things in my life which really matter. And a meal is how much? $10-$20? I surely hope you don't that $20 is adequete compensation for any woman's time IN THIS REALM. If so, I'm disappointed in how little you think of providers. Most of us who frequent this site are not desperate crack whores sucking any available cock. I feel myself quite wonderfully. I certainly don't need you to intervene anytime soon with your "free meal".

My advice would be to do a phone interview (of course you will not be able to ask questions about type of services provided) and ask that she send current photos via e-mail.  This will get you a feeling for whether you want to meet and won't waste too much of her valuable time.

The opportunity is generally very slim. I've only been to do it just once and only because it was her requirement; she considered herself a "non-pro" and was doing it for a couple of months; she needed the physical attraction before she would agree to get intimate with you. I was very lucky to have that opportunity and the experience was AWESOME. It felt like a real date. We wound up spending an hour having dinner and carried on a great conversation. The exciting part of that encounter was wondering the whole time during dinner whether you're going to be accepted. It turned out to be one of the most romantic paid dates that I've ever had. Future dates with her didn't compare to the first one because after she's known me, she said we could skip the dinner part and get down to business. LOL.

Why on earth would a reputable lady agree to do this? Do you think we're starving or something? I'm not trying to be a bitch here, but there's some flawed logic going on here.  Why would it make sense for a lady with great reviews and a thriving business to "audition" for you, when she could be spending that time with a client who actually wants to reimburse her for her time?  IT doesn't make sense at all.  Dinner dates are a possibility, but you do have to reimburse us for our time.

At least, that is my perspective on it.

Best wishes,
Tamara

Meeting first is fine if the young ladies schedule permits it.  However, plan on paying probably a slightly reduced rate (nothing is for free) remember we are paying for their time.  I think it is a good way to break the ice.  I only do overnights, generally I would start with dinner and then retire together for the night.  But regardless, I will have done my homework before I ever booked her in the first place.

As providers it is our job to provide the absolute most and accurate information for you to make an educated decision.  Quality providers are well aware of this and do everything we can to make sure you know what you're getting into.  

That said, we have been forced to develop the fine art of providing an awesome experience while dodging clients who will do anything in the world to screw us out of our gift.

I made ONE attempt to 'meet' first. The client subsequently forced himself on me to the point of almost sexual assault, threw 20 bucks at me and left.  A few weeks later there was a map to a catholic church taped to my front door with a note that admonished me to go there and repent.

For every GREAT client we have, unfortunately for fairly new providers like me...there are 5 who'll do anything in the world to steal from us.  Choose a provider who gives freely of whatever information you need to make a decision...and then go see her.  With all of the reviews floating around, there is absolutely no need to 'meet' us first.  We HATE being put into a position where we need to discuss gifts and donations...because it's all about the GFE.  Please develop some modicum of understanding of the etiquette surrounding our desire to provide what you want without having to worry about whether or not you'll come through on your end.

In Vegas we've got providers that offer a "get aquainted" deal - dinner, lunch, or drinks, at a reduced rate, not free.

I understand this gentleman's plight - like many -- but I tried the lunch deal at first and it got exhausting. I really don't have time to schedule those in, especially when I hardly get to see my friends and family. But I wish you good luck in your search. If you do your homework at home (via computer and phone calls), you shouldn't have a problem meeting the right lady.

Hugs,
Ciara

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Many you'll inspire an innovation in the commercial sex industry -- provider open house?

Go to it!

to lasting and meaningfull relations with the girl of my dreams... who I met through TER!  I am sadly disillusioned  

Some ladies offer a meet & greet option, where for a very reduced rate, you can spend an hour of get acquainted time at a bar or restaurant.
Sometimes, it can be quite a positive encounter.
But unless you're planning on a longer encounter, looking for a first-date dinner-date belongs on match.com.


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I alone can have the dinner date without paying - I chew (pardon the pun) up to 2 hours of local area escorts time with my dinner dates.  We go to really really cool places and I am proud to say that sometimes I spend up to $10 for the meal.   And after that, IF the mood is appropriate I will spring for a reduced rate 1/2 hr. session (afterall - the gal just got dinner out of me).  

Oh, and if it doesn't work out - well there is always the review.....

Oh yea, I usually ask her if I can film the whole episode - I have this internet video site and the dates are fun to watch - kinda like the outtakes of "blind date" - without the nerdy host....

Ususally I do dress up for these occasions - by wearing my sweat clothes from the gym, they are actually washed that week!  and I try to brush my tooth- but I realize that ordering the Cheeseburger with extra onions may be a turn off....  Also I demand the newly added activity of rimming - on a first date just to see how far the lady will go - and I do try to get rid of the kling-ons but it is hard because of all the hair....   so, bud, member this is my domain - and you are intruding......

cause with all my good manners and fun luvin ways the chicks jus dig me...

I would have received a free meal -- you bast!@#!  Just kidding!

Hugs,
Ciara

she wasn't the one who talked some schlub outta a $5K loan, was she?

and I think others who tend to prefer longer times sometimes did too.   Sorta a package - commit to a couple hours, get another free in advance.

For those who get off on the chemistry, it works well.

That's the entire experience, of course!  And for a quality lady's companionship, it's full price, whether it's dinner, any other consensual activities with their time, or any combination of various events.  Very amusing post indeed.

Reude, you are making it difficult for me to manuever here!

this is too funny.

I do the dinner date in my hometown so I can run from them if they are too weird

I start my first tour on Feb 1st.
I am having to rely on others for transportation so I don't know how many weirdos I will run into

a trip to the local strip club... then relax - you are in capable hands - mine!  seriously, if you get to Philly - I would line up to meet you.

Its my favorite place !LOL
Ask Mr Fisher !

You will have better luck with asking if she will consider a reduced rate for the first meeting than with wanting a lady to spend the hrs getting ready, driving to the place where you will be meeting, blocking off time from entertaining a paying client who is a definate in favor of dinner with a maybe type possibility, to say nothing of the time the lady has spent with pre-screening (I know I would not go to meet a gentleman for dinner even without first doing a complete screening). The suggestions of talking with the lady on the phone (or even in a chat program such as yahoo messanger etc) is one that can give you some insight as to her personality just as reading the reviews both here and elsewhere (most ladies have links to each review site she is featured in) But please respect us and the fact that we have bills to pay and a job to do by not expecting us to meet with you for lunch or dinner and not have any compensation for our time.

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I agree with Kate. Don't start with a $3,000 overnight with travel -- pay for an hour. If that fee means your kids starve you shouldn't be in the hobby. This is for play money only.

BTW Kate, you are hot! Ever get down to DC?

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and every now and then - one of these - like this one... really makes me LOL!  quite loudly...  peoople ask....   what do I say.... "Sorry I am disrupting your day - but you would not belive what the Ciara's are up to now!  We are all going to Dennys!"  lol!!! ROFLMAO!!!  in triplicate - anyone else with this problem!?