Seriously, someone recently said that to me during sex.  I've had guys who wanted to endlessly tease, hold off, etc but never quite like this.  

I'd only met this guy a couple of times prior, and each time he had said or requested something a bit odd.  
Not, "I wanna lick raspberry jam off your armpits" odd, just..... well, a bit left of center.  

We were fucking when he said this, and I was really getting into it; so that statement was like a big bucket of cold water being dumped on me.

And I did not know how to react.  I was thinking, "well okay, I guess I'll just lay here and smile at ya then!' because I didn't know what else to do!  I mean, I did still participate, I wasn't really just laying there like a cold fish..... although I was tempted to do just that.

Afterwards, he was giving me a strange look.  I did NOT ask why.  He'd already made me feel uncomfortable, so I figured I probably didn't want to know what else was on his mind. LOL.  
Because at this point, I'd already mentally placed him on my "Do not see again!" list.

If any other providers have had this happen to them, I'm very interested to hear your thoughts and how you handled it.  

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say that!!!  Isn't that the reason we do this....lol , I love to see a hot lady quiver, it makes my day!!

I've never had that happen it's always the opposite but I did see (first and last time) a man that wanted a "dry" blowjob and didn't want me to look at him,hug him, touch him, or anything like that, wanted me to me on my knees the whole time. Needless to say he's on my Never ever see list. He was literally treating me like a street walker from the 80s on 42nd street. Me, I was being the worse provider ever after treatment like that. Purposely I kept on looking at the clock....purposely and after 40mins on the ground I said "With all due respect sir fuck this, I'm getting rug burn"  I don't treat clients that way but if that's the way they are going to act I act the same way. Shame on me, I should have asked him to leave. There was something not correct about that individual but hey you live and learn, I guess.

Scary guy, if I see please feel free to come as often as you can, and let me know so I can enjoy it with you.

and not "play", regardless of money? (yes, I'll agree the demand not to cum was a bit weird).

Sorry, Deb, I generally love your posts and positions but after reading your "It isn't fair" thread farther down the page I'm left scratching my head.

Arguments like "It is just work", "We can't choose our clients", etc... just seem to fall on their face when your next words are "...I'm really getting into it" and "...Do Not See Again List". Apparently, while it is work, you DO have the ability to get sexual enjoyment (and expect it) from it, and you DO have the ability to choose your partners via screening and DNS lists (OK, not specifically and individually, but within bounds for sure). I'm pretty sure providers look to build a group or regulars that are most enjoyable for "work".  

I don't disagree with the lying and deception beef, but fairness? Maybe what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Sorry to sidetrack your thread a bit; I just found the juxtaposition of the two (at least my perception of that) quite interesting and thought-provoking

you can clearly put that one in the weirdest of the weird category.

Why scratch your head? It's simple - a provider can screen, choose, act, fake orgasms and smiles all she wants BUT, she should still expect to have a partner that at least hopes she has a good time. If you are with a woman and she seems to be doing everything the way you like, you're having a good time and really getting into it and, she says, "I don't want you to cum." how do you take that? For me, at that moment, if I think she's serious, I'm deflating, trying to keep it going so I can finish and get going. What a turn off. No head scratching for me - our providers deserve to have a good time too and they should have the right to the chance.  

One exception - When it is agreed to in advance!

one of the greatest pleasures i have is seeing the look of ecstasy on a woman's face as i diddle or do her.  whether or not she is faking it, the fact that she goes to the trouble to make me think i am a stud, or the fact that she actually cums, is one of the highlights of any session i am having.

and especially if the woman is good looking, which all of mine are

I have demanded that they beg permission from me before they come... this usually involves a Hitachi or some such device, some restraints, and a very submissive partner that you have seen before.  

Often it has the opposite effect - as intended.  I will say that the timing of this instruction is critical - too early and it's just weird.  You want to do this about 15-30 seconds before it's too late after a fairly lengthy build up..

Ok what's a "dry blowjob"? with a condom, or with your hand instead of mouth? I give up... just tell me.

...you misheard him? Cuz that's just a really weird thing to say. Also, the way he was looking at you afterwards.  If that is what he said, who knows what was in his head. Maybe in his fantasy you were gonna beg him to let you cum, and he was gonna eventually give you more orgasms than you can stand, like Customer was talking about. Maybe he wanted you to say well I don't want you to cum either. A lot of guys are really into T&D. Whatever the hell was going on, he shoulda talked to you about it first.  

I'm with Lumberman and BPJ. Paid for or not, I love to see her having orgasms. Seriously, if I don't believe she had a good time, then I have less of a good time. I know no two women are exactly the same so I have no problem with her saying do it this way, don't focus on that so much but do this, etc. and I usually tell her that. I want her to feel good.

But that's just my particular attitude. I wouldn't say a provider has a right to expect that from every John. If some guys sort of say " ya know what, the women in my civie life are really hard to get to orgasm, I'm here cuz I don't need that pressure, I'm on paid time so I don't care if you cum", that would never be my attitude, but I would totally get it. I don't think a provider would really have anything to complain about there, if he showed her complete respect and didn't make her feel unsafe or uncomfortable. But, that's "I don't care if you cum."  "I don't want you to cum" is just creepy and fucked up.

Zenmaster you make some very good points. I still think the couple in question from the other thread should be having an open discussion and hopefully he makes these points to her if she freaks out, he was wrong to hide it from her, but you make a good point.

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Is a thought that had truly never ever crossed my mind before, and now I can hardly get it out of my head.  I just may need to bring a jar of raspberry jam along to my next session!

For me, the sex is better if the woman is getting her rocks off, too.